Posted on Feb 23, 2014
What do you think about spouses who wear their husband/wife's rank?
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There is nothing that bothers me more than a spouse who thinks that it is ok to order Soldiers because their husband/wife is higher in rank. First, if you want rank to order Soldier, join the Army. The real question is why do we allow our spouses to think it is ok? I completely understand the hard roll of a spouse and what they have to put up with.....Afghanistan, Iraq field problems, but that does not make them a Master Sergeant or Major or any other rank. That said, why do most units think that the commanders wife must be the FRG leader and then subsequently place everyone else in the proper (rank) appropriate pecking order? YOUR SPOUSES!
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If you were to ask my wife, she wouldn't even know what my rank was. haha<br><br>People, not just military spouses, take things too seriously.
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It irritates me, and when I see it I tell them that they should not be wearing those items identified to be part of the military uniform. my wife get irritated about it too knowing that it is not right .
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Last week my wife asked me what my rank was because she had to put it down on enrollment form. My wife has absolutely no interest in the military.
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MSG Davis,
I have experienced and witnessed this in my career and find it hilarious! I have been threatened by spouses of both senior and junior Soldiers. In nearly every case, I go talk to the Service Member about the incident and have always gotten an embarrassed apology.
What I found even funnier were instances where the CHILDREN of senior officers attempt to wear mommy or daddy's rank. While on Courtesy Patrol as a SSG, I detained and held a drunk and disorderly 17 year old for pickup by the MPs. He screamed that his father "the general" was going to end my career. I told him I would be sure to log that on my DA 1594 (Duty Officer's Log). LMAO
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When I was a Drill Sergeant (SSG) I had a BN Commanders wife (FRG leader) demand my wife's phone number. My wife had already previously stated to the FRG Leader that she was in college and didn't want to participate in the FRG. This spouse wanted to confront my wife about why she would not support the Soldiers by participating in the FRG. When I refused to give her my wife's cell number, she asked if I knew who she was. She went on to tell me that she was going to destroy me for not following her demands and that her husband would not tolerate this kind of disrespect. The BN Commander never said anything to me but based upon his wife's actions, he never said anything to her as well. I must admit, I don't see a BIG issue everywhere that requires major action but this event proves that it is out there. As NCOs and Officers I think we need to always be aware of how our spouses interact with Soldiers and leaders to be sure things like this do not happen.
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MAJ Samuel Weber
Well in your situation I would have spoken to the commander and 1SG and requested their support. They have gone and spoken to the BC on your behalf. Sometimes you would be surprised at what spouses do without their Soldiers knowing about it...
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MSG Cameron Davis
CPT Weber, actually I did talk to both the company commander and the 1SG and had both their support. As a SSG, I have no idea what happened behind closed doors but I never had an issue again. The sad thing was that I could still see it was happening to other Drill Sergeants and Soldiers.
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