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Lt Col Charlie Brown
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Good morning Col Burroughs. I can always tell pretty quickly when someone comes to me for counseling if they see themselves as a victim or as a survivor. They often both come for confirmation but one comes from a position of increasing strength while the other from weakness. It takes courage , strength and determination to move from one state of being to the other and I sometimes find that people are unwilling to invest in themselves to get there. And that's what it is: an investment in oneself. Are you invested in yourself? Are you a victim or a survivor?



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GySgt Thomas Vick
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If anyone can get the job done "you can".
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SSG Samuel Kermon
SSG Samuel Kermon
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Great point.
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Capt Jeff S.
Capt Jeff S.
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Unfortunately, our country suffers from people who have a victim mentality. They can't do anything for themselves and are dependent on others to do everything for them. They riot, loot, and burn our cities all the while whining about social justice and completely oblivious to the injustices the perpetrate on others who have nothing to do with them. : /

I think they are victims by choice, because it beats being responsible and having a job. They'd rather vote for a living than work.

Being a survivor IS a choice. We expect life to be fair, but it isn't. Life doesn't give everyone the same talents or opportunities, but you play your hand with the cards you're dealt and do the best you can with what you've got. In poker, you can win with nothing in your hand, or you can fold.

I admire people that don't complain and who always do their best regardless of the circumstances, and regardless of who's watching! I'm pushing 60 and I don't feel that old. My cousin is 58 and she has had a very rough life. When she was young she was this skinny little thing. She was bubbly and always laughing. She comes from a poor family and has always worked low-paying jobs her whole life but she has always worked hard. She's never asked for help but we help her out. She did landscaping jobs on the side to pull in extra money. Nothing in life was ever handed to her on a golden platter. She's had to earn everything she's gotten throughout life. Even though she has had a lot of stress put on her, she dealt with it and shielded her family from that worry.

Last year my cousin was diagnosed with CLL (a form of leukemia that has no cure). Her husband (a former Army warrant officer who got out and became a cop) has stress-related health issues. Life has always been an uphill struggle for them. He recently got a job as head of security for a hospital chain and now has benefits and health insurance. Her medical bills were stacking up and they might have lost their house had he not landed that job. Last week, her colon ruptured and she almost died. The doctor said it looked like someone took a shotgun to her insides. She had several holes in her colon. Now she has a colostomy bag to deal with. I ache for her because she wore a tank of RoundUp on her back and it leaked on her for 15 years. She got CLL as a result of exposure to Glyphosate (the active ingredient in RoundUp), which is a DNA mutagen. Monsanto will tell you that it's harmless as table salt and that it's just a dessicant but tell that to her. She believed it, and now she's paying for it.

Despite all that she's been through, not once has she felt sorry for herself. Not once has she said, "Why me?!!" How many of us would handle adversity with the grace that she has? SHE! has literally been through hell, stares death in the face every day as she battles CLL, and has made a choice to be a SURVIVOR!
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SFC Chuck Martinez
SFC Chuck Martinez
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I guess that having an opinion is a fault everybody on this planet has. We all go through life always thinking of the best way to do things and by God, in a war zone their are sure a lot of opinions, on which route to take, what equipment to carry, or even the best way to defeat an enemy force, I prefer the decision making process. All have the right to right to put in their two two cents (opinions) which might have 100 ways to do things. Many have their own way in approaching issues or problems. I see opinions as a toolbox, you look inside of it and try to figure out which tool you are going to use.

In the civilian world, there are many people who live happy lives and many like Jeff said, have a victim's mentality. To make things clear, the Victim mentality is an acquired personality trait in which a person/s tend to think or consider themselves as a victim. If that is the case, we are all victims. during the WWl, WWll, Korea, Vietnam, a person that is harm, injured, burned, killed in an accident or murdered, had a accident and the list goes on, are all victims

The bottom line is, all mention above were victims. Here is where we separate victims from hoodlums, criminals, killers, scammers, and people who take advantage of others or just hurt others and they burn loot and more just because they can. Then like Cpt Jeff Schwager put it, they come out whining about social justice and are completely oblivious to the injustices they perpetrate on others who have nothing to do with them. One thing is for sure, once your heart stops beating, your were either a victim of a crime, KIA in wars, or murdered in the streets all across this country. Like LTC Charlie posted above, being a victim is not by choice because it's a random act, but over coming it and moving foreword is survival!
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Good R.E.D. Friday morning, Colonel Burroughs from a very cool overcast day here in the MetroWest Area of Greater Boston... 56° with 80% humidity & winds NNE 10 mph... I am just finishing up breakfast and my 1st cup of coffee... More coming when I go up to my office...

