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At VA, we care about your health and well-being. We want to hear about times when you’ve struggled with your mental health or experienced thoughts of suicide and how you managed or received support.
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What has worked best for you?
What methods/steps have you taken to bring positive change in your life?
Which services provided the best / most desired outcomes for your needs?
We expect to learn from you and will try to help you where we can. We also believe Veterans, families, and caregivers sharing their struggles in forums like RallyPoint can make it easier for others to share and get help.
If you need help now, dial 988, option 1 for the Veterans Crisis Line.
If you are not yet receiving benefits or care for VA and want to see if you qualify:
Visit https://rly.pt/VAHealthCareEligibility or call [login to see] (TTY: 711).
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The VA ignored my issues from 2004 - 2011. I finally managed to get a good doctor who helped me after 6 years. I did not want to address it because of my security clearance. I did not know why I was having panic attacks and was generally paranoid about everything. The day came when I finally had a breakdown - I remember it like yesterday - a total breakdown around Easter 2010. I lost about 50 lbs in 2 months, could not work, lost my job, my house, and everything except my family - it hit hard and fast - 6 years of trying to ignore my problems.
So, things have changed. PTSD is not as stigmatizing as it once was. From what I have heard PTSD is not something that disqualifies you anymore. AGAIN - if you are suffering get help... jobs come and go. Take care of yourself before it eats you alive and it is too late.
That doctor changed my life, wish I had found him 5 years earlier. Even though I lost everything, I came back with the help of a good doctor and the VA.
Some people do care, even if you don't want to go through all the details. Find someone who can identify with you, fix your problem, and move on. Life is a blessing, you may not see it now, but if you are successful at finding a path out, you'll be much stronger and better for it.
Look, the last thing I wanted to do was talk to someone about my problems so counseling did not last long - I lived it, I dreamed about it, every waking and sleeping moment was around it - replay was exhausting. Sometimes we just need some help to turn off all the noise.
After the doctor helped me, I took time off to gather my head. Since I lost my job already I was able to take a year off - go back and get a master's degree.
Summary - find a good VA doctor and don't wait for the breakdown. Do not feel like there is no way out - there always is, you just have to be creative, better yourself, and cope but do not ignore, accept this is the way it is and it is up to you to get through it.
At the end of the day, the battle is in you and only you can make the decision to end it.
So, things have changed. PTSD is not as stigmatizing as it once was. From what I have heard PTSD is not something that disqualifies you anymore. AGAIN - if you are suffering get help... jobs come and go. Take care of yourself before it eats you alive and it is too late.
That doctor changed my life, wish I had found him 5 years earlier. Even though I lost everything, I came back with the help of a good doctor and the VA.
Some people do care, even if you don't want to go through all the details. Find someone who can identify with you, fix your problem, and move on. Life is a blessing, you may not see it now, but if you are successful at finding a path out, you'll be much stronger and better for it.
Look, the last thing I wanted to do was talk to someone about my problems so counseling did not last long - I lived it, I dreamed about it, every waking and sleeping moment was around it - replay was exhausting. Sometimes we just need some help to turn off all the noise.
After the doctor helped me, I took time off to gather my head. Since I lost my job already I was able to take a year off - go back and get a master's degree.
Summary - find a good VA doctor and don't wait for the breakdown. Do not feel like there is no way out - there always is, you just have to be creative, better yourself, and cope but do not ignore, accept this is the way it is and it is up to you to get through it.
At the end of the day, the battle is in you and only you can make the decision to end it.
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Sgt Sheri Lynn
SGT (Join to see) your share brought tears to my eyes. I thank you for sharing. The process really can work.
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How about you take care of vets the government sent to war and don't let them kill themselves in the fuckin VA parking lot...
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PO2 Stephen Cline
The VA has their ever changing polices designed to frustrate and discourage veterans seeking the healthcare they were promised. After 20 years of dealing with the VA I understand why so many veterans commit suicide. The VA came close to killing me twice, treating for a condition I did not have. Thankfully I do a health check and a nurse called me because my BP was so low that she was surprised I was even conscious. The surgeon that implanted the Defibrillator insisted that I take one of the very same medications that that dropped my BP so low That I could have died if I had continued taking it. I have Low BP not high. They just assumed that because I had a heart attack I had high blood pressure. They never looked at what's right on the screen in front of them. Shortly after the implant I was barred from entering the VAMC over their useless mask mandate that I can't wear even if they did work for 3 years. I now have a civilian cardiologist my heart is so weak that I now need surgery that I'm told There is a very good chance I won't survive. That if I don't have the surgery I may live a few more years. The way I see it thanks to the VA and their stellar care <s> I am now a walking dead man.
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SrA Bruce Banner
It's sad to say but us Iraq and Afghanistan veterans set the tone for the VA to improve and take care of all of us all the way back to WW2 veterans. The VA is getting better with irresponsible managers getting fired and our budget increasing. I think the VA is something that should constantly be improved. If we're going to spend at least $500 billion a year on our military at least take care of us when we come back home broken physically and mentally. Lastly, have you applied for VA disability benefits? Disabled American Veterans (DAV) has upped me from 30%-100% in two years back in 2014-2016. At least get your finances squared away with that and contact VA Patient Advocacy to ensure the care you need.
