Posted on Sep 20, 2021
Capt Brandon Charters
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As veterans, we’re very prideful and usually the last ones to ask for help. I personally started changing the way I approached friends after knowing there was a feeling that they were a burden. I just started telling them what I was going to do. Usually it’s an offer that takes something off their plate - which will hopefully lead to more accepted offerings. I’ve found vets turn down general “how can I help” check ins. I think it takes persistence and thinking about their pain as much as you can. Breaking through that first barrier of help is always the hardest. How have you approached offering your support in a way that will be accepted?
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SFC Stephen King
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Listen more talk less. I found letting others talk and share their perspective as a great way to build connection.
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SPC Nancy Greene
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Capt Brandon Charters
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Good advice.
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SPC Nancy Greene
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Capt Brandon Charters as a retired Behavior Therapist, I learned quickly each person is different and so is my approach. Sometimes just engaging in a conversation can lead to much further communication. There is no simple answer, all we can do is try...
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SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth
SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth
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Very true words sister SPC Nancy Greene
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SSgt Richard Kensinger
SSgt Richard Kensinger
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And we do so exhibiting a non-judgmental approach.
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SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth
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If they need an ear to listen to them, I let them use mine, just being there to let them get whatever is on their chest off, it is normally appreciated better than being told what they should do, they normally come up with the answer while they're talking Capt Brandon Charters
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Capt Brandon Charters
Capt Brandon Charters
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That’s a good approach.
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