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SFC Mark Merino
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Edited 10 y ago
Group therapy, gardening (seeing new life grow), talk talk talk talk it out, medication, PRAYER!........and no more drinking.
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Sgt David G Duchesneau
Sgt David G Duchesneau
>1 y
Amen to that brother!
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SFC Nikhil Kumra
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Had a bad case of anxiety 10+ years ago after leaving active duty. Really revolved around public areas... Especially malls.

went to the va once, they gave me some Xanax and sent me on my way. Hated the way it made me feel and after two pills I tossed it in the garbage.

So then I thought... If I force myself into the things that I hate, I should get numb to it. So I took all the public speaking classes I could, and sat down in malls on weekends, and took on shitty Sales jobs. Just to expose myself to anxiety inducing situations as much as possible. No shit. And that exposure worked! It eventually went away.

I wouldn't recommend it as a method, it sucked. Literally would go to the bathroom to have an anxiety attack and leave when it was done. Did that for 4 years until it was gone and I felt normal in crowds.
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SSG Michael Scott
SSG Michael Scott
9 y
It has been 12 years for me. I have good days and bad too. I do try to expose myself to large groups of people but, I do not trust society anymore. It is not safe anymore either. Lock and load
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PO3 Rod Arnold
PO3 Rod Arnold
9 y
Happy to hear you found your own path away from anxiety. Have a great journey through your life, brother!!!
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SFC Nikhil Kumra
SFC Nikhil Kumra
9 y
SSG Michael Scott , it's not about trusting society anymore brother, it's about walking through the valley of the shadow of death and fearing nothing as you realize you're the baddest mf'r in the valley!

It's about taking control of life rather than being reactionary in your decisions based on what people "might" do or be like... We only hand over control to others when we put walls up.

You've got a lot more to offer the world than to simply take it with your guard up so tightly. Don't put your guard all the way down, just be smarter, Stronger, quicker and work harder than the people around you. That's the best weapon we've all been equipped with!

Discipline yourself to get a routine in every aspect of your life, and drive it forward regardless of any obstacle... Human or otherwise.
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SSG Michael Scott
SSG Michael Scott
9 y
SFC Nikhil Kumra - Dude, I have been doing what you have mention for those 12 years. I work in the mental health field and I see it. I am also a Certified Peer Support Specialist too. So, All I can do, is the best I can, follow my WRAP plan, positive self talk, Recovery is a process and a journey too. Also, pray to God and Jesus Christ, and be ready to perform righteous violence for just in case.
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MAJ Ken Landgren
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I remember when I was in a dark place full of depression, racing thoughts, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, and a pit in my stomach, and wanting to not exist because of the pain. I needed a toehold for recovery, and I will tell you what I did.

I had chaptered a few soldiers from the Army for misconduct, but I had this unmitigating compulsion not to send a broken ex soldier into society. I ordered all of them to go to the mirror every day and say good things about themselves and gratitude for everything and everyone in their lives.

