Posted on Aug 16, 2014
When you die, do you want a military funeral? If so how entailed?
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My father passed away a couple of days ago and was an Army vet from the early 60's. He did not see combat but never really spoke about his time in.
My brother who was active Coast Guard and just retired from the CG Reserves was against any Veteran's protocol. At this point he wants nothing when he dies either. Another brother who did an active tour in the Navy and myself, Marines, both want full military honors.
Dad is being cremated so we ended up agreeing with a flag for his coffin and a marker. No need for condolences but how do you feel? The only thing he told mom was he wanted to be cremated.
My brother who was active Coast Guard and just retired from the CG Reserves was against any Veteran's protocol. At this point he wants nothing when he dies either. Another brother who did an active tour in the Navy and myself, Marines, both want full military honors.
Dad is being cremated so we ended up agreeing with a flag for his coffin and a marker. No need for condolences but how do you feel? The only thing he told mom was he wanted to be cremated.
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PREPARE TO COPY!!! I have given great thought into this subject.
Even in death I don't like money being spent on me. I'm thinking 2 gallons of gas and a match. I won't feel it anyway. I want all the ashes collected up and taken to the wake. At the wake, don't even think about being sad or saying tender and insightful remarks. Everyone there will have a mission. $10,000 from my life insurance will be the prize money. Everyone has a month to take their portion of my ashes to the most beautiful places they can think of and let me go. Then, bring back a picture of the act and then everyone involved in the "mission" gets judged by my children and a winner will be declared. You have to go into great detail of why you took me to your "grace land." Now that everyone is back together, you will all know the most beautiful things about each other. That way, I can achieve one last beautiful thing in death, that I should have done in life.................then PARTY.
PS...If anyone of you kills me to get the prize money.....deals off.
Even in death I don't like money being spent on me. I'm thinking 2 gallons of gas and a match. I won't feel it anyway. I want all the ashes collected up and taken to the wake. At the wake, don't even think about being sad or saying tender and insightful remarks. Everyone there will have a mission. $10,000 from my life insurance will be the prize money. Everyone has a month to take their portion of my ashes to the most beautiful places they can think of and let me go. Then, bring back a picture of the act and then everyone involved in the "mission" gets judged by my children and a winner will be declared. You have to go into great detail of why you took me to your "grace land." Now that everyone is back together, you will all know the most beautiful things about each other. That way, I can achieve one last beautiful thing in death, that I should have done in life.................then PARTY.
PS...If anyone of you kills me to get the prize money.....deals off.
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SrA Marc Haynes
I want to be cremated & instead of some wake I want my friends to have a BBQ & enjoy themselves. If they share stories of me fine, if not fine. I want my friends that I ride with to take my ashes & spread them in the four corners of the continental U.S. Once place being on sacred Sioux ground, the other in Texas near Lackland/Fort Sam Houston, also in D.C. In the Potomac near Jefferson Memorial & finally of Fisherman's Wharf in S.F.
Oh & I want my son to get my flag.
Oh & I want my son to get my flag.
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SSG Jeffrey Spencer
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Tops my list of most beautiful places.
Tops my list of most beautiful places.
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SSG William Patton
I have already planned my funeral and it will be with full military honors. I plan to be cremated, as does my wife, and we will have some of our ashes buried at a military cemetary next to a dear friend who also served. My sons and wife have been left with written instructions on how to carry our my wishes. That is something we should all do because we never know when it will be time to go home.
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I want to be buried in a military cemetery. Not for me, but for my kids. Same reason I collect things in my office - I want my kids to know that their dad at least did something.
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MCPO Roger Collins
VA burial for me and my wife. Yep, I want a military honors ceremony, in my dress blues as a reminder to all that I served for 21 years.
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I will only ask this - What does your mother want? Funerals are for the living, not the dead. I'm not a theologian or whatever the shrinks call themselves that deal with this issue, but I know what I've seen. The dead don't care once they're dead. The living are the ones that care. The military has a compact with its troops - we will take you home for your family if KIA. We aren't always able to do that - but we strive mightily. The funeral is for the living. The military has a distinct method we ascribe to when we do the service - it represents our military commitment to our brother/sister - but it is a PUBLIC display of that commitment. It's intended to be a public display for those at the service. Funerals are for the living.....
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Cpl George Goodwin
Unfortunately, even though he was very sick, they did not plan other than dad saying he wanted to be cremated. She still does not know what to do with his ashes. She has all the time in the world to do so. I think most families will follow our wishes as to how we are buried as a last tribute to the person.
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