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I am currently on active duty stationed at Fort Bragg, my wife just PCS'ed to Camp Humphreys, Korea. We found out she was pregnant shortly after she got there, I found out that I am being deployed within the next year and she is set to stay there for her next year. Shes going in to get it verified by a doctor, set next week. What are our options (us both being active duty)? Is she able to request separation while she is over there and come back to the states? Will she be sent here? Am I allowed to be stationed there? We just want to know our options before she is counseled. Ive read through AR 635-200 and a couple things were unclear to me. Thanks for the help.
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PFC (Join to see) A baby is good news, and your wife needs you to be happy for her and the new addition to your family. Don't ever let her think that this news is anything but a blessing.
You have a few angles to pursue here. I would not recommend going for a Chapter 8 in these circumstances, as SFC (Join to see) put so well. I would counsel you to go on the Married Army Couples Program and look into getting her assigned where you are or you going where she is. She will need you.
It is an exciting time, and I am happy for you. Prioritize how you can support you wife best and you will be on the right track.
You have a few angles to pursue here. I would not recommend going for a Chapter 8 in these circumstances, as SFC (Join to see) put so well. I would counsel you to go on the Married Army Couples Program and look into getting her assigned where you are or you going where she is. She will need you.
It is an exciting time, and I am happy for you. Prioritize how you can support you wife best and you will be on the right track.
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Yes she can request a Chapter 8 separation, however is that something the two of you really want to do since your family size is increasing? Is there any reason why the two of you didn’t go to Korea together? You stated you’re going to be deploying, what’s the point of her getting out to be closer to you if you’re going to be deploying (no disrespect intended)? Having a child with two incomes is stressful as it is, do you really want to lose an income and add more stress to your household. Many women have children while serving and it doesn’t stop them from being a parent to their children. Before you guys make a rapid decision, find out if your wife is truly pregnant and between the two of you, discuss the best course of action for your child. Once you’re expecting, the decision you make are no longer about what you want but about what your child needs....good luck to you....
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If your wife chooses to stay in based upon how much time she’s been in Korea and how far along she is, they can return her early prior to her 7th month. She can start communicating with her branch manager to ensure she gets Bragg under the MACP. The branch managers are there to assist you, however, they can’t assist without communication from the two of you. Just something to think about....PFC (Join to see)
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I am looking into chapter 8 for a soldier, and as I read the REG. it states that a woman cannot be separated while overseas. Is there something I'm missing here? I appreciate any advice you can give.
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I understand your wife wants to get out. You have to understand that's she's making a decision based on her emotions right now. It's normal for pregnant women to experience surges of hormones that lead to strong emotional drives. I've reenlisted a lot of pregnant women in the military who felt they had to reenlist right away so they could feel secure. I always counseled them to wait after their baby was born so they could make a more objective decision.
Yes, your wife wants to get out right now, but what makes you think she won't regret that decision in a year? In a year, your spouse can PCS to where you're at, just a few months after the baby is born. You can see her sooner than that if she is able to fly home on her maternity leave. You two need to have a discussion about what you want in your futures and what is best, as opposed to what you want in the moment. Otherwise, a year from now your spouse may be sitting in the recruiters office applying for a waiver to get back in.
Yes, your wife wants to get out right now, but what makes you think she won't regret that decision in a year? In a year, your spouse can PCS to where you're at, just a few months after the baby is born. You can see her sooner than that if she is able to fly home on her maternity leave. You two need to have a discussion about what you want in your futures and what is best, as opposed to what you want in the moment. Otherwise, a year from now your spouse may be sitting in the recruiters office applying for a waiver to get back in.
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I've been trying to tell her that, maybe after some time I'll be able to convince her. Thanks for the information!
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