If a soldier is late to formation everyday, is that worse than being overweight everyday? Why do leaders barely care about the donut eaters?

If a Soldier is late to formation everyday and no one picks up as to why, then that is a leadership failure. Somewhere a NCO should've taken him to the side, and asked "is there a problem with you being here on time"? I've had Soldiers come late and the child care center wasn't opened on time, and it was true. I can't counsel you if your reason is legit. (this was before everyone carried cellphones). If it is going to be an issue that can be a long term issue, then we'd have to sit and come to some kind of way where the Soldier can do what is needed to be done and make it to formation. I use that as an example being I've had single male and female Soldiers who are parents. Showing up late, and you don't have the "coolest excuse ever" will get you the "coolest 4856 ever". Continue on that path, and the PSG, 1SG, and CDR get involved, you will loose rank, and eventually be sent packing.
Overweight Soldiers deserve to be treated with the same respect their rank and abilities deserve. They are owed the chance to have their blood drawn, nutritionist seen, and find out if there is mitigating reasons that the Soldier is overweight. One thing that no one wants to talk about is the Soldiers who are overweight due to prescribed medications. AR600-9 states that you cannot be overweight due to medicines. I'm willing to bet my paycheck that was written LONG before we went to a long war and the troops are coming home from tours mentally destroyed. My Doc had me on 500-600mg of Seroquel. Another doctor couldn't believe I was even able to function with that much in me everyday. It completely dumbed me down, took feelings away, and I was a step or two above a child's mind. I would eat your car with maple syrup if it wasn't hidden in your garage. My unit was advised of this and my weight skyrocketed. I was freakin HUGE, and I've always been either borderline with tape or over it. But that medicine kept me calm, and in a very limited sense "functional". I was flagged, and it was the right thing to do, even though the medical professionals wrote letters advising them that as long as I'm on this medicine, I will only get bigger. By the time I was fully off that med, I had completed the Med board and retired. Can't go cold turkey on Seroquel. . The Army or military in general needs to rethink the overweight program in regards to anti-depressants and their effects on Soldiers. Hiding behind a regulation isn't helping anyone and just because the Solder is on it, doesn't mean he/she should be written off. Being fat and not caring is one thing. Being fat and you're eating out everyday, and you don't care? It'll be time to punch out and get a new job. Being fat and on medicines that are clinically noted to cause issues, needs to be taken into account.

Not meeting the standard is not meeting the standard.
However, as a First Sergeant, I take it a bit more personally when a troop can't be bothered to make it to MY formation on time. That will draw some personal quality time.
Overweight Soldiers need to make adjustments to their lifestyle and choices to get back in line. This is a process, not a come to Jesus tent revival. You arm them with tools to make better choices, you give them additional training to help this along (hell, once I had a "biggest loser" competition)... sometimes they make the right changes, sometimes they don't.
At the end of the day, actions have consequences. Being late for formation will eventually lead to NJP. Being fat will eventually lead to discharge. If you aren't doing that, you aren't doing your job as a leader.

I'm willing to work with an overweight Soldier to a point. I've been overweight once or twice in my career. If they can't stay fit and pass the APFT, they should go.

Too often we allow them to stay through inaction of administrative actions, and it shows the rest that they can get away with it. They know there are no consequences. I think if we remove a few of the worst offenders, the rest will find more motivation to get fit. JMHO