SrA Ronald Moore Welcome! Lovely way to state a problem and solution isnt' it.
I have found it is much easier to be objective and understanding about human weaknesses in other people than in self! Learning to be as kind and compassionate with unconditional love for self, too, one's own soul, is much more difficult. Always worthwhile though to be unconditionally, kind and compassionate to self as a way to improve on our own weaknesses!