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Response by PO3 Rick Lewis made Sep 13 at 2021 11:44 AM

PO3 Rick Lewis — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 11:44:06 -0400

I learned that I could handle more heat than I thought I could and that I had more guts than I ever imagined I had.

Response by CPL Ryan Thibault made Sep 13 at 2021 2:52 PM

CPL Ryan Thibault — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 14:52:07 -0400

I learned a lot about the power of working together/teamwork. For so long in my life, “teamwork”, was lumped in with social status or some people were just not team members. That made me a lot more independent. However, in the military, you are pushed past those limitations and those that stay away from working with others find themselves forced to get the job done. A lot of friendships are made this way. Alternatively, sometimes people learn to stay away from certain ones but, you begin to find your people. “Your people” are the ones that you share a lot in common with and are able to foster some great relationships with others.

Response by MCPO Hilary Kunz made Sep 13 at 2021 2:54 PM

MCPO Hilary Kunz — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 14:54:17 -0400

I really enjoyed learning. I thrived in the training, trying to suck as much information as I could, even the more in-depth self learning as I dove into how a ship runs. I achieved a qualification the month before I retired, because I wanted to learn more even as I was leaving.

Response by SPC Tom Richardson made Sep 13 at 2021 3:38 PM

SPC Tom Richardson — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 15:38:10 -0400

I never thought I could push my body as hard a I did or the mind.

Response by SPC Margaret Higgins made Sep 13 at 2021 6:06 PM

SPC Margaret Higgins — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 18:06:40 -0400

RallyPoint News: In the Army, I learned how to be a great Squad Leader. I led my Squad members with: Honor; Respect; Love; and, with Compassion.
In the Army I was; a Squad Leader; a Graduate-with-Honor; a Sports Director; and, I was a Sports Director for Dependent Youths.

Response by SMSgt Jeff Kyle made Sep 13 at 2021 8:21 PM

SMSgt Jeff Kyle — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 20:21:37 -0400

Best way I can say it was when the kimchee hit the high speed rotating oscillator, I didn’t flinch. I ran towards disaster instead of running away. The military (mostly the Marine Corps) gave me all the tools I needed to succeed. Putting those tools to the test was, hell, I don’t know how to put it. When the truck caught fire, I ran towards it. Didn’t matter there was a fully loaded and fueled C-141 just 20 feet away. When the H-3 crashed, I ran towards the crash. Didn’t think nothing of consequences. When we had to bring the C-130 crew to their first leg home after the crash it was tough. Sitting on 6 dead guys was indescribably horrible. It had to be done and I did it without much thought. Could I have done it as a civilian? I doubt it. I didn’t know my abilities back then.

Response by PO2 Marco Monsalve made Sep 13 at 2021 10:11 PM

PO2 Marco Monsalve — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 22:11:42 -0400

That there was more there than you might have thought there was and circumstances and people that you might not have imagined brought it all out. Wouldn't trade it for anything.

Response by SrA Sean M. made Sep 14 at 2021 7:44 PM

SrA Sean M. — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:44:50 -0400

That it was a huge mistake personally, professionally, and mentally to re-enlist and I should have started my post-military career earlier.

Response by SGT Kevin Taber made Sep 14 at 2021 7:45 PM

SGT Kevin Taber — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:45:10 -0400

To believe in myself. I learned how to push my limits

Response by SGT Trish Woodbury made Sep 14 at 2021 7:46 PM

SGT Trish Woodbury — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:46:37 -0400

Way stronger physically and mentally than I ever thought I could be

Response by MAJ Janice Campbell. BSN, RN, CNOR made Sep 14 at 2021 7:49 PM

MAJ Janice Campbell. BSN, RN, CNOR — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:49:43 -0400

The quiet leader in me. Yes, the leadership training I received in both my military and civilian career was beneficial, but was still sort of surprised how "normal" it is for me. Feel very blessed for all my experiences and opportunities.

Response by PO1 Ricky Allen made Sep 14 at 2021 7:50 PM

PO1 Ricky Allen — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:50:15 -0400

I learned the culture I grew up in was very small in context and that I was changing if not evolving into someone far past a small town’s “unwritten rules” and traditions. I was and am good with that.

Response by PO1 Phil Audritsh made Sep 14 at 2021 7:50 PM

PO1 Phil Audritsh — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:50:21 -0400

I learned how long I could stay awake and still fiction!

Response by SGT Leonard Frank made Sep 14 at 2021 7:51 PM

SGT Leonard Frank — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:51:17 -0400

First thing to come to mind is, being able to do things you never thought you could do. Working all day then finding out in one hour you have guard duty for another 12 hours. More to come

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 14 at 2021 7:52 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:52:02 -0400

So there have been A LOT of things I have learned about myself. I’ve learned I can face difficult situations, even when my heart feels like it’s going to burst out of my chest. I’ve learned that I am a really good leader and I enjoy leading my troops from the front. I never in a million years thought I could and would be a good leader and here I am killin’ it, or so my soldiers say. I’ve learned I can work under pressure and most times, that is when I do my best work. I’ve learned I can rely on others; that I don’t have to do it all myself like I have my entire life.
But most importantly, I learned what it means to be apart of something greater than myself. I’ve learned the true meaning of family, what it means to have someone truly have your six no matter what, and what it means to be a true and fierce protector of all this great country has to offer.

