Posted on Jun 1, 2015
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An unidentified female Navy Officer, staying at an upscale NYC hotel with family while visiting during Fleet Week festivities last week was taken aback when her group was stopped by bouncers and prevented from entering the hotel's bar one evening. At first, nobody could figure it out, everyone was dressed in professional attire; until the bouncer's indicated that the Officer's Class A Uniform did not fit it's criteria for female dress, and they weren't backing down. How about it? How would you address such an insulting situation?
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PO2 Charles Lemmons
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I'm not now nor have I ever been known to be polite to people who do not respect the uniform that our nation requires us to wear, and any civilian operated facility that thinks it's inadequate for their establishment never had the honor and pride in being up to the standard of putting one on.
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PO1 Dave Dextradeur
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Naval officers (USUALLY) don't "create scenes"! The ONLY acceptable means of resolving this issue is to DEMAND to speak with the bar manager! If he/she can't or wont see the offended person then I would march straight into the hotel general manager's office and not leave until the matter is resolved! The actions of the bouncers are totally inappropriate!
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SFC William Swartz Jr
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They don't want my business they don't get my business!
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PO2 William Braddock
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Well this was fleet week, the hotel should have informed staff to make exception. Needless to say that hotel will no longer be getting any military business. At least from me and my family and friends.
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SPC John Decker
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I would inform them that I was going to inform the DOD and all other military people I could that this happened and to not go to that bar, even if not in uniform. They let her stay in the hotel but would not allow her to enter the bar? I'd give them something to think about.
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SSG Marciano Gonzalez
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which hotel did that? put it on face book just to let everybody knows that when military personnel goes to new York don't stay in this crappy hotel that don't let military personnel in uniform use their facility for a get together with their family.I want the hotel name.
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SGT William Howell
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Not sure How I would respond. I guess it would depend on what day of the week.

Gut Stomp Sunday
Drop Kick Monday
Sucker Punch Tuesday
Throat Slam Wednesday
Throat Punch Thursday
Beat Down Friday
Jimmy "Superfly" Snuka - Off the Top Rope Ass Kicking Saturday

It is Fleet Week after all!
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SSgt Forensic Meteorological Consultant
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I would go haywire, whatever that means. Or challenge them to a game of chess. :)

Diplomacy is the best tact. Go somewhere else and then later report it to the manager. I am sure in the future there would be an equitable resolution with them and other businesses.
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HN Donald Snyder
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I would make sure the Command Officer knew the second i got back to base, then use to be a very strict no visit policy when i was stationed in Norfolk, imagine the loss of business for them to get on the list
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SCPO Larry Knight Sr.
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This actually happened to me in San Francisco, Ca in 1969 before deploying on my first tour in Vietnam. I was refused entry into a well known steak house while wearing full dress blues, their reasoning was based on that I wasn't wearing a coat and tie. I demanded to speak with the restaurant manager, he came outside and politely let me know he didn't care for military personnel coming into his establishment in uniform. I could come back in a suit and tie, and I in so many words told him what he could do (put his establishment where the sun doesn't shine) !

I returned to the base and went to the club to eat and partake in some well deserved cold beverage (Beer) . Every time we returned to the bay area I and my shipmates made it a point eat where we were welcomed. I boycott any and all business that take this type of stance towards our service men and women, and wont waste any time blogging their business'.
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