This was the toehold they needed to break the cycle of negative thoughts and improve so they can see the beauty life unfolds before them. They said goodbye and I was pleased they did not have broken spirits. After a year I remembered this method and it gave me an opportunity to improve. This is not the answer but just a first stage of recovery.
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CW3 Sallie Easley
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I retired in 2008, almost 31 years. Because I never saw combat, I don't know what it's like to experience the horrors.
Because I never deployed I have been
ridiculed and judged badly by some who have been deployed and experienced the horrors in combat.
I enlisted in 1977, basic training in 1978. I was in the National Guard for 3 years as a 'weekend warrior' a phrase I detest to this day.
I was select to be on AGR and remained on active duty for the next 27 years.
I was in when females had few rights. The EEO wasn't created yet. A lot of my earlier experiences were being taken advantage of by older, higher ranking male soldiers. I was barely 18, fresh off the farm.
As the years progressed there was more of the same. Females were labled harassed if they filed a complaint. Granted, there were women who abused it...and filed frivolous complaints.....gave the rest of us a bad name. I was a victim of sexual assault. I was afraid to report it. He was superior officer. His word against mine. I had to transfer to another section to get away from him only to volunteer to go to Iraq with a boys club!!!
I put up with so much harassment from some higher ranking bosses because I wanted to fit in. I wasn't a prude, but I could have caused much trouble if I'd had a mind to do so.
I felt like I lost myself somewhere. I volunteered to deploy in 2007. I was continually harrassed by my male supervisor, the other male staff officers, even the Senior enlisted males on staff.
Every week at staff meetings, my boss ordered me to sit on his left, I was the S-1. He would reach over under the table and grab my knee, almost my thigh, just to make me jump and spaz. I always went first with my personnel brief. It would never fail that one or more of his male minions would interrupt me with some stupid ridiculing remark.
Everyday, my boss would come to my office, stand behind me at my desk, asking questions about whatever...and begin to rub my shoulders.....I had to get up from my desk and head toward the hall.
I never had the courage to tell him or others not touch me!!!
I had severe self-esteem issues, and at this point I was a mess.
After more than thirty years of working hard, going by the regs, I built a good reputation for myself.
Because of a few idiots I had the misfortune of working with or for I was diagnosed with PTSD. I was traumatized severely but I wasn't aware of it. I thought violent rape nightmares were normal.
I retired. I got help. Extensive therapy, sleep aids and Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing worked great for my symptoms. My brother-in-law was a dust off pilot in Vietnam. EMDR helped him tremendously.
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SGT Matthew Sullivan
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I have reached out to those whom suffer from PTSD. There are a few employees that I work with that have seen the suck. I don't wait, I talk with them almost every day. I offer an ear, they know that I can listen quietly.
I feel bad though. I have lost a few friends after the fact, I wish they would have talked to me before. I now try to reach out to all my Kilo Brothers and listen to any other that I see needs an ear....
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SFC Equal Opportunity Advisor
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I refused to talk about it at first. I thought whatever it was, I had a good hold on it and I wasn't gonna let it contol me. I was wrong. I had all these vivid nightmares, and I didn't want to sleep because I didn't want to go back. It started affecting me at work, and I guess I just came to a point where I had to talk to someone.

I was reluctant at first, knowing I was gonna end up talking to a civilian who would never know what it's like. But he was a good person, and I could tell he was genuinely concerned and not just trying to collect a check. He recorded one of our sessions, and asked me to listen to it. This tape is in my safe and I have yet to pop it into a player. But I came back for more sessions, and just talked about how I was feeling, what my fears were, and what I wanted to happen as time went on.

That was my gateway to opening up even more. I started talking to fellow veterans. I reconnected with old Battle Buddies. We talked about those events. It definitely helped.

I'm now married to the most amazing woman I've ever met. I still get nightmares every once in a while, but I share these with my wife, and I express how my nightmares make me feel. I'm more communicative, and even though I still get "attacks" when I'm upset, my wife does a really good job of calming me down.