Response by Lt Col John (Jack) Christensen made Sep 14 at 2021 7:59 PM

Lt Col John (Jack) Christensen — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 19:59:08 -0400

T.hat I really could climb that rope and rappel down a cliff.

Response by SFC Stephen King made Sep 14 at 2021 8:00 PM

SFC Stephen King — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:00:03 -0400

I found that balance was the driving aspect of my life. I realized I could only control my thoughts and not others. Positive thinking became my goal. It took 20 yrs but I realized I had to change to build connections.

Response by SSG Cheryl Maxwell made Sep 14 at 2021 8:04 PM

SSG Cheryl Maxwell — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:04:34 -0400

I learned that I can handle more than I thought! I learned so many leadership skills and enjoyed leading! I also learned a lot about teamwork!

Response by CPO William Slifko made Sep 14 at 2021 8:07 PM

CPO William Slifko — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:07:21 -0400

I went to boot camp at the ripe old age of 17. After spending a few years in the military, the differences I became aware of between myself and my pre-military friends were at first bewildering. While they were still mired in their old habits and routines, I was much more focused on progressing and preparing for the future. The military doesn't give you any choice in whether or not to become an adult. You learn to grow or you get chewed up and spit out.

Response by SGT Lisa Mayne made Sep 14 at 2021 8:09 PM

SGT Lisa Mayne — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:09:32 -0400

That I can do things I didn’t even know existed!

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 14 at 2021 8:17 PM

PO1 Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:17:26 -0400

I learned that I have aphantasia thanks to a coworker talking about his wife having it.

Response by SPC Steven Rice made Sep 14 at 2021 8:22 PM

SPC Steven Rice — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:22:22 -0400

I started when I was 17. I had no idea how disciplined I could be.

Response by MSgt James "Buck" Buchanan made Sep 14 at 2021 8:27 PM

MSgt James "Buck" Buchanan — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:27:51 -0400

The type and level of training I received enabled me to perform a job that, if I had tried to learn the same material in a civilian classroom I would have failed miserably. I was able to gain a level of confidence during training that only increased once I was in the field doing my job.

Response by Sgt David Branham made Sep 14 at 2021 8:37 PM

Sgt David Branham — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:37:41 -0400

Being drunk and fighting can cause unexpected injuries

Response by SPC Russ Bolton made Sep 14 at 2021 8:38 PM

SPC Russ Bolton — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:38:48 -0400

I was able to be able to learn of the differt cultures and views of the other soldiers. The change from civilan and the military life were so vastly different that ut takes a few days after entering the military life I saw that there was so much more to learn not only from the surrounding vibes that was able to start that change. Now only if they had away to help us to be able to adapt to this crazy Civilian life... be blessed

Response by SFC Michael Kinsley made Sep 14 at 2021 8:40 PM

SFC Michael Kinsley — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:40:53 -0400

I was surprised to find out how well I could adapt to different situations; physical, mental, and emotional.

Response by PV2 Steven Stockwell made Sep 14 at 2021 8:43 PM

PV2 Steven Stockwell — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:43:52 -0400

I Was Not The Most Physically Aped Kid Growing Up But The Army Tought That As Long As I Gave It My All And Never Gave Up I Could Do Almost Anything Somthing That Has Helped Me My Whole Life

Response by SSgt Jim Gilmore made Sep 14 at 2021 8:43 PM

SSgt Jim Gilmore — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:43:59 -0400

I discovered I was capable of much more than I had believed that I could accomplish. I learned about personal responsibility and integrity. I learned that if you said you'd do something, you did it and accepted the consequences if I failed to do what I said.

Response by SGT Anna Tyler made Sep 14 at 2021 8:49 PM

SGT Anna Tyler — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:49:29 -0400

I learned that I was stronger than I thought I was and that I could get through anything the service or life threw at me.

Response by SSG Steven Gotz made Sep 14 at 2021 8:55 PM

SSG Steven Gotz — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:55:25 -0400

I never realized that I would be able to give up control quite as easily as I was able to. I immediately understood the reasons for following orders, and being 25 years old in Basic Training as opposed to 18 years old, I thought it might be tough. But it really wasn't.

I was also able to do things physically a lot easier than I had feared. Running, pushups, situps, etc.

It was a revelation that spending time with people who were better at something than I was would actually be enjoyable. It gave me things to strive for.

Response by SFC Linda Clipp made Sep 14 at 2021 8:58 PM

SFC Linda Clipp — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 20:58:16 -0400

I am very tough both physically and mentally. Tougher than I thought...stronger than I thought. I never knew this before I joined the Army. I discovered these things while working alongside people of all sorts, all backgrounds. They challenged me (and not just Drill SGTs) to do things I didn't think I could do...andi saw success, even at getting others to work with me! The military is a very fine start for any youngster...a very fine start!

Response by CPT Victor Poland made Sep 14 at 2021 9:01 PM

CPT Victor Poland — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:01:29 -0400

I learned how adaptable I could be, and in doing so, I could bend but not break. I learned that I could trust my fellow soldiers and family support network and that they indeed had my back.

