What to do if I get kicked out of my home?

2020-04-06T03:08:49-04:00

So I was married in January, been away on mission ever since. We haven't gotten our bah yet (paperwork issues. Almost sorted out...maybe) my wifes been living with her parents since I met her and we were planning to live there till the bah and housing got taken care of. However the family relationship is toxic and her mother has threatened to kick us out. If this were to happen what would my options be? The housing situation is very confusing due to the current covid-19 situation hotels are closed and military housing doesn't seem to be open till may at the earliest.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 3:26 AM

2020-04-06T03:26:21-04:00

I am active duty

Response by SGT Robert Pryor made Apr 6 at 2020 3:38 AM

2020-04-06T03:38:55-04:00

Your question is one that should have been answered before you decided to marry.

Response by WO1 Jose R. made Apr 6 at 2020 3:43 AM

2020-04-06T03:43:54-04:00

On post housing if you are active duty is an option.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 5:16 AM

2020-04-06T05:16:32-04:00

What ever made the Toxic relationship with the family, work on it, and figger it out. I'm sure the family mentioned the problem to you and your wife. If you have to, then, do it, to have a free place to live at for the mean time.

Response by CSM Darieus ZaGara made Apr 6 at 2020 6:07 AM

2020-04-06T06:07:14-04:00

First you should be able to fix the relationship or at least operate with respect toward their wishes, it is there home? In the meantime ask your command, there may be an emergency accommodation for housing. Really respect your elders and live quietly in their space.

Response by SGT Robert Wager made Apr 6 at 2020 6:48 AM

2020-04-06T06:48:42-04:00

Move back in the barracks. Talk to your NCO support channel and let them know what is going on.

If you are married and not receiving BAH the toxins are 99% financial I’m sure.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 8:08 AM

2020-04-06T08:08:25-04:00

Dude you’re still dealing with this?
Have you gone to S1 yet? Have you done ANYTHING to be proactive towards getting out of that house?

Response by SSgt Christophe Murphy made Apr 6 at 2020 9:23 AM

2020-04-06T09:23:04-04:00

First, work on the family relationship. That problem won't go away overnight but you will need to at least keep things civil. Second, you need to use your chain of Command and get assistance with locking down your admins issues and locking down some base housing if you want to go that route. Your leadership literally handles stuff like this on a weekly basis. Gutting it out solo won't go well.

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 11:04 AM

2020-04-06T11:04:39-04:00

People in the military get married all the time. Never heard of this problem. 1st off, it's not your home. Find a place (apartment) take out a loan if needed and take care of yourself and your wife.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 11:59 AM

2020-04-06T11:59:57-04:00

You had a similar post a month ago and you did not respond to questions from that post. You mention being kicked out of your home but this is not your home, it is your wife's parents home. Your post does not make sense. Are you being kicked out or just your wife, since you are on a "mission" What mission? What are you not telling us?

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 12:03 PM

2020-04-06T12:03:04-04:00

BLUF, the situation has been one the family has had long before me, it will not be fixed so don't bother mentioning. the question is more about where to house my wife not me, have options but I'm looking for more, that's why I'm asking for options and resources, NOT opinions, I should have mentioned this sooner though it's probably too late. On base housing is essentially closed due to COVID-19, I don't know how it is for other bases but you can't get housing right now.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 12:11 PM

2020-04-06T12:11:55-04:00

Best thing to do is continue to bug your S1 and check with your Finance office. Try and workout a agreement with your mother in law to allow your wife to stay there until you get your back pay and finish whatever mission your on.

-Best Of Luck

Response by SPC Erich Guenther made Apr 6 at 2020 5:18 PM

2020-04-06T17:18:56-04:00

Not sure what your money situation is but a lot of Apartments offer what is called a "Corporate Apartment" for a short term lease for business people in transition or attending classes. Apartment is usually furnished. I am not sure if Apartment leasing offices are open but you should be able to call around and find out. You'll pay more for a regular apartment because it is furnished and typically has maid service as well once or twice a week. Price is less per month than a hotel though.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 6 at 2020 7:27 PM

2020-04-06T19:27:08-04:00

you are going to have a short career if you don't take any initiative to fix the issues you have potentially caused. Housing offices are open by appointment only. Make the call and set up appointment. Maybe contact your chain of command and have them help.

Response by SP5 Jerry Mucha made Apr 8 at 2020 3:56 PM

2020-04-08T15:56:26-04:00

Try to resolve the issues that have threatened both your family and your wife's. There must be some thing that can be resolved with diligence and compromise.