Can anyone give me advice, insight, or help with Divorce/Custody?

Hello Everyone, I really need to make this post because maybe some of you have experienced it, maybe not. I am a PFC and im 23 years old. I got married in DEC2018 right after AIT. Like most people money wasn't something I thought about when I got married, it was love. Fast forward to my first duty station, I quickly realized how much money I truly made and how much debt both I and my spouse had. I asked her to pick up a job to help with the bills and she declined with "I do not feel comfortable working here". I tried to brush this off my shoulder but the stress doesn't disappear, it felt unfair because she had at least 10k of premarital debt that she put on me. I begged for months for help but nothing. I could afford the bills but it was really taking a LARGE chunk out of our pay. After countless arguments, I recommended marriage counseling and again she declined with "Why let someone else tell us how to live our lives". Let me pause for a second. *Her mother also married a military man and never worked and her mother despises me for trying to get her daughter to work*. We then find out my spouse was pregnant (yes he's mine) my spouse becomes sick for a couple of months until she is given a medicine that helps her feel 80%. Once she started feeling better I tried to explain the finances again especially because we were about to have a child in 9 months. We disagreed and I ended up sending her home because she wasn't happy here anymore. She left in JULY 2019 and promised to work there because she felt more comfortable. I visited a couple of times at her house but her mother again treated me like shit and humiliated me multiple times. I explained to my spouse that I would no longer communicate with her mother for her poor actions. After this, my spouse said every month, too this day that she was going to find a job. We were discussing Divorce at this point because I felt like this marriage was a scam. She even admitted that the only reason her parents let me marry her was because they thought I was going to let her stay at the house. We both have debt, as an adult, I felt like we both are responsible. She is (23) I came to see my son be born JAN2020, He is perfect. However, My spouse restricted when I could and could not see him. I wasn't allowed to take him over to my parent's house or grandparents' house who live less than a mile away. After my paternity leave ended, She had not once taken our son to see my family. She won't discuss any agreements for our son. I find it unfair that she is doing that, secluding the child from my family. My mother has contacted her but no answer. I made my chain of command aware of this so many times that I lost count. Nothing Big Army can do for me. I understand were soldiers and we are mentally tough but think how scary it is to call over ten attorneys and have them tell you that you aren't going to get good custody if you don't move closer. I brought this up again to my chain but of course, I don't qualify for any reassignment. Every day I find it hard to focus on my mission because my son is true with a maniac. My chain knows this. Her brother threatened me by saying he would make sure I don't see my son anymore, Her father saying I will pay for the court proceedings. HRC? No answer, never an answer. Another issue we had was that my spouse bought a new car without my knowledge. Come to find out that this car was in her dad's name and all her family was on the insurance. I told my spouse that we won't pay unless he only puts your name on this car, she declined so I stopped paying for this car. This was the first time I have ever stepped up to her parents and my spouse says "You can only come over when my dad isn't home". Yeah, she lives with mommy and daddy and still doesn't work. I wasn't allowed to spend the night with her when she brought our son home. Restricted. Im ok, Im not depressed or in very bad pain but I just am disappointed that no one can help me. I really don't want to lose my son and from the sound of it, I am going to. Regardless of me having all of the evidence in text messages, it isn't looking good for me. We are on opposite sides of the country. Maybe someone has gone through this that can give me some insight or some good words of wisdom, or maybe help me out. I am currently looking for attorneys in CA but they are charging in the thousands and it doesn't guarantee anything. Thanks for listening. I just feel like I've tried everything and there is nothing that can be done.