Response by CPO Jack De Merit made Sep 14 at 2021 9:09 PM

CPO Jack De Merit — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:09:45 -0400

I learned a lot about what I was capable of. The most important thing that you can learn in the military is if you are capable of taking a life. I found that if it is the right thing to do, I could do it. I was sent to a psychiatric evaluation after the incident. The most important question I was asked was: Did it disturb you to kill someone? My answer was: It was the right thing to do. Off the coast of Vietnam I was asked by an Admiral to deliver a Top Secret folder to someone in Vietnam. I had a Civilian Secret Clearance that included a background investigation by the FBI. The Admiral felt that it was worth Top Secret. I asked how I would get there. He said by Helicopter since we were on an Aircraft Carrier. I agreed. After exiting the Helo I was given a .45 Automatic pistol, the keys to a jeep and a short map to a coffee shop where the person I was to meet was eating lunch. When I got to the coffee shop I decided to wait for him to come out and not disturb his meal. While I was waiting, I saw a woman with a very young boy approaching the coffee shop about 60 yards away. She kept pushing him. When they were closer I saw that the boy was wearing sticks of dynamite and she was holding a detonator. I yelled at her to stop. She laughed and kept pushing the boy towards the coffee shop. I drew my weapon and told her to stop or I would shoot her. She responded by pushing the boy harder. I told her one more step and I shoot. She took two steps and I shot her. As she was falling she pushed the detonator and blew them both to kingdom come. Everyone in the coffee shop came out to find out what happened. I told them. The man I was to meet was in the group and I handed him the folder from the Admiral. He wanted a more complete explanation. When I finished he said he was going to petition to get me the Medal of Honor for saving the lives of more than 50 military personnel who were eating inside. I told him NO, I did not join the Navy to win or earn medals. I joined to pay my country back for all the freedoms and benefits that I had simply because I was born in the United States. I asked him not to tell the Admiral what happened. I drove back to the Helicopter, turned in the .45 and said that 1 shot had been fired and why and then flew back to the ship. When I went to the Admirals Quarters to let him know the delivery was made he wanted the details of what I had done. He also wanted to get me the Medal of Honor and I told him the same thing I had told his friend. That was in 1964. When I was being released from Active Duty, before I could leave the ship, the Admiral asked me to sign a 50-year Non-Disclosure Agreement. I asked him why. He said it was to protect his family from knowing what he and I had done. I signed it not knowing that I would never be able to claim "Boots on the ground."

Response by SGT Larry Styer made Sep 14 at 2021 9:11 PM

SGT Larry Styer — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:11:14 -0400

The real Army is totally differant from the "Movie Army". They just don't act the same and surly aren't like Bettle Bailey and Sarge Some thimgs will be an eye opener on your first couple of weeks in BCT!

Response by SGT David Jackson made Sep 14 at 2021 9:46 PM

SGT David Jackson — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:46:55 -0400

The absolutely weirdest thing I learned about me, was that I could jump over the rail in the rear of a deuce & half, at seventy MPH, going around a sharp high-speed turn, sucking Tylenol 3, and wearing a back brace, AND NOT GET A SCRATCH!
At least, that was the version that had spread all over Ft. Sill from 2 AM to 6 Am formation!
The truth was not as dramatic. The truck was only going about 25. Everything else? yeah.
https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x2e3trg
This was strictly for entertainment purposes. This is not me. I am not Russian!
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Dumb russian soldier falling from a truck head first in puddle of mud! - Vidéo Dailymotion

So hilarious and ridiculous moment for this Dumb russian soldier falling from a truck head first in puddle of mud!

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 14 at 2021 9:48 PM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:48:16 -0400

Many different things…but two off the top of my head would be I am a stress eater and I’m much more apt to speak my mind then before. I can also function longer with little to know sleep!

Response by SSG Earl Corp made Sep 14 at 2021 9:49 PM

SSG Earl Corp — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:49:17 -0400

Some of the skills I found that I learned that transferred into civilian life was being able to multi task and meet or beat deadlines. I also learned I had a talent for writing.

Response by PFC Larry Cunningham made Sep 14 at 2021 9:51 PM

PFC Larry Cunningham — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:51:45 -0400

IL learned how lonely you could be even when you are surrounded by people during the holidays overseas and away from home. Also how much those same people could help you out of that feeling to a degree. Especially pre internet years. The cooks went to great lengths to bring the best holiday feasts to us that lived in the barracks. My hats off to them.

Response by SGT Charles Bartell made Sep 14 at 2021 9:58 PM

SGT Charles Bartell — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:58:50 -0400

I learned that I really did like Kids, And not all of them are the same.
Most kids that I dealt with in Afghanistan showed me that most kids in Afghanistan showed me the one's that I dealt with where vary great full of the attention we gave them. I know that some of them just tried to play us for anything they could get. Seeing how they lived and how they where treated changed I thought of them. And just how lucky most of us have it here.

Response by PVT Michele Bowman made Sep 14 at 2021 9:59 PM

PVT Michele Bowman — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 21:59:36 -0400

What I learned about myself is that I am not a quitter, I am determined, I am a fighter and I can do all things I truly put my mind to do. I also learned that loving on your family is so very important; after being away all that time.

