Where can I go if my CoC cannot help me?

2018-10-29T03:51:48-04:00

I have a severe issue with my roommate, leading to an extremely hostile barracks environment. Currently being seen at my unit's EBH clinic for depression and social anxiety. Sadly, since I am 51 days from my ETS, they will not allow an administrative separation. Issues with my roommate fall under things like, him not respecting my own space in our shared room, him bringing random local girls in and having sex while I'm in the same room, him talking loudly on the phone until 3 am on work nights.
On one of the instances (him not respecting my space) I recently acted upon. He uses a lot of different hair products, so much that he cannot fit them on his side of the sink or in his medicine cabinet. I told him multiple times to please keep them off my side of the sink, and I simply moved them to the other side. He moved them back, so I gave him an ultimatum. Keep them on his side, or I would throw them out. He responded with "Throw them out, see what happens nigga!" That was 6 days ago, and this morning I found his stuff back on my side. I moved them one last time, and when he put them back i simply put what was on my side into a trash bag and threw it away. I notified my leadership of my problems long ago and nothing has been done. Once he discovers his things have been thrown away, he may contact the MP's, which I understand. The thing is, my leadership was tracking there was an issue with him long before anything needed to escalate to this. Could I possibly take this to IG?

Response by SFC Marc W. made Oct 29 at 2018 8:48 AM

2018-10-29T08:48:48-04:00

You could go to IG, taking it further up the chain than your team leader might be the better response. My $.02, you're 51 days away from never dealing with him again, screw what's on the sink.

Response by SGT Tony Clifford made Oct 29 at 2018 11:17 AM

2018-10-29T11:17:33-04:00

Dude, you're less than 2 months out! Why would you decide that now's the time to get into it with your roommate? The throwing out of his personal property is actionable, if he makes a big enough stink out of it. If you have any leave, put in for terminal leave and start outprocessing. To answer your question, you can talk to your leadership and if they don't act, you can go to IG. Personally, I think that it would be less of a headache to just tolerate it and for a couple months until ETS.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 29 at 2018 11:52 AM

2018-10-29T11:52:18-04:00

Not to make light of your trouble, but this reads like an article from the duffle blog. Hair products on your side of sink? And this is partly causing depression and anxiety?

ETS, and good luck

Response by Evan Duda made Oct 29 at 2018 4:17 PM

2018-10-29T16:17:19-04:00

My thoughts? You're less than two months from never laying eyes on him again. Just man up for these 51 days and tolerate him as best as you can. Some soldiers have a lot worse problems than an unfriendly relationship with a roommate. Best of luck.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 29 at 2018 5:25 PM

2018-10-29T17:25:35-04:00

It is a shared room you have no expectation of personal space with the exception of a wall locker/lockable closet which ever you have. Actual offenses that have been committed, you destroyed personal property and he may have violated the Barracks policy by having intercourse in the room. Other than that stop whining like a 6 year old. Oh no his stuff is on my side. Your roommate ignores you and steps on you like a piece of trash because you allow it

Response by SFC Javier CruzColon made Oct 29 at 2018 5:35 PM

2018-10-29T17:35:05-04:00

Ithink is time to escalate it, talk to the highest coc, Call the IG if everything fails you may have to take you need to documents all your actions when and were you did notified your change of command and higher coc too including the inspector general, I just would pack of yiur roommate extras garbage place it in a trashbag and put it on his ao... be prepared to make an stand sometimes is always there an bully in our lives get the MP in the speed dial and if is positive record everything in a webcamm.
Bullies are a black eyes to every organization
Record everything just incase yiu need it later

Response by PO2 Raven Attwood made Oct 29 at 2018 11:07 PM

2018-10-29T23:07:17-04:00

How far up the chain have you taken it? Have you put in a formal request to be moved to a different room? Throwing your roommate's stuff away was not a smart move. I got rid of one roommate by calling the MPs when they had an unauthorized guest fast asleep in there with them. I did it because they set my pillow and afghan out on the doorstep with a note asking me to come back in the morning. I would have ignored the guest otherwise. Living at close quarters is something we all have to put up with. Close as you are to the end, can you take terminal leave to get out of there quicker? It does sound like a frustrating situation.