Is enough being done to stop/prevent suicide with Servicemembers and Veterans?
Our suicide rates are at historical highs...more Soldiers/Vets have committed suicide in the last few years than all of our fallen brothers and sisters for both OEF and OIF. It's averaging 23 a day.
We have suicide prevention training, but it's only required in my unit once a year. We are taught from Day 0 that we are to have our battle buddy's back while deployed, but what about while in garrison? I don't mean to sound disrespectful or attacking anyone with this next part but...What happened to NCO's actually living by the NCO Creed? What happened to "My two basic responsibilities will always be uppermost in my mind, the accomplishment of my mission and the welfare of my Soldiers...I know my Soldiers and will always place their needs above my own"? I get that we're in the Army, that we're Soldiers first, and there are going to be times where we have to just embrace the suck and drive on. I don't think that applies though to making sure that Soldiers are doing ok.
This is a huge issue, and I don't believe that there is enough being done. At what point is this going to be a "big enough problem" for something more to be done?
Just a thought here, but we'll have an opportunity to send a message to Washington in a few weeks. Let's make sure we vote well...
The thing is, no matter how much training and awareness WE get, you always want to tell yourself that so and so is NOT having those problems and we tend to deny that we see what we actually see. I do not know how to fix it, will never admit to knowing how, but I have been on the end of a phone line more then once starting back about 14 years ago and that person is still alive today. I have had more since then, I am not a counselor, a pastor or anything else but a friend to those who sought to ask for help. At the time they all reached out, it was not immediate that they said they were considering it, it was post conversation and later.
TIME is the most valuable asset on the planet, if you give folks some who seek it, listen and be there for them, they may turn the corner and feel the value that life has and not do the wrong thing.
Our programs and the ACE are good guidance, but the key is opening the eyes and ears and staying aware to our surroundings that will ultimately help.
my .02
And also many times it is outside the chain-of-command or even the VA. The VA is overwhelmed and that is where we step in. We literally have 1,000s whose backs are turned upon and then what?
One example might be a person with a DUI/DWI or some other consideration but these are our brothers and sisters, so we find them a way to get back and forth to work. Whatever it takes and sometimes it is the small things that really do matter.
Thanks for your time and for bringing this up.
Respectfully
Larry
I had a friend take his life a little over a week ago. We went to BNCOC together and kept in touch over the internet for the better part of the past 14 years. Our professional paths never crossed again. He would come up on the net every once in a while and we would chat. He came back from his last deployment into marital problems and alcohol issues. We talked a little. He was receiving counseling and assistance. He was going through a MEB and apparently thought that the pain was too much and he took his own life. I feel for his family and for those who were stationed with him at the end. I can say that "I wish that I had" all I want, but we talked so infrequently that to identify something that was amiss would be next to impossible.
Stay vigilant with your Soldiers. Watch them. Know them. Ask them.
Stand by...
I rely on my Soldiers as much as I do on my NCOs and officers to notify me immediately if they feel that someone is "off" and not themselves so we can sit them down and see if there is an issue. Unfortunately I am only one person and as much as I try to be engaged with all of my Soldiers everytime that I see them I cannot. Also, as a reserve unit is hard to track what is normal behavior and what is different when you are not engaged on a daily basis like my active component counterparts. Once again it comes back to relying on everyone in the unit to develop a bond and have that bond so close that if someone is thinking of harming themselves or others that they feel comfortable enough to reach out to someone, anyone and ask for help.
My chaplain can tell you I keep him busy and I think he gets nervous if I am not talking to him at least once a week (during very slow times). I sometimes talk to him several times a day with issues. And that is where the leadership (and I mean everyone is a leader and can call ceasefire type of leadership) need to be engaging and throw up flags as soon as they sense something. Better to react and not be needed than to hesitate and regret for the rest of your life.