Response by SrA Gregory Watts made Sep 14 at 2021 10:14 PM

SrA Gregory Watts — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 22:14:37 -0400

I learned that I while I loved the honor of serving and the sense of duty,
I could not STAND the politics.

Response by GySgt Edward Reagle made Sep 14 at 2021 10:24 PM

GySgt Edward Reagle — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 22:24:26 -0400

Like so many other service members I come from a small northwestern Pa community of farmers and small businesses. Hard working people that try to do the best that they can. I did my boy scout and cub scout thing I was a few badges from being a eagle scout and then pier pressure told me that I didn't fit in anymore that I was square being a scout. I shouldn't of listened to that static but I did anyway. I got married at 19 I had a good job that paid $300.00 a week god money in the early 70s. I realized there is more to life and while very impressed with all branches of the armed services I looked back at what had started to influence me towards belonging to something larger than I could imagine something that I could reach out and help people if they needed it or defend them if needed. My huge infrequence was LtCol John Glenn USMC when he circled the earth three times. I found out that within myself I had self reliance that I didn't know that I had and that I wanted to be a member of a team that was unbeatable at everything. Love of country, family and fellow countrymen along with freedom was my calling. I don't want to sound cliche about anything my patriotism grew with every year that I have been alive.

Response by SPC Robin Price-Dirks made Sep 14 at 2021 10:31 PM

SPC Robin Price-Dirks — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 22:31:43 -0400

I learned to keep my mouth shut, possibly a little too late I'm sure. I learned that I could be useful, I learned I had a talent for numbers and parts. I learned to live a solitary life and be okay with that. I learned that I could do a lot more things than people thought I could. I learned how to run my job even when there wasn't anyone supervising me, and I was good at it. I learned how to take care of myself because no one else was going to take care of me but me. I learned that despite what people said I had worth, and value to the team I was with. I learned how to be resilient and roll with the punches. I got to see and live with people in every walk of life and I loved the wide variety of people that broadened my horizons in life. I learned tolerance, acceptance, and joy in becoming more than I was by knowing so many different cultures and persons from every walk of life. I wish I could have stayed a lot longer but I loved what I did and would do it again in a heartbeat if I could.

Response by PO3 Edward Riddle made Sep 14 at 2021 10:48 PM

PO3 Edward Riddle — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 22:48:12 -0400

I was quite surprised how I reacted to Combat. At first, it was kinda scary. but after a while I didn't even think about it. I was on auto pilot, doing what I had to do to help others and myself to see another day.

Response by SPC Laura Mitchell made Sep 14 at 2021 10:57 PM

SPC Laura Mitchell — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 22:57:04 -0400

I learned I am Rh negative (O Negative, to be exact, the universal donor). Shocked the hell out of my O positive mother (nothing nefarious, it's just a recessive gene).

Response by SP5 Walter Mearkle made Sep 14 at 2021 11:13 PM

SP5 Walter Mearkle — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 23:13:23 -0400

I gained self-confidence and maturity. I also discovered that I was valued as a friend and a real contributor to the group I chose to be in.

Response by BG Mike Bridges made Sep 14 at 2021 11:53 PM

BG Mike Bridges — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 23:53:10 -0400

That even a guy from a small town and just a High School diploma could use the military as a path to multiple degrees, advancement in service to flag rank, serve with and meet people from across the planet, and still love going to work every day. And then, upon retirement, be welcomed into a new, entirely different career in the civilian world.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 15 at 2021 1:13 AM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 01:13:49 -0400

I learned that I'm capable of more than I gave myself credit for. I enlisted at 31 and realized that you can teach an old dog new tricks. I also learned that only thing limiting me is me.

Response by MAJ Matthew Thomas made Sep 15 at 2021 1:24 AM

MAJ Matthew Thomas — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 01:24:45 -0400

I was adamant that I would never join the military but I ended up joining and I learned that even though I am an introvert, I enjoyed the comradery and the family in the military.

Response by SFC Edward Sneed made Sep 15 at 2021 1:36 AM

SFC Edward Sneed — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 01:36:58 -0400

I've learned to become a much stronger person than I realized, and maintain disciplined when in difficult situations. Now that I'm retired, I see where all that I have learned, fits right into place. I'm financially stable and looking upwards to a better life for me and my spouse. I have also put to use all that I've learned from being in a leadership position.

Response by SPC Roger Opfer made Sep 15 at 2021 2:45 AM

SPC Roger Opfer — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 02:45:50 -0400

1965 On the DMZ in Korea, The most surprising thing for me was how fast the ground could come up and hit me in the face when machine guns started going off in the middle of the night shooting Green tracers that are ricocheting everywhere when they hit the ground & rocks about 100 yards from me. I was on guard duty in the Motor pool. I never seen green tracers before in my life, only Red. So I was sure it was North Koreans. I radioed for back-up at our head quarters about a quarter of a mile away. The guy on duty in the office on the radio with me says. Well I didn't hear anything, I can't leave my desk. I'm here alone, besides everyone is sleeping. I couldn't believe what I was hearing from this guy that is now questioning me like I'm lying. I see he's going to do nothing. I hang up, I'm on my own. I don't hear anything after that so I assume they moved on. After I get off duty I go in the office & this guy is off duty & gone. The next day I report what happened & after checking around. They found out another company was returning from patrol out on the zone that night an they all decided for fun to unload their M-14's before they got back to there company. They had their rifles turned to AR or Automatic just out from the motor pool. They were just screwing around before they got home. They got my attention big time.

