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I have seen it happen a couple of times in my short 7 years in. Men and women who get married serving in the same unit go to guard drill weekend and are not allowed to room together. I have thought about this and come a couple but i do not see them as valid. Maybe it's a rank problem. Then I seen an E-8 and an E-7 get denied the ability to room together. I would love to hear some input on this as I don't see why it is a big deal. They are married and live together out side of drill. Then there's the thought of its a sex issue again they are married and you can't tell me that two guys who are guy are going to get denied the ability to room together or two girls who are gay get denied the ability to lodge together. We wouldn't see two brothers or two sisters denied the ability to room together. I really see no issue if it's a two person room why a married couple can't room together. Why do we deny this privilege? What are the thoughts in this matter?
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Rooming rights isn’t quite the words you are looking for, maybe rooming privilege. My unit has had to deal with this as well at a higher level. I’m not sure what the result was, I didn’t really know either of them. But when it was being discussed, the simple answer was you weren’t married on deployment, you were the Army’s and you were there to do a job. Something tells me they did end up rooming together, but it wasn’t from the start. They had to prove themselves before the privilege was granted.
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As a Company Commander in Iraq from 2007-2008, I had three married couples in my unit and they did indeed room together in a two person room. One couple consisted of an E6 & E5, and the other two couples were all E4s.
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MAJ Brent Lewis, I am happy to hear this. My question was more geared towards the one weekend a month that a guardsmen dose. But what you have said dose give me hope that it can change as it sounds like it is up to the discretion of the commander.
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Sir,
How was that perceived by other SMs. As stated, it is a logical approach, but not an orthodox practice I have seen. Do you believe it potentially discouraged infidelity? If so, do you believe this should be a common practice?
Very Respectfully,
1LT Krohn
How was that perceived by other SMs. As stated, it is a logical approach, but not an orthodox practice I have seen. Do you believe it potentially discouraged infidelity? If so, do you believe this should be a common practice?
Very Respectfully,
1LT Krohn
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Actually...there was never any hell, hate, or discontent about it from other Soldiers. A few jokes about finding a wife were definitely heard though. Matter of fact...one of the general orders that was in effect when my unit arrived in country was that there would be no sexual intercourse amongst the ranks. However...that did not apply to married couples who shared the same room. Trust me...it wasn't my idea to allow this...the Division Commander allowed married couples to stay together. Besides...who was going to go make sure they WEREN'T having sex? Matter of fact, a few months into the deployment, a new Division took over and they allowed male Soldiers to visit female Soldiers in their room and vice versa...with a curfew of course...and the no sex rule went away...as far as I was concerned anyway. This should undoubtedly be common practice. One...Soldiers are going to have sex...it's a given...anywhere...yes even in port-o-lets. And two...unless a Soldier is committing adultery, fraternizing or contributing to the overall disorder of the unit..why not?
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Ssgt Vance...I can totally understand separating married couples during drill weekend...especially if it involves staying in open bay or segregated barracks. But...hearing that the Army and Air Force Reserves provide hotel rooms for their Soldiers and Airman...as a Commander I would have no problem rooming a married couple together.
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While I agree with your analysis of the situation, I believe that it is more of maintaining a professional atmosphere. It hopefully discourages other individuals within the unit from pursuing a route of marrying just to gain room privileges. Other than that, your argument is logical.
Very Respectfully,
1LT Krohn
Very Respectfully,
1LT Krohn
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