Posted on Oct 2, 2018
Were you are the same person you were at seventeen?
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I was pretty much your average teenager. I wasn't thinking beyond graduation, I didn't have a clue as to what I wanted to do with the rest of my life, but I was absolutely positive that I was madly in love with this Sailor I knew, who was off the coast of Vietnam, and I knew that I wanted to be in the military but I was still a bit foggy on that one, because I had a mother who loved her time in the Navy, and a father who could pull out pictures of generations of family who served in the Marines, but I KNEW what Marine Bases were like, and I wanted to travel, so that was on hold for a bit.
I would spend hours trying to figure out which jeans went best with my favorite pair of cowboy boots, and just what top would be right for church with my new skirt. I was a mass of stupid actions, confused emotions and really badly thought out decisions, because I didn't have plans or any real idea of what I wanted to do or be for the next fifty years... does anyone?
Now I do admit that I made a few good decisions, like refusing alcohol, because I knew damned well, I couldn't do a glass of wine at home without getting giggly, so I developed a stupid way to keep others from thinking I was a prim little girl... I'd ask for Wild Turkey and coke... knowing that no one could afford it, so when they said it wasn't available, I instantly became the Duty Driver, because I just 'had my heart set on the good stuff that night, and nothing else would do..."
I do admit I went thru a raft of frog kissing though... Hey, Seventeen, big brown eyes, red blond hair and a Texas drawl, who looked reasonably good in a cheerleader uniform, what can I say? By the time I graduated, a few months later, I was nowhere near the same girl. I'd had my heart broken by the Sailor, lost three good friends to Vietnam, and taken a long hard look at myself. I signed up for the Army, because the Marines had a waiting list, that was the long and short of it, and by the end of that year, I was in Germany, learning how to ask for the restroom in a few different languages, and still trying to figure out what the hell I wanted to do for the rest of my life.
Now, looking back on my life with the perspective of several decades. I know the idiot I was, is nothing like the woman I am now. The girl who wanted an engagement ring, no has a shiney new pickup. The girl who thought she'd die when her sailor walked away, found some amazing strength, married a really good man, and raised two daughters who made it to 18 without jail records or tattoos, which isn't too bad in this day and age. I still don't drink, but I don't look down on those who do. I still remember stupid events and stupid decisions, but they aren't me now, so don't judge the person I am by the idiocy I created at 17, and I will do the same for you.
Look at me now! The graying redhead who has one novel under her belt, working on another, who lives in an RV surrounded by cows, with three annoying little dogs, one spoiled cat, and steps away from her best friend and adopted sister of 50 years. I knit, I cuss, I watch Dr Who and I love Mel Brooks movies. That is the person I want people to know, not the idiot who worried about which jeans would go with what boots or I could get the absolute perfect Farrah Faucett Hair.
I would spend hours trying to figure out which jeans went best with my favorite pair of cowboy boots, and just what top would be right for church with my new skirt. I was a mass of stupid actions, confused emotions and really badly thought out decisions, because I didn't have plans or any real idea of what I wanted to do or be for the next fifty years... does anyone?
Now I do admit that I made a few good decisions, like refusing alcohol, because I knew damned well, I couldn't do a glass of wine at home without getting giggly, so I developed a stupid way to keep others from thinking I was a prim little girl... I'd ask for Wild Turkey and coke... knowing that no one could afford it, so when they said it wasn't available, I instantly became the Duty Driver, because I just 'had my heart set on the good stuff that night, and nothing else would do..."
I do admit I went thru a raft of frog kissing though... Hey, Seventeen, big brown eyes, red blond hair and a Texas drawl, who looked reasonably good in a cheerleader uniform, what can I say? By the time I graduated, a few months later, I was nowhere near the same girl. I'd had my heart broken by the Sailor, lost three good friends to Vietnam, and taken a long hard look at myself. I signed up for the Army, because the Marines had a waiting list, that was the long and short of it, and by the end of that year, I was in Germany, learning how to ask for the restroom in a few different languages, and still trying to figure out what the hell I wanted to do for the rest of my life.
Now, looking back on my life with the perspective of several decades. I know the idiot I was, is nothing like the woman I am now. The girl who wanted an engagement ring, no has a shiney new pickup. The girl who thought she'd die when her sailor walked away, found some amazing strength, married a really good man, and raised two daughters who made it to 18 without jail records or tattoos, which isn't too bad in this day and age. I still don't drink, but I don't look down on those who do. I still remember stupid events and stupid decisions, but they aren't me now, so don't judge the person I am by the idiocy I created at 17, and I will do the same for you.
Look at me now! The graying redhead who has one novel under her belt, working on another, who lives in an RV surrounded by cows, with three annoying little dogs, one spoiled cat, and steps away from her best friend and adopted sister of 50 years. I knit, I cuss, I watch Dr Who and I love Mel Brooks movies. That is the person I want people to know, not the idiot who worried about which jeans would go with what boots or I could get the absolute perfect Farrah Faucett Hair.
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Cpl Glynis Sakowicz - All I'm gonna say is...I'm glad they didn't have cell phones with cameras and social media accounts when I was a teenager. Some of the stupid shenanigans I did are best long forgotten in the distant past.
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Cpl Glynis Sakowicz
I suppose, the lesson we can take from this, is make sure everyone who knew you back then is unable to speak...before you consider a government office! Lord have Mercy... if half of my crap was known... I mean, I can see it now! "... and here are photos of her actually tipping a cow in High School... and PETA is out if force today circling her home!!!"
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MSgt Steven Holt, NRP, CCEMT-P
Agreed. If we're going to continue to disqualify folks because of poor decisions they made in their youth, Bill Clinton should have never been POTUS, and 90% of Congress should never have gotten elected. We've all done stupid stuff we can look back on now and say, "Boy, that was really dumb. Wish I hadn't done that." The zero-defect mentality has definitely gotten out of hand.
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Cpl Glynis Sakowicz I can easily say I am not the same person. At 17, I was dating my wife of now 19 years. I was so against everything military, didn't want to join, hated school, thought I knew everything. Now, 39 still hate school but have to help kids stuff, I didn't even do in high school. LOL and look at me know in the military and love mentoring soldiers. Yeah, I joined a little late at 31, but oh well. At least I know I don't know everything now. LOL But I do know more than I did back then in 96.
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Age 17!...I don't think I was ever that age. I can't remember what happened a year ago, much less 41 years ago!
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Cpl Glynis Sakowicz
Ahh yes, the onset of, as I like to call it, "CRS" the "Can't Remember Sh*%" era of our lives. We find our keys in the fridge, we look for reading glasses all day only to find them on our forehead, and we demand others help us look for the phone that we have in our hand or pocket... comes in stages, really confusing at times, and at other times something to laugh about with others in the same age. Don't worry, it does get better... either that, or we get better at holding onto the things we really need.!
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