Response by PVT Robert Bernhardt made Sep 15 at 2021 4:51 AM

PVT Robert Bernhardt — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 04:51:50 -0400

I learned I was recognized as a leader. Every promotion in enlisted rank was a surprise to me.

Response by PO3 Michael Chamness made Sep 15 at 2021 5:46 AM

PO3 Michael Chamness — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 05:46:55 -0400

I learned that I could depend on others to do their part , and know that I was expected to do mine.
then just getting the job done right and on time was all that was expected. I learned that doing your part was the best reward.

Response by SPC Karen Coyle made Sep 15 at 2021 5:54 AM

SPC Karen Coyle — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 05:54:12 -0400

I learned I excel when I stop caring what others think or say about me and just do my job and be my own person.
I also learned to look around and put myself in other's shoes but maintain who I am.
Both part of growing up.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 15 at 2021 7:53 AM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 07:53:41 -0400

I learned trust, confidence in myself, learned to ASK for help, and give help to my comrades, learned that I can count on them and myself when all else fails...I learned that I am stronger than I realize, it's OK to ask for help, but at times, being proactive is good too...Even if you fail and fall, AT LEAST you tried. Plus, when I tried, and inevitably failed, my senior leaders didn't always write me up, they helped me up, and explained how to do it better, so I didn't fail at it the next time. A very good learning tool. I tried to do this in the civilian sector, but alas, it doesn't always work out well...

Response by SSG Rick Miller made Sep 15 at 2021 8:40 AM

SSG Rick Miller — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 08:40:09 -0400

It took some time, but I learned that I could think on my feet, resolve problems quickly, and make decisions in adverse situations. I also learned that there was something bigger than me, and that people are more alike than different. I also discovered that I liked being a soldier, and I got pretty good at it. Still screwed up from time to time, but got past it.

Response by SGT John Goschka made Sep 15 at 2021 8:41 AM

SGT John Goschka — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 08:41:27 -0400

I learned to be on time, my can do attitude, that I could enter civilian life again after being a combat infantryman in Vietnam, etc.

Response by Sgt Susan Mcneely made Sep 15 at 2021 9:00 AM

Sgt Susan Mcneely — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 09:00:28 -0400

I learned that I don't panic in an emergency I just get really calm and logical instead. So I never worry about panicking in a new situation even when my husband got his hand caught in a running lawn mower I kept it together, wrapped his mangled hand in clean towels put the kids in their car seats and calmly drove to the base hospital at Travis AFB. The nurses thought I must be in shock and checked me over but I was fine.my husband not so much it took 18 hours of micro surgery,six weeks in the Oakland hospital, and 12 months of therapy before he could work again.

Response by Ellen Limbach made Sep 15 at 2021 9:23 AM

Ellen Limbach — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 09:23:59 -0400

i learned i have more strength when I need to make difficult decisions, I like to help others in need and that I will protrct my family not matter what

Response by SFC Robert Walton made Sep 15 at 2021 10:09 AM

SFC Robert Walton — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 10:09:18 -0400

I learned i could accomplish almost any thing if i put my mind to it. I found i had hidden knowledge in many fields. I learned i could help others help themselves i learned to be humble and that i could handle humility. Most importantly i learned i had Brothers and Sisters from all walks of life. Last but not least i learned that i love the high speed, low drag, teaching and learning at the same time machine was my best Friend. Thank you all for your service.

Response by SFC John Miller made Sep 15 at 2021 10:24 AM

SFC John Miller — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 10:24:16 -0400

learned to face challenge with resolve and order. I learned to plan, prepare and meet situations with stern resolve to complete my responsibility and assist others in meeting theirs. I eventually found the drive to improve my physical and emotional well being while reassuring myself internally that I had no need to regret any shortfalls, but to strive to do better in the future.

Response by SGM Tim Kinsella made Sep 15 at 2021 10:57 AM

SGM Tim Kinsella — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 10:57:42 -0400

After completing the Drill Sgt school I found I was able to demonstrate and teach effectively, speak to a large group without being nervous, I had more patience and was able to stick to a task until completion.

Response by SN Kristi Kalis made Sep 15 at 2021 1:03 PM

SN Kristi Kalis — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 13:03:28 -0400

Learning I could run 2 miles was a HUGE surprise to me! I've never been a runner. I hate running. It was the only thing I didn't think I could do.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 15 at 2021 1:15 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 13:15:02 -0400

The ability to function in stressful situations with minimal sleep. When I think back to some of those days, I ask myself how I found the strength and will to keep going.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 15 at 2021 2:00 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:00:18 -0400

My sense of humor is even darker than I first thought.

Response by SGT John Goschka made Sep 15 at 2021 2:04 PM

SGT John Goschka — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:04:40 -0400

I learned that I could function in combat even in the most difficult situations. I learned that I was a natural born leader and that I could do difficult things when I set my mind to it.