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PO2 Stephen Cline
SrA Bruce Banner - My first experience with the Dallas VAMC was in 1978 between enlistments. I was having an issue with the ankle I had broken on duty. Spent mor than 12 hours there saw a doctor for all of 5 minutes. A Week later I got a letter from the VA a week later that basically told me not to come back. And I didn't until 2002. While I now have a total disability rating of 40 percent. The VA hasn't changed. Trumps fix the VA has found work arounds. The only thing I blame Trump for is that he listened to veterans groups who have there own agenda, not the veterans that have no other choice but to use the VA Healthcare System. At one time or another I've been a paid member of all the Veterans groups. They're all waste of money. I reached out to everyone I could during this lock down crap even Trumps office. I nothing. Of the two that I did hear back from , One said sorry we can't help you and the other said we'll look into it and will get back with you. the latter never did . The VFW runs the Patient Advocate office here. Co-pays went up again. The VA now charges huge co-pays for hospital stays. They've added two more categories to their priority list. All done this year.
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SrA Bruce Banner
Thank you for sharing your story. I usually recommend the VSO's for younger veterans under 40. In your case, it's time to lawyer up with a disability attorney to get your 100% and SSDI. I have two Air Force buddies who lawyered up and one got 80% and the other got 100%. May you be blessed in your fight for your benefits. Godspeed.
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Where does one start.. I have struggled with depression now for years. I jave also had to seek help on multiple occasions. Seeking help is sometimes the only option one has. I have noticed that there are not many resources outside the VA to ask for help. I could go on a long rant about the so called Patriot BS we help veterans in need BS non profits out there. But when a veteran is struggling mentally and financially.. Just asking for help is hard enough. But unfortunately unless you jave visible injuries then the so called veterans supporters will not assist with anything. You can try the VFW and the American legion.. But if you are not a veitnaim Veteran you are out of place. Our younger veterans walk into those places and it's filled with 80 year old smoking and drinking beer. Not very inviting. So you call the VA and they tell you to try the food banks or the VFW.. But as far as financial help you're alone. We need a way to reach the younger veterans and actually help them.
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SrA Bruce Banner
VFW and AL have done absolutely nothing for me but ask for money since I became a life member. DAV, on the other hand, upped me from 30% to 100% in 2 years!
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The roof fell-in on me, and I went out under medical. In processing, saw many experiencing anxiety about returning to life apart from their group. Saw an experimental program to evoke boldness, as a possible help.
I knew who I was, but felt I had to relinquish my control to unknown sources. A few suicide attempts which were (thank You Jesus) unsuccessful. Big doses of meds were helpful in a few ways. They kept me from allowing the destructive thoughts to completely possess me, and as an unexpected bonus, to do all that I could to develop my spiritual and physical abilities, which would decrease a need for the mega doses. Of course counseling, which let's you speak your perception of the problems, can in itself undo many , and a Doctor's simple response like "that's crazy", gives a choice to continue validating insanity, or to regroup.
One of the earlier treatments of a cold shower has been a great help.
Seeking ultimate Truth is a blessing that is worth all the work of divesting of lies (a continual battle), and returning to the person the Lord created. God Bless
I knew who I was, but felt I had to relinquish my control to unknown sources. A few suicide attempts which were (thank You Jesus) unsuccessful. Big doses of meds were helpful in a few ways. They kept me from allowing the destructive thoughts to completely possess me, and as an unexpected bonus, to do all that I could to develop my spiritual and physical abilities, which would decrease a need for the mega doses. Of course counseling, which let's you speak your perception of the problems, can in itself undo many , and a Doctor's simple response like "that's crazy", gives a choice to continue validating insanity, or to regroup.
One of the earlier treatments of a cold shower has been a great help.
Seeking ultimate Truth is a blessing that is worth all the work of divesting of lies (a continual battle), and returning to the person the Lord created. God Bless
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You mean the “services” that don’t really do anything when you really need help? What’s the point of having “resources” when you reach out they have their hands tied and can’t really DO anything to assist with resolving situations that cause mental health breakdowns??? It’s amazing to me that government hands out loads of assistance to welfare or immigrants yet limits help to CITIZENS that have SERVED!!! If I am still breathing today it is because of the good Lord and only because of Him have I survived all these years…….
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Pvt Nayeli Luna
SrA Bruce Banner I appreciate your help but not what I was referring to but thank you.
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Most of my struggles were pre-military: poverty, homelessness, 3 alcoholic "fathers", birth defects, ADHD. Post-Navy I got master's on GI Bill, enhanced pension, many other benefits. I now run Veterans Support Group, part of VA-facilitated veteran suicide prevention coalition. Published video in PSYCHIATRIC TIMES & reducing vet suicide article in COMBAT STRESS Magazine. Can share these for free with any vet who contacts me at [login to see] .
