Would you adopt a child?

2016-04-20T10:10:17-04:00

My wife and I have been wanting to adopt a child for 6 years now, we are starting the prep process all over again next month but i was wondering, why other people choose to or not to adopt.

Response by LTC Kevin B. made Apr 20 at 2016 10:11 AM

2016-04-20T10:11:43-04:00

I would, and I have (two girls, in fact).

Response by 1stSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 20 at 2016 10:21 AM

2016-04-20T10:21:05-04:00

I am adopted and believe it is the greatest thing my parents have ever done. I hope that I am able to at some point adequately thank them for their love, time and treasure.

Response by PO2 Jack Mitchell made Apr 20 at 2016 10:25 AM

2016-04-20T10:25:29-04:00

Yes my wife and I have talked about it many times

Response by PO3 Shayne Seibert made Apr 20 at 2016 10:33 AM

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My first wife and I looked into adoption, as she couldn't have kids. A lot of kids out there needing families. Go for it. You will never regret it.

Response by SCPO David Lockwood made Apr 20 at 2016 10:47 AM

2016-04-20T10:47:21-04:00

I would adopt if I were younger.

Response by Nancy Cross made Apr 20 at 2016 11:20 AM

2016-04-20T11:20:13-04:00

100%yes

Response by Lt Col Scott Shuttleworth made Apr 20 at 2016 11:21 AM

2016-04-20T11:21:07-04:00

My wife and I talked about it after the birth of our one and only child. Very difficult pregnancy but God gave us a beautiful daughter and everyone made it through safely and we decided at that time not to have another...naturally. We just never pursued it. I think it is a wonderful thing to adopt a child and give them a loving warm home versus them growing up where they might have grown up or having been aborted. I applaud anyone who does that. Now my daughter is almost 18 and to start over just isn't in the cards for us.

Response by CAPT Kevin B. made Apr 20 at 2016 11:30 AM

2016-04-20T11:30:05-04:00

After years of playing the infertility game, we did two adoptions which turned out to be full siblings. Funny that we're all in Cali for their Grandma's funeral. I'd advise checking out your options carefully. Agencies first priority is perpetuating the agency, not finding kids a good match. Private adoptions come with significant risk. We did the hybrid, i.e. a facilitated adoption by professionals who ensure the process is properly run. Also there are adoption friendly and adoption adverse states. California is a bad one with birth mom "rights" run amok. She can change her mind down the road and grab the kid back. We were in Washington and adopted out of Oklahoma. Oklahoma has a 72 hour rule for changing your mind so it's best to pick the kid up afterwards where there's no legal recourse. Also adoption between states has the Interstate Compact Commission involvement too so it's not a "Legal Zoom" type thing you'll do.

Response by Nancy Cross made Apr 20 at 2016 11:30 AM

2016-04-20T11:30:39-04:00

Trying to figure out how to cover the cost has always been the deterrent for me . I have helped two friends with fundraisers to be able to adopt their kids . I have looked into doing the foster to adopt as well and I'm not tough enough. You foster a kid for years and then the biological parents can still get them back . It crushes me thinking about it :( I wish you and your family well !! If you do adopt and need help with fundraisers hit me up !!

Response by PO1 Brian Austin made Apr 20 at 2016 12:11 PM

2016-04-20T12:11:22-04:00

If my wife and I had been unable to have children we definitely would've attempted adoption.
My sister is adopted. She found her biological mother a couple years ago, living just a few miles away. She had a successful reunion and now has three sisters. I'm happy for her as our mother passed back in 1975 when my sister was 5.

Response by CW3(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 20 at 2016 12:24 PM

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My wife and i almost did. One of her friends was havingva bad time of things and rather than strangers we decided that we would. But things worked out in the end.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 20 at 2016 2:15 PM

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I adopted a girl. She is my daughter and I love her as much as my biological children. It wasn't easy but in the end, the best thing that can happen to their/your lives.

Response by SFC Marcus Belt made Apr 20 at 2016 2:23 PM

2016-04-20T14:23:36-04:00

My wife and I have discussed adoption or fostering, but--and some may call this an excuse--we're looking to do it when I don't have my current 1/1 OPTEMPO.

We've even started the educational process to foster in our home county, and came to the conclusion that though we feel compelled to contribute, we also know our current limitations: I'm gone for half the year, every year (not counting schools and PMT), and my wife is a DA Civilian.

Our adult kids wish we'd get on with it already!

Response by CPL Joshua Wood made Apr 20 at 2016 5:59 PM

2016-04-20T17:59:35-04:00

The wife and I cannot wait until we are out of school and settled in. We are going to adopt for sure! I want to help and I want to leave a positive mark on this earth knowing I did something to help someone who really needed it. Saving a life or two from the hell that would await them is something I cant pass up. We have been married for almost 6 years and just have a few more until we could properly provide for them.

Response by SCPO Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 21 at 2016 12:55 AM

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Thirty years ago, my then wife and I desperately wanted to do so, but Catholic Charities in Kansas City flat out told us, "You read the wrong Bible."

Response by SSG Trevor S. made Apr 21 at 2016 1:14 AM

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Before I met that beautiful lady in my profile picture, the only way I considered having children was through adoption. I have two kick a55 kids now. I still consider adoption. I had a back ground that makes adoption a //// real consideration.

Response by SSG Dennis Grossmann made Apr 21 at 2016 1:27 AM

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Been there done that. I'm glad I did it. Some couples adopt out of infertility, or maybe they have had to foster a relatives child. I know a couple that adopted then had a few more. Make sure that you are ready. It is a lifetime commitment.

Response by Tyra Lynne Wahl made Apr 22 at 2016 10:28 PM

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Kids are something that two people need to be totally honest about while they're dating. If one "gives up" their want to be a parent that will spell trouble for the marriage down the road. But for those who want children and cannot have them.... then adoption is a dream come true, well, for those that can afford it. That is unless you are willing to adopt out of your local DSS pool of kids... then they almost pay you to take them and in some cases give them money for college and medical care as well. Our next door neighbors adopted 3, a brother and two sisters all in one swoop... instant family, and they're doing great.

My husband and I knew when we were dating that neither of us wanted children and we have never wavered in our desire to remain child-free.

Response by Stacy Jones made Apr 25 at 2016 4:24 PM

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I grew up in a family with very loving parents, they raised their own 8 children, and they took in foster children, they took in the kids that nobody else seemed to want, you know, teenagers, and children that were labelled trouble-makers. As an adult, I had 3 of my own children, and I adopted 4 children. I love each of my 7 children equally, as if they are all mine, biologically. Nearly 2 years ago, 1 of my adopted children died, I still grieve for him, and cry for him, every single day. Nobody seems to understand the bond I had with him, I get told frequently that he wasn't even one of my "real" kids and that I should get over it and just move on. He was just 5 when I adopted him, so, what exactly makes a child your "real" child? As with all of my children, I fed him and clothed him, when he was sick, I took him to his doctors and made sure he took his medication as prescribed, when he had nightmares as a child, he crawled into bed with me, when he had any type of problem, he came to me, because his "Real" mother told him she wanted to abort him, so when I heard she had put his little sister up for adoption, also, I adopted her, as well. You can't possibly know how much it means to me that every time we talk she tells me how grateful she is that I'm a part of her life, because, she says, that I am the only real parent she has ever had

Response by Capt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 25 at 2016 4:39 PM

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Between my wife and I three out of sic=x kids were adopted.

Response by CPT Pedro Meza made Sep 27 at 2016 5:56 PM

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Twice, and as long as you have the support of your wife because it will not be easy and once you have the child to refunds and no returns apply. So do our research right, there are many kids with issues..