Response by PO1 David K made Sep 15 at 2021 2:15 PM

PO1 David K — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:15:15 -0400

Honor Courage Commitment and tradition.
You might say that isnt true but it has been instilled in my decision making.

Response by SGT Jonathan Persons made Sep 15 at 2021 2:18 PM

SGT Jonathan Persons — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:18:21 -0400

I learned that family wasn't always blood, and blood wasn't always family.

I have seen people have blood family members shit on them, and members of the military offer body parts to someone in need.

Response by PO2 Jimmie Shelnutt made Sep 15 at 2021 2:39 PM

PO2 Jimmie Shelnutt — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:39:50 -0400

In spite of a previously poor academic career, I learned I could excel in the classroom at Hospital Corps School. At Field Medical Service School, Camp Pendleton, tough Marines taught me I could be strong enough to proudly serve in the FMF. And, in that service I learned I could use those skills taught me to keep Marines and sailors alive. All this prepared me well for my following civilian life. And I am grateful, most grateful for it all.

Response by SPC Mary Vaughan made Sep 15 at 2021 2:39 PM

SPC Mary Vaughan — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:39:59 -0400

I CAN have confidence & accomplishment!

Response by LCpl Robert Burke made Sep 15 at 2021 2:41 PM

LCpl Robert Burke — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:41:24 -0400

Went in the Corps as a kid and had no real idea about discipline or conformity. Now 50 some years later it is still how I live. A time and place for everything and so on.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 15 at 2021 2:46 PM

LTC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:46:13 -0400

That I was stronger both physically and mentally than I believed. I also learned to critically think about a situation before acting and to make decisions in a rapid and timely manner. But most of all, I learned to listen to my NCOs. They had the experiences that I was yet to have.

Response by PO1 Edward Speary made Sep 15 at 2021 2:54 PM

PO1 Edward Speary — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:54:42 -0400

that I can direct and command others in dangerous situations

Response by PO2 Christina "Jian" Phillips made Sep 15 at 2021 2:57 PM

PO2 Christina "Jian" Phillips — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 14:57:59 -0400

I learned a lot but key among them was just how much sacrifice is truly required to be in the service and how many don't appreciate it until they've done it. My father was a Chief and was constantly out to sea and until I served I thought he had a choice and always made the one to work on Christmas when in fact it was his ship, boss, etc.

Response by MAJ John Davis made Sep 15 at 2021 3:04 PM

MAJ John Davis — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:04:38 -0400

Learned how to plan. I learned how to manage time an people so that projects could be accomplished and everyone felt a part of any success.

Response by Lt Col Timothy Parker, DBA made Sep 15 at 2021 3:23 PM

Lt Col Timothy Parker, DBA — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:23:19 -0400

Looking back over my 24-year military career, it struck me that I may have been more capable than I initially realized. My intent was not to stay in the service after my initial commitment (4 years). At the time, the Air Force was desperate to retain engineers so we bargained for the assignment after my initial tour was completed. That assignment led to me gaining expertise on special weapon security, which led to other related assignments (INF Treaty). In the end, I had two assignments as a commander and other roles that were out of the ordinary. Two factors may have played a part in my career - I was in the right place at the right time for certain assignments, or others smarter than me (there are a lot of these sort of people) saw something that I didn't. That said, I give credit for most of any success that I had to the NCOs who helped me develop as a young officer during my first assignment.

Response by Lt Col Charlie Brown made Sep 15 at 2021 3:23 PM

Lt Col Charlie Brown — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:23:20 -0400

I was something of a couch potato who discovered I actually liked working out.

Response by AB Bobby Crook made Sep 15 at 2021 3:24 PM

AB Bobby Crook — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:24:58 -0400

What is one thing I learned about myself while in service? Ive always looked back and felt it was my chance to learn to be myself, other words, think for myself. For me I also learned to see all men and women as my equal. Not thinking about rank or time in service but that we are all equal. That’s some of what I got.

Response by SSG Bill McCoy made Sep 15 at 2021 3:26 PM

SSG Bill McCoy — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:26:46 -0400

The entire military experience - boot camp, schools, PT, Vietnam, military police, unexpected duties, bordom, frightening situations, ALL combined, taught me how to not sweat the small stuff. This was especially valuable when I got into the corporate world where co-workers would fret about stupid things. Everything from whehter or not a boss liked them, to petty issues about who got overtime, or not, and what the company's view of the department was. They even felt intimidated if they were in a position to encounter any top level executives. Basically, it was shocking how insecure civilians were (are). It amazed me how even the most basic jub function changes were bothersome, and even terrifying to them. I was always able to maintain a near neutral view of whatever was going on - from petty politics, to actual serious, or dangerous incidents where peers could barely function.
I was often asked, "How come none of this BS bothers you?" My unspoken answer was that having survived the military, encountering Generals, heads of state and other VIP's and combat, THIS stuff is minor.

Response by SGT Greg Sanders made Sep 15 at 2021 3:30 PM

SGT Greg Sanders — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:30:13 -0400

I learned over time that I had good organization skills. I learned to be outgoing. I was more of am introvert when I first joined the military . I am also a people person.

