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Maj Robert Thornton
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My dad survived 3 wives (they passed away from cancer and stroke). Dad still had a girlfriend when he died. He moved from NC to GA to be near me and the family but he would only stay at our house long enough for his apartment to be ready. He died one week after he moved into his apartment. He obviously didn’t wish to die in our house.
I used to tease that if my wife passed before me I would attempt to beat my dads record of surviving three wives. Over the years I have decided that if my wife passes on before me I won’t remarry. I will likely sell the house, get an RV and use #1 sons address as my permanent address. I will let the boys know when I’m 30 minutes out.
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Lt Col Charlie Brown
Lt Col Charlie Brown
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I think that's pretty much my husband's plan as well...the RV with a 30 min warning to the kids
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Cpl Vic Burk
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Lt Col Charlie Brown I don't think I would like to live alone in my old age but we don't have a choice sometimes.
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SFC Ralph E Kelley
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Sometimes I feel they are just more busy-bodied people wanting to do "what's right" for other people even if the other person is perfectly happy to be alone. Think "Karen".
Not Lonely - Alone. People who are insistant and intrude, irritate me.
Personally, I never have required the presence of people.
I'm always happy to see them and I will talk to pretty (think of a 3-4 year old child) much to anyone else. I admit I am on the opposite side of the park from those that crave attention and drama, but I'm comfortable with my privacy.
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SFC Casey O'Mally
SFC Casey O'Mally
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It isn't just loneliness, though.

My mother has very little working memory left. She has to be reminded to eat and take her medicine. She is physically healthy, and mentally acute. But forgetful to the highest levels. Not dementia or amnesia - she knows who she is, where she lives, and ho everyone else is. My father, on the other hand, has stage 4 lung cancer. He is on oxygen almost around the clock, and walking from the bedroom to the living g room tires him out. His brain gets foggy sometimes, but his memory is good.

Neither one of them will be able to live independently when the other one goes. Together, their strengths can make up for the other's weaknesses. Without the other to rely on, neither will fare well.

They will NEED periodic in home care. My father daily, my mother a few times a week. My siblings and I have already started that discussion with them.
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SFC Ralph E Kelley
SFC Ralph E Kelley
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SFC Casey O'Mally - Those kind of people yes, but I'm not one (yet) and so I stand by my statement.
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