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Since when do I “owe” children to society? Since when is it selfish to pursue my own dreams? Also, since when is there a time limit?! I mean, I get biology. But to pressure me that I’d “better hurry up” is to tell me that I don’t know when I’M ready.
Wouldn’t the world be a better place if some people just said “I’m not ready” and were aware of that, because, if we do have kids, we want to give them the best life possible? Why does that make us selfish?
Why is it selfish for me to have career goals and aspirations that are not centered around reproduction? Maybe I have other merits too. Why is it selfish for me to want to have other experiences? Why can’t I travel? Why can’t I go to Grad School? Why am I a bad member of society for not contributing my seed? Are there not enough unwanted, hurting kids in the world? Why would you pressure me to make more just for the sake of it, and tell me I’m not a real person until I do? - Alice Minium
Wouldn’t the world be a better place if some people just said “I’m not ready” and were aware of that, because, if we do have kids, we want to give them the best life possible? Why does that make us selfish?
Why is it selfish for me to have career goals and aspirations that are not centered around reproduction? Maybe I have other merits too. Why is it selfish for me to want to have other experiences? Why can’t I travel? Why can’t I go to Grad School? Why am I a bad member of society for not contributing my seed? Are there not enough unwanted, hurting kids in the world? Why would you pressure me to make more just for the sake of it, and tell me I’m not a real person until I do? - Alice Minium
Dear Society: We Don’t Owe You Children
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Before I got pregnant and then got married - my grandma was always asking me about my personal life. It was always "have you met anyone interesting?" She even asked me this in Iraq on my first deployment. I called home on Christmas and ended up talking to her and got "Have you met anyone interesting?" I told her Grandma that's not what I'm here for.
Then after I got divorced, she started asking me about if there were any single parents groups near where I lived at the time. I said grandma I don't have time for dating. "Well that's how I met your grandpa." (She's technically my stepgrandma. My bio grandma died from cancer before I was born. My grandpa married who i call grandma about a year later. She was a widow, he widower. He had five kids (well four one of my uncles died by a drunk driver) and she had five kids, much younger than my mom and her siblings. My mom and her sister already had kids so she became a grandma instantly. But she grew up in a different time. I have been independent my whole life, I had to take care of myself at a young age so I depend on myself. I actually don't mind being single and until my late 20s I didn't want kids at all.
But I would get it from other people "Why haven't you had kids? Why aren't you married?" Um...I don't want it. Pretty simple.
People shouldn't be pressured into marriage or parenthood.
Then after I got divorced, she started asking me about if there were any single parents groups near where I lived at the time. I said grandma I don't have time for dating. "Well that's how I met your grandpa." (She's technically my stepgrandma. My bio grandma died from cancer before I was born. My grandpa married who i call grandma about a year later. She was a widow, he widower. He had five kids (well four one of my uncles died by a drunk driver) and she had five kids, much younger than my mom and her siblings. My mom and her sister already had kids so she became a grandma instantly. But she grew up in a different time. I have been independent my whole life, I had to take care of myself at a young age so I depend on myself. I actually don't mind being single and until my late 20s I didn't want kids at all.
But I would get it from other people "Why haven't you had kids? Why aren't you married?" Um...I don't want it. Pretty simple.
People shouldn't be pressured into marriage or parenthood.
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I agree 101%. No we don't. Better look out for the religious right however. Your supposed to do that multiplication thing according to them.
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