Response by CPL Jerry Masters made Sep 15 at 2021 3:57 PM

CPL Jerry Masters — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 15:57:43 -0400

As a 17 year old I got to travel, literally, all over the world!! Plus, I learned discipline, and organization for starters!! Another plus, I found out I was a little smarter than I was led to believe, plus, I got to Serve and appreciate how very Blessed we are in this country!!

Response by SSG Lew Wilson made Sep 15 at 2021 4:10 PM

SSG Lew Wilson — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 16:10:44 -0400

you can push your self further than you ever could imagine, do things you always thought were impossible, and over come almost any fear

Response by SPC Justine Blankenbeckler made Sep 15 at 2021 4:14 PM

SPC Justine Blankenbeckler — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 16:14:10 -0400

I learned that I don't have to be dependent on anyone. I learned to drive a 2 ton truck, shoot a rifle, be yelled at by Drill Sargeants, when they told me to put my face in the mud and crawl. I knew it was their way, of thinking I was going to give in and give up. Not!! I became a stronger person, and when I got out of training it stayed with me in my military days in my job. I truly am a Stro g person to this Day.

Response by SPC Michael Terrell made Sep 15 at 2021 4:19 PM

SPC Michael Terrell — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 16:19:01 -0400

I learned a lot of little things, but the biggest was that I could not always take no for an answer. If I was given a problem but no support, the job was taken care of anyway. Even if I had to go around a supply Sargent to get the parts. He was furious to have 1400 line items to process after I repaired everything at an AFRTS TV station that Depot hadn't visited in years.
The funny thing was, I built a TV tuner to repair a piece of test equipment to replace one that could not be purchased. Rather than being satisfied that it was working again, I was threatened with a Court Martial for 'Destruction of Government Property'. I had saved an otherwise irreparable piece of equipment that would have cost $600 to $800 to replace, at no expense to the Army.
I learned to politely but firmly deal with incompetent 'leaders'. They may have outranked me, but they didn't have my MOS, or my skills so I refused to let them interfere with my duty.
I was E3, and at an Air Traffic Control Tower to swap out their video monitors for PM. A new lieutenant that had graduated only a few minutes earlier ordered me to drop a large monitor to salute him. He slammed the tower's door shut and blocked my way. I yelled at him to open the damned door and step aside, and that I wasn't going to destroy a $300+ piece of equipment just to give him his first salute from an enlisted.
I was so loud that the Colonel who had conduced his graduation ceremony came running. He yelled, "At Ease! What the hell is going on?" "Sir! This moron ordered me to destroy this monitor, just to give him his first salute. I only have nine minutes left to get this upstairs, or make a phone call to shut down the flight school and have him sent to Ft Leavenworth. Sir!" He turned to the Lieutenant, "Open that damn door and apologize to this man! If I ever find out that you try this again, I will make you swallow those butterbars without the backers." Then he turned to me, "Have a good day , soldier!" "Yes sir! Thank you, Sir" At that moment I learned that I would not be pushed around by self important people when I had a mission critical job to do. Get it done, and deal with it later. I learned to be confident and to deal with idiots.
I apologize if there are any typos. I am waiting for cataract surgery.

Response by CPT Derry Gallagher made Sep 15 at 2021 4:47 PM

CPT Derry Gallagher — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 16:47:19 -0400

Following Infantry OCS I had leadership ability that was of use in Nam.

Response by SSG Samuel Kermon made Sep 15 at 2021 4:47 PM

SSG Samuel Kermon — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 16:47:59 -0400

So many things but perhaps the one that has lasted longest is working at as a team to achieve exceptional outcomes.

Response by CPL Joshua Adkins made Sep 15 at 2021 5:19 PM

CPL Joshua Adkins — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 17:19:17 -0400

I learned that I was more healthy than I thought and now after serving I will have lifelong physical and mental limitations. I learned that I could have a kid taken out of my custody simply because I served.

Response by AA Loreen Silvarahawk made Sep 15 at 2021 5:52 PM

AA Loreen Silvarahawk — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 17:52:52 -0400

During my military service I learned to study for my next rating. It led to being more prepared for college. During the most difficult times, I found a deeper faith that helped me through some very dark times. All in all, I matured rapidly and knew I was stronger and prepared for whatever in life may come.

Response by SGT Charles Bartell made Sep 15 at 2021 6:06 PM

SGT Charles Bartell — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 18:06:41 -0400

How long I could go without sleep, How much COLD and Snow I learned to deal with.
I can not swim, And it seems to be the only thing that really scares me.
But when it came to jumping into the ocean. Out of a Black hawk for some training I was given a pass. Being in a leadership position I made the jump. I felt that no matter how this made me feel.
I could not ask my men to do something that I could not do myself.

That is one of the biggest problems we have in the Military. It's leadership's inability to do what they tell there subordinates to do.

Response by SFC Linda Clipp made Sep 15 at 2021 6:08 PM

SFC Linda Clipp — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 18:08:42 -0400

That I could run! I had never done that very much. Around the bases, maybe...a little neighborhood football...but as a teen and adult, never. Oh, and I could climb a rope, get over the top of "The High One", run-dodge-and jump, you say? Like a rabbit! I found I could gut it out...grit my teeth and handle a little pain...and that it felt good!!! Really good to come to the end, successfully. Gave me the spirit to do more!