You need to find someone you can trust, someone you can share all your fears with, someone who will listen and care for and love you for who you are. It's not always easy and it takes a lot of time, but if you've gotten this far you're strong enough to keep fighting the fight. You just need to give yourself credit for it, not sell yourself short, and not quit. And always remember there's someone out there who cares about you, no matter who you are or what your situation might be. You just have to reach out to that someone.
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PV2 Violet Case
PV2 Violet Case
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SSG Billy Campos, I felt the same way, but for me back then no one had a diagnosis for this condition if they did they kept it from me. It creeped up tho just like you said I still don't sleep at night. Nothing against all men but our women's area was on the bottom floor and normally only one cQ at night and guys would climb into our windows we begged for bars on them. But there are several things I have nightmares about. Driving truck in Germany hauling ammo and stuff was scary it seemed they wanted to hit our trucks for the U.S. money. I had my first break down and stress related heart attack over there. You are very lucky to have someone to talk to and understands. I have tried and even explained that sometimes just a hug or holding me a few minutes can make a world of difference. But I fear I am getting to old now and sick and no one wants that responsibility no matter how hard I try. I have anxiety attacks bad when I go out of the house and just a few months ago spent 7 trips to E.R. with on coming heart attacks that started feeling like anxiety attacks. My whole town now nos my conditions they no my service dog carries a list of my meds the store managers no to get my pills, water, and a bite to eat. I can't handle going out of the house even to go locally is hard. I know so many here and they always want to talk, I feel blessed they care so much but I like to get what I need to and home. My life has changed so much the sicker I have gotten. Hold on to your little wife there it sounds like you have a blessing. I never used to think I should cry either like I felt I should hold things in before. Now this past few yrs I cry more then I have in a life time. I am so happy for you.
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Sgt Richard Czajkowski
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Meds, talking to fellow Vets, my counselor at the vet center. Also going to try horse therapy. Definitely stay away from the war movies.
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Sgt Michael Johnson
Sgt Michael Johnson
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Definitely stay away from the war movies. I hardly watch TV at all. Also, don't keep a gun close enough that you can use it before you have time to think. I know that's the opposite of what you're taught in self defense, but it will keep you from shooting someone.
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SPC Nick Palozzolo
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My life has had its ups and downs with PTSD. I had dreams and flashbacks for a long time of my time in Iraq during the time I was there in 03. I had depression, guilt, anxiety, fear, and anger. I turned to alcohol to numb it till I met my wife and she got my mind off it for awhile but until I saw a shrink and talked about it all. But now today I'm going through a new kind of PTSD I have been diagnosed with Cancer since 06 and have been through hell with radiation and chemo. My mind has anxiety everyday and it's killing me inside and I know how to cope but the thought every week that I'm going going to another treatment that will make me horribly sick and in pain! But my kids and wife are what make me keep fighting as I did years ago. I hope you all fight for your life because as much as the past haunts you the future can be brighter and that's how I make it everyday.
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LTC Donell Kelly
LTC Donell Kelly
9 y
Please register with the burn pit registry. It's relatively new (a year or two), and may be helpful to you. I wish you the very, very best.
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SPC Curtis Hanzlik
SPC Curtis Hanzlik
9 y
You may not know Susanne Summers but take a few minutes to watch some of her cancer videos on YouTube. First thing you should do is get screened to see if you're allergic to radiation.
https://w3.blaylockwellness.com/Health/BWR/LP/Knockout-Cancer-Video?ns_mail_uid=98702932&ns_mail_job=1633066_08242015&s=al&dkt_nbr=xcautocd
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SSG William Patton
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I have being dealing with PTSD since the summer of 1969 in the aftermath of the siege of Ben Het. My unit was on Ben Het and as a newbie, I was placed on guard duty in a 6x6, deuce and a half, hauling ammo to Ben Het. The siege had ended for the most part, but there were sporadic incursions and ambushes of the convoys going there. As my luck would have it, we were ambushed between Dak To and Ben Het. We lost four vehicles, including quad 50s on a deuce and a half. The truck I was in was hauling 8" joes and we were hit several times by small arms fire. Thankfully no RPGs were fired at us. Some in the convoy were not so lucky. A week later, I was again assigned convoy guard duty. This time we were hit in Kontum as we waited for units to join us from MACV. A small child, a toddler, I know this because he wore no pants, walked up to a group of GIs about 50 meters from my vehicle, and dropped a grenade at his feet in the group. Four were killed, not including the baby, and several were wounded. Seventeen days in Vietnam and I already had PTSD. Been living with it for 45 years. About 4 years ago I finally started receiving VA disability for PTSD. As I age, the dreams and flash backs have returned. I take meds for them, but they are still there. I will die with them.
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MAJ Susan Grimm
MAJ Susan Grimm
9 y
I met some guys in CPT (cognitive processing training or therapy, I forget which) that came back from Vietnam, got out, went to work and thought they were fine. Then they retired and it all went to hell in a handbasket. Some of them said the CPT helped them.
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SSG William Patton
SSG William Patton
9 y
I am familiar with CPT. I worked for several years in mental health, until burn out hit, and we were required to attend CPT on a weekly basis to maintain our own mental health. It did help some, but since retirement, PTSD symptoms have gotten worse. I am skeptical about going to the VA. When I attended grad school I tried to do my internship at the VA and was turned down. I was the first student from my university to be turned down for this program. I learned from my advisor that it was because I was a Vietnam veteran. He could not fathom why. He felt my experience would be an asset because I could relate to others like myself and as long as I kept my professionalism, I could be fine and a good resource. I was denied entry by a panel of psychologists and shrinks who had never served in the military. It made not sense and further alienated me from that institution. That and other reasons keep me from going there for the help I need.
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SSG (ret) William Martin
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I simply don't know. Certain things upset me about knowing who I lost in Afghanistan. I deal with it when it happens.
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