Is there any way I can change my first duty station.?

The swaps you’ve heard about are rumors and not based on reality. The only way to swap is if you request to swap with someone who wants your assignment, and you both will forfeit any reimbursement and be fully responsible for covering all costs of your PCS. Even if you’re willing to do that, you won’t find someone else who will, and HRC won’t approve a move that puts a Soldier in a financial hardship, like making an E1/2 pay thousands of dollars to cover their own move.

On the good side, you get to learn about the real world, and in the real world people in Oklahoma don’t care that you’re gay or black. They might not like you, or be friendly, you’re not going to get harassed walking down the street because of it. Plus, most of your time you’ll be on base with other Soldiers and living in the barracks.

Oh Jeez,

Unfortunately, you can not switch as HRC put you on assignment to a location requiring your MOS and Rank.

Oklahoma isn't that bad of a place. You will be fine

Whether Oklahoma or North Carolina or Upstate New York, there will always be that risk of someone not liking a black gay man. If someone does have an issue, that is what the authorities are for. You can submit for a compassionate reassignment, but it probably will not be granted. The only other option is to wait until you hit your 12 months TOS, submit the 4187 for the SWAPS, and pray that there is someone that also meets the same criteria you will have to meet and is willing/wanting to switch.....and pray that both your Commander and their Commander agree to the SWAP.