Posted on Apr 3, 2019
How should I handle missing a drill weekend with my newborn baby admitted in the hospital?
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I have a newborn baby he’s 2 months old, he’s have been having breathing problems since he was born. However he’s been hospitalized again, but it’s his second time being hospitalized while also it being a drill weekend. The first time I was still on maternity leave, but I’ve been made to make up the drills I missed while on maternity leave. I’m in the hospital right now and I called my senior leader and explained to him, but he replied. They’re getting a lot of call ins and how I shouldn’t miss drill since I’m the BC’s driver, and I have obligations I need to fulfill.
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They do not have to excuse you for attending, but they should.
There are no responsibilities you should have as a driver that supersede the health care of your child.
If you were my troop, I would ask some clarifying questions, and if satisfied that your situation is legitimate, would give you A's without a second thought.
Then I'd show up at the hospital after drill with a get well card, a little gift, and all the support my unit could muster for you.
I've been in your shoes, not long before going to Africa in 2013. My little boy pulled through just fine, but he had us pretty scared for a while there.
It is not hard to have some empathy and take care of Soldiers and their families.
Good luck, PFC (Join to see) .
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There are no responsibilities you should have as a driver that supersede the health care of your child.
If you were my troop, I would ask some clarifying questions, and if satisfied that your situation is legitimate, would give you A's without a second thought.
Then I'd show up at the hospital after drill with a get well card, a little gift, and all the support my unit could muster for you.
I've been in your shoes, not long before going to Africa in 2013. My little boy pulled through just fine, but he had us pretty scared for a while there.
It is not hard to have some empathy and take care of Soldiers and their families.
Good luck, PFC (Join to see) .
Prayers of support from Badger 7.
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I did. I explained everything that was going on and even sent him pictures of my baby on oxygen, and told him that I would get him all the proper documentation that was needed as soon as he was discharged. As soon as I told him that he was admitted and I wasn't coming to drill. I haven't heard anything back from him. I'm hoping that I don't get any backlash for not going. I'm prepared just in case, cause this wasn't an easy decision for me. I love going to drill, but my son comes first.
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PFC (Join to see) - Focus on the child.
If there are any sideways consequences, use the open door policy to see the commander.
If there are any sideways consequences, use the open door policy to see the commander.
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1SG (Join to see), do you need a 68S SSG(P) type in your unit? Your expertise and leadership is outstanding
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MSG (Join to see) - Thanks, buddy.
Unfortunately no, we only have 68Ws in my unit.
You aren't too shabby yourself.
Unfortunately no, we only have 68Ws in my unit.
You aren't too shabby yourself.
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Your senior leader is not the authority, your Company Commander is. If your newborn is in the hospital, you need to contact the CO, let him know that you are in the hospital with your newborn, you spoke with your senior leader who sounded like he was not going to forward your request, and ask the CO for an authorized absence or SUTA K (make up the drill time prior to the next drill).
When your senior leader stated that a lot of people were calling in to miss drill, most of those are requests that should be denied, like work and school conflicts (the drill schedule goes out a year in advance, and MDAYs are required to make those arrangements for work and school).
Requests that should be approved are when an MDAY (or their child or spouse) is in a hospital.
No offense, but your duty position is not critical, in that anyone can be the BCs driver, up to and including the BN CSM. It's a BSB, there are literally hundreds of drivers available.
When your senior leader stated that a lot of people were calling in to miss drill, most of those are requests that should be denied, like work and school conflicts (the drill schedule goes out a year in advance, and MDAYs are required to make those arrangements for work and school).
Requests that should be approved are when an MDAY (or their child or spouse) is in a hospital.
No offense, but your duty position is not critical, in that anyone can be the BCs driver, up to and including the BN CSM. It's a BSB, there are literally hundreds of drivers available.
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1SG (Join to see) Pretty much nailed it. From the Army's standpoint, your commitment to the Army superceded all other things. Now... The Army's commitment to YOU should supercede MOST things. Like, everything except mission, most things. Technically, your unit can say you are mission critical and not excuse you. BUT.... You are a PFC. You are the BC's driver. Neither of those screams "we can't operate without PFC Fulton!". If your unit can't manage to operate without you - they have no one else who can drive a HMMWV (and make the BC's coffee, of course - that may be more important than driving) - then the UNIT is pretty danged messed up.
And you can tell your senior leader I said so. (But I wouldn't recommend it, because you will end up in trouble for my words.)
And you can tell your senior leader I said so. (But I wouldn't recommend it, because you will end up in trouble for my words.)
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