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PO3 Roland Van Deusen
See NewsNation cable news network interview w/Emmy award winning reporter Nick Smith, on Veteran Suicide Prevention. My writings used by VA Suicide Prevention Program, former Defense Secretary Leon Panetta, VA Center for PTSD, National Veteran Resource Center at Syracuse University.
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Stop putting these veterans in harms way without a true declaration of war. Then when you have a declaration of war, bomb the hell out of the enemy before you send them in harms way. This is the absolute root cause Korea, Vietnam, Granda, Desert Storm.shield and many more have had no declaration of war. With No declaration, no soldiers are required. PERIOD.
If you do not follow this prescribed methodology, then expect less than healthy physical and mental attitudes. The soldiers/Vets will always exhibit PTSD depending on the varied degree of intensity in the war. Remember the Tet offensive (Cayson). Their was no declaration and much PTSD. Declare War and destroy the enemy. Or don't play war.
If you do not follow this prescribed methodology, then expect less than healthy physical and mental attitudes. The soldiers/Vets will always exhibit PTSD depending on the varied degree of intensity in the war. Remember the Tet offensive (Cayson). Their was no declaration and much PTSD. Declare War and destroy the enemy. Or don't play war.
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I'm long-time sober, 30+ years without a drink or a drug, and would not still be on this planet without the help I get from AA, which I was originally introduced to while on active duty at Fort Hood in 1986. Yes, that's six years from my first AA meeting to sobriety. I have a very hard head.
I hit a new bottom with money and debt in 2008 and experienced suicidal thoughts between 2010 and 2012, more than I ever had before, including during active alcoholism and drug addiction. It again took six years -- including two years as a homelessness veteran and a near-fatal illness that was 80-90% preventable had I not had a death wish -- before I gained freedom from incurring new unsecured debt, which is called solvency in DA (Debtors Anonymous), a complete and total game changer for me.
This second recovery not only dealt with my money problems which included not only my imprudent propensity for borrowing but also the underlying symptoms like spending too much and earning too little and the underlying feelings of worthlessness and obsession with a lifetime of professional and personal failures, financial and otherwise. Let's not forget my obsession with money and stuff too, especially stuff that other people and I felt entitled to.
Nine years into my solvency, I'm happier than I've ever been, still deeply engaged in my recovery from both alcoholism and compulsive debting. Thanks to recovery and the 12 Steps / 12 Traditions, I haven't had a suicidal thought in more than a decade. I invite you to take a look at https://debtorsanonymous.org/ to see if this might help you too.
I hit a new bottom with money and debt in 2008 and experienced suicidal thoughts between 2010 and 2012, more than I ever had before, including during active alcoholism and drug addiction. It again took six years -- including two years as a homelessness veteran and a near-fatal illness that was 80-90% preventable had I not had a death wish -- before I gained freedom from incurring new unsecured debt, which is called solvency in DA (Debtors Anonymous), a complete and total game changer for me.
This second recovery not only dealt with my money problems which included not only my imprudent propensity for borrowing but also the underlying symptoms like spending too much and earning too little and the underlying feelings of worthlessness and obsession with a lifetime of professional and personal failures, financial and otherwise. Let's not forget my obsession with money and stuff too, especially stuff that other people and I felt entitled to.
Nine years into my solvency, I'm happier than I've ever been, still deeply engaged in my recovery from both alcoholism and compulsive debting. Thanks to recovery and the 12 Steps / 12 Traditions, I haven't had a suicidal thought in more than a decade. I invite you to take a look at https://debtorsanonymous.org/ to see if this might help you too.
Debtors Anonymous - Meetings, Support, Groups and Programs - Debtors Anonymous
Welcome to Debtors Anonymous Is your life unmanageable because of debt? Are you sick of bouncing checks, paying late fees, and having creditors knocking at your door? Debtors Anonymous offers hope for people whose use of unsecured debt causes problems and suffering in their lives and the lives of others.
The Dr's at VA say they are listening to you but they are not really listening,,,
At the end of the day, they make the final decision on your Health, you have no input on the course of action on your health,,either take the plan of action they have or don't,,,if you become a a pain or start complaining,,,they Label you as something is wrong with you..
Only because you're fighting for your Health.....
At the end of the day, they make the final decision on your Health, you have no input on the course of action on your health,,either take the plan of action they have or don't,,,if you become a a pain or start complaining,,,they Label you as something is wrong with you..
Only because you're fighting for your Health.....
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Sgt Sheri Lynn
SP6 Terry Williams I am saddened by what you have and are going through. Please know that you are not alone. Please keep keep fighting and asking for help. There are good people and doctors out there who actually want to help. And I know how exhausted I feel having to chase down my own care, and imagine you feel the same. Finding just one kind human will ease your burden… my thoughts and prayers are with you
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VA Mental health groups, VA walking groups, VA bicycling groups, NVGAG groups.
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SrA Bruce Banner
VA psych meds (numerous), VA group therapy, exercise, loving wife, 5 dogs who provide unconditional love and a baby girl on the way!
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