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LTC (Join to see) - Sad but true! I initally put this comment on the wrong thread -- Rowan & Martin...
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Leadership :

{ Not even sure if you’ll see the response }
1SG Dean Mcbride (MPER) (CPHR) Integrity is not an issue on my behalf or “owning up” to my postings.

I stated a FACT about @LTC Stephen Conway continued attempting to throw insults when responding to my postings, that’s all my response was and is about the juvenile responses from him.

If your point about an apology was in regards to taking the higher ground and staying on task, I respect your response.

SOURCE : https://constitution.congress.gov/browse/essay/amdt1_4_1/

A better teachable moment for ALL of Rally Point, from yourself would have been to call us BOTH on the carpet, and explain why the sniping/name calling is unnecessary and unproductive … that would have been a much better approach.

I’m always open to constructive criticism, I’m not open to condescension.


Four Personas of Self-Righteous
Shaming
Beware!

1.) How can you make sure you are intervening in a way that is productive?

7 min read • May 23, 2023

SOURCE : https://kimmalonescott.medium.com/four-personas-of-self-righteous-shaming-24c95f4c9778


2.) An Apology Without Change Is Manipulation

Apologies have power. Not all apologies are genuine. Sometimes, people use sorry as a weapon, not a remedy.

Abusers often exploit this, offering apologies without actual change. These aren’t genuine apologies; they’re manipulation tactics. Any counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist worldwide will attest that an apology without change is manipulation.

SOURCE : https://www.makinwellness.com/an-apology-without-change-is-manipulation/


3.) Saying Sorry Is a Privilege

Often when people apologize for bad behavior, it’s actually a selfish act.

Collectively, we view “I’m sorry” as a service to the party who was harmed — and sometimes it is, because we want to know that person is experiencing remorse and taking responsibility.

But an apology, and especially a request for forgiveness, can also be a sneaky way for the person doing harm to attempt to feel better about themselves at the other person’s expense. That’s the reason it can feel awkward when someone asks you to accept their apology, either explicitly or implicitly.

Even if their apology is sincere and genuine, it can feel like a self-serving act.

SOURCE : https://boodaism.com/sorry-is-a-privilege/


4.) When Not to Apologize

High-conflict people rarely apologize, but they want you to.

KEY POINTS
* Apologies are complicated when high-conflict people are involved.

* HIgh-conflict people often demand apologies when, in fact, others set reasonable limits on them.

* It's often better to explain what happened and commit to preventing it in the future.

SOURCE : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-of-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/202309/when-not-to-apologize?amp

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[ “It's often better to explain what happened and commit to preventing it in the future.”

* Demanding Apologies for Appropriate Behavior

I.) ** Since high-conflict people are offended by a setting of boundaries. It’s not unusual for them to demand an apology from the other person, even if that person is being very appropriate.

* 1SG Dean Mcbride (MPER)
{ “deserves an apology.” }


II.) ** They may apply all-or-nothing thinking and refuse to do anything (like their share of the work or seeking a solution to a problem) until the other person apologizes. However, that is not likely to happen.

* 1SG Dean Mcbride (MPER)
{ “CPL LaForest Gray - Please take me off your distribution list. I don't wish to maintain communication with anybody that will not acknowledge their mistakes or transgressions. You tend to point fingers at others that do the same as you... Two wrongs do not make a right!” }

* 1SG Dean Mcbride (MPER)
{ “Calling LTC Stephen Conway an immature non-fully developed adult child was not acceptable and he deserves an apology.” }


III.) ** Reasonable people should certainly not apologize for reasonable behavior. This just encourages unrealistic expectations from those with high-conflict personalities and rewards them for their inappropriate behavior.

* LTC Stephen Conway
{ “He was a weirdo Like you and this livid female dog Leftist.”

“He is just as crazy as a female dog who's upset That president trump wasn't killed.” } ]
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