Posted on Dec 19, 2019
How do service members do their job and not worry about "Jody"?
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I want to join the military but the stories of significant others cheating has constantly been running through my mind. I don't have a girlfriend now but I want one in the future and I want a family (I didn't really have it growing up), but at the same time I really enjoy the thought of the military and its opportunities. I don't want to pass up the opportunity of joining for a girl that doesn't yet exist but at the same time I do want that family. Any suggestions or personal accounts are welcome.
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Don't believe the hype!!!!!!!!! Not everything you read is true. I was in the Army for almost 24 years, just retired 3 months ago. My wife and i will celebrate 20 yrs of marriage and 23 yrs together this January. We have 3 wonderful children and she was with me for all 9 of my PCS's and 5 deployments, countless time TDY, in the field, schools, NTC Rotations, JRTC Rotations, you name it. While there are a lot of divorces in the military, there are many success stories as well. Same as any other way of life. Its all about whom you choose to trust to be your significant other, and their commitment to you through thick and thin. If you found a partner you cant trust, the same will be true no matter what profession you choose to enter. DO not let stories of which im sure you have heard prevent you from joining the military if thats what you want to do. I promise you that you do not want to have any regret later in life. Good luck to you and i hope you find a partner to share the wild ride that a military lifestyle has to offer.
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SGT Kevin Hughes
I met several marriages that were like yours Sarge. And two of them served as role models for my own marriage (coming up on forty years this year). People make a marriage...not statistics.
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LTC Stephan Porter
Ditto! 32 years in, 29+ with my wife of 26+, 4 deployments, 7 PCSs, one year long geo-batchelor and countless TDY!
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CPL Earl Kochis
A marriage is a work in progress from the moment you commit to each other if that commitment is real “Jody will never play a part”! If your significant other is cheating then he or she never actually made a commitment and therefore isn’t worth your time!
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CPL Earl Kochis
And my thanks to all your wives for their service as well as your families!! This shows that your wives have better Army Values than a lot of Soldiers!!!
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Jody doesn't discriminate between military and civilians. Just do your best to pick a good person to be in a relationship with, cross your fingers and hope for the best. Regardless of your profession, Jody is always waiting.
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SPC Donn Sinclair
Spot on. If your partner's so inclined, they wander, whether you're a deployed PFC or a middle manager at General Motors.
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You do it by waiting to get married until you and your future spouse are old enough and mature enough to be able to handle a relationship with frequent traveling and alone time. This isn't a military thing either. You end up in a relationship with someone who has to go away for any length of time, or you end up on opposite shifts, cheating can happen then as well.
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