As leaders do you take the time to learn both the male and female uniform and grooming standard?

SFC Anabel Cepero, I was at one time an OCS Tactical (Training) Officer, and I also did a tour as detailed Deputy IG. Knowing the regulations for both sexes was a matter of necessity and ultimately became routine.

Yes, but mostly because my ex wife was in the Army and she made me put her uniforms together ;)

You "memorize" the regulations which are "most applicable" to your day-to-day job.

I started my career at an Infantry BN, which was on a section of Camp Pendleton which didn't have females. The necessity for knowing female specific regulations was the same as knowing the necessity for knowing air-wing regulations. about zero.

It's not that I didn't care, it's that I only have limited space in my head for everything, and I have to prioritize what I can store. I have to choose what's important. Female specific regulations, at that point in my career were non-essential.

As soon as I PCS'd to Quantico, where there were females, I broke out the uniform regs, and refamilized myself with them, because my chances of running into the issue were significantly higher.

It's not about knowing the information. You can't know it all. It's knowing about where to find the information in case you need it. No one has the full uniform reg memorized. Everyone looks up specifics, as needed.