"Survivor Day!" Why Not?

My Personal Quote:
Being a survivor is hard... It is hard, because something of a critical nature has had to have happened to a person, so critical that it permeates the very essence of one's being... It takes "guts" to survive, to overcome, to persist, to live, and to succeed... Kerry Harkins, September 18, 2020

1) "There's a storm inside of us. I've heard many team guys speak of this. A burning. A river. A drive." - Marcus Luttrell - The Lone Survivor

2) "Though I can't change what happened, I can choose how to react. And I don't want to spend the rest of my life being bitter and locked up." - Tori Amos

3) "Laughter is the evidence that we're still here, the proof that our tragedies will not define us forever. Laughter is the language of the survivor." - Josh James

4) "One thing you who had secure or happy childhoods should understand about those of us who did not. We who control our feelings, who avoid conflicts at all costs, or seem to seek them. Who are hypersensitive, self-critical, compulsive, workaholic, and above all survivors. We are not that way from perversity, and we cannot just relax and let it go. We’ve learned to cope in ways you never had to." - Piers Anthony

5) "Being a survivor doesn't mean being strong - it's telling people when you need a meal or a ride, company, whatever. It's paying attention to heart wisdom, feelings, not living a role, but having a unique, authentic life, having something to contribute, finding time to love and laugh. All these things are qualities of survivors." - Bernie Siegel

6) "The way of acquiescence leads to moral and spiritual suicide. The way of violence leads to bitterness in the survivors and brutality in the destroyers. But, the way of nonviolence leads to redemption and the creation of the beloved community." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

Many people are survivors, but many more are not... Always remember that...

“Warriors will always be survivors and warriors have different uniforms; service members, veterans, first responders, caregivers, and military spouses/families – they have scars, but they are survivors!” — COL (Ret) Mikel Burroughs

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COL Mikel J. Burroughs
COL Mikel J. Burroughs
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Sgt (Join to see) - I know you personally understand what it takes to survive Kerry. Thanks for your personal quotes and all the ones you added this morning brother. Enjoy the rest of the day and your weekend Kerry...

"Place that "Badge of Courage" over your heart and whatever type of uniform you’re wearing; survive everything that life has to throw at you with confidence. May you never sit back and be a victim but charge ahead and become a warrior and survivor; may you always have the right attitude and positive outlook to face life's hardships and challenges "Head On!" May you continue to take the best possible care of your health; and keep your family safe, secure, happy, and healthy. You can survive, so trust yourself, and survive whatever is coming your way. Have a great "R.E.D Friday" and enjoy this upcoming weekend." - COL (Ret) Mikel Burroughs
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs Thank you very much for all your excellent comments, Mike!
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LTC Wayne Brandon
LTC Wayne Brandon
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Great stuff today, Kerry ~ Have a blessed evening!
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LTC Wayne Brandon You as well, Wayne...
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PO3 Phyllis Maynard
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs I take it one surviving day at a time. Each day has a new or different twist that challenges my heart.
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COL Mikel J. Burroughs
COL Mikel J. Burroughs
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PO3 Phyllis Maynard - I hear you Phyllis. I like that thought, "take it one surviving day at a time." Have wonderful evening and enjoy the next two weekend days...

"Place that "Badge of Courage" over your heart and whatever type of uniform you’re wearing; survive everything that life has to throw at you with confidence. May you never sit back and be a victim but charge ahead and become a warrior and survivor; may you always have the right attitude and positive outlook to face life's hardships and challenges "Head On!" May you continue to take the best possible care of your health; and keep your family safe, secure, happy, and healthy. You can survive, so trust yourself, and survive whatever is coming your way. Have a great "R.E.D Friday" and enjoy this upcoming weekend." - COL (Ret) Mikel Burroughs
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1LT Peter Duston
1LT Peter Duston
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One day at a time really works IF you work it!
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PO3 Phyllis Maynard
PO3 Phyllis Maynard
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1LT Peter Duston "Working It" is an absolute ingredient. I am committed because living my best life and enjoying everyday is important to me.
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