Need advice on taking ADOS orders from the Guard or continue to pursue going active, I have been put in a tight spot right now.

ADOS money can dry up quickly so if you have the opportunity to go active duty then take it. ADOS is only temporary then you are right back where you started.

ADOS is taking care of your Family.
ADOS can lead to AGR, which is the cat's meow. AGR is the Army's best kept secret.
Why do you want to go active?
Travel somewhere new and exciting every few years?
Or stay local and your kids can make long term friends in the same school district, and your wife can find and keep a job.
AGR, or ADOS, can offer you the opportunity to learn new MOS, special skills, and network.
You have the option to transfer among commands, earn rank, and secure your future.
Make the decision that is best for your Family. Your COC will understand if you are upfront and honest.
Good luck!

SSG(P) (Join to see) There is nothing stopping you from accepting the ADOS orders while looking to get an AGR gig. If after 9 months, you come up empty, you can start the conditional release process to go AD.