Do you consider yourself a leader; in civilian life?

Yes I do. I am not a boss. There is a huge difference in my opinion.

Now that I am retired, I am a mere domestic ho.

I think military service tends to bring out the leader in us all. That being said, there are opportunities to lead everywhere...from participating in service organizations and volunteering for charities, church, civilian careers (whether in a supervisory position or the career itself, ie. law enforcement), etc.