Response by PO3 James Heine made Sep 15 at 2021 6:31 PM

PO3 James Heine — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 18:31:49 -0400

You learn how to handle situations you never havr before or ever thought you could do. You certainly get to learn about other kinds of people, yes they may be different and possibly strange yet they're not really 'strange' and we are all the same - human beings. I learned that I am stronger and tougher than I thought before. I witnessed, seen, been thru and survived more than I ever anticipated or expected.
I also learned that I can change and adjust to scenarios when needed. I took responsibility and lived on my own. Military live is MORE than just following orders. You have to use your head in sudden situations and I learned that I can react when the situation requires it.
I found that I'm more open to the facts when they're presented to me. I'm able to learn newer ideas and much of what we were taught in school is a bunch of crap. You need to think outside the box, where you grew and went to school is not the world.

Response by SGT Irene Chavez made Sep 15 at 2021 6:49 PM

SGT Irene Chavez — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 18:49:20 -0400

I was only 19 (1981) and was in the Army during the Ronald Reagan years (cold war). What I learned about myself is I was a lot stronger mentally than most of my comrades. I hated working for dumb people apparently 'work harder not smarter' was the motto. I was 26 when I ETS'd and ready for what life had to offer. What I learned is there are dumb people everywhere not just the military!

Response by LCDR Alfred Yudes made Sep 15 at 2021 7:44 PM

LCDR Alfred Yudes — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 19:44:23 -0400

Courage is not being fearless. Courage is being afraid, but doing your best because the others are counting on you.

Response by PO1 Autumn Winters made Sep 15 at 2021 8:03 PM

PO1 Autumn Winters — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 20:03:45 -0400

It shouldn't have been unexpected and it shouldn't have been surprising, but ...

I was a small town kid from the rural northwest. Tiny school. All the neighboring communities combined added up to a graduating class of fifty-five. Nearly a quarter of us enlisted upon graduation.

Amongst other things, basic training was a crash course in diversity (or, at least, as diverse as the country really got in the early 90s). I come from a predominately white, rural, northern community. My high school had minimal minorities (a few Hispanic families, probably some people with Native American blood, and I think only one Asian American (half or quarter), at least in my class.

Zero black students. The Cosby Show, hardly representative, was the closest exposure I got to a large swarth of America. Oh, and Mr. T. on the A-Team. And even then, I didn't watch TV much.

Were there even any POC in the books that I read? Outside of Huck Finn and a few other things from class, none that I recall. Maybe they were, but it was never explicitly stated so. YA fiction in small town libraries was all the Hardy Boys or The Black Cauldron or Nancy Drew or the like.

So I got to boot camp loaded up with unconscious biases, stereotypes, prejudice, and no small amount of animus toward other groups.

Sad to say it took until my late teens to realize that people are people regardless of skintone, regardless of rural/urban, regardless of so many other divides.

Military service did an awful lot for me -- not all of it good (I was in during the era of "Don't Ask; Don't Tell") -- but the very best thing it did was help me see and break the biases I had. Maybe college would have done the same, but considering that I most likely would have gone to a small, rural, northern college, maybe not.

Response by SrA Tracy Leviner made Sep 15 at 2021 8:19 PM

SrA Tracy Leviner — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 20:19:01 -0400

I found out that when a true emergency happens that I didn't even think twice about jumping in and helping out . I saw burned and mangled people at the Ramstein Air Show crash in 1988 and proceeded to load them in a Polizei Helicopter and a News Helicopter to get them airlifted to Landstuhl Hospital .

Response by SGT Conrad Gonzalez made Sep 15 at 2021 8:26 PM

SGT Conrad Gonzalez — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 20:26:29 -0400

Not so much about myself, but what my dad endured in WWII as a member of the 101st in combat. While I was a door gunner and he airborne infantry, I gained a whole new respect for the man and other veterans of wars.

Response by CPT David Medley made Sep 15 at 2021 8:37 PM

CPT David Medley — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 20:37:38 -0400

Learned more reasons to love, respect and defend the land I LOVE ! This GOD given nation ! LOVE IT, DEFEND IT AND RESPECT IT !

Response by Capt Sylvia DeBorger made Sep 15 at 2021 9:41 PM

Capt Sylvia DeBorger — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 21:41:37 -0400

I learned that not everyone was my friend, but that I could handle that, and whatever else was thrown at me.

Response by SPC Dana Young made Sep 15 at 2021 10:30 PM

SPC Dana Young — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 22:30:11 -0400

i learned about myself that the discipline I wanted to gain from entering the military is something that can't be taught. It's either in you or its not. I found out that I wanted to always be my best and after 11 years of service my best was yet to come.

Response by SSG Kendra McWain made Sep 15 at 2021 11:26 PM

SSG Kendra McWain — Wed, 15 Sep 2021 23:26:38 -0400

I learned I can be strong and independent. I learned to be a leader and how to stand up to my superiors when I felt they were wrong. It can be very tricky to correct them in a respectful and positive way, but I found my truly surprising talent in mediating between lower enlisted and their supervisor or officers when they feel too intimidated. Once I got the ball rolling I could back out and let them work things out on their own. It was very satisfying helping lower enlisted find their voice and learn to communicate differences in a positive way.

Response by SGT Michael Brand made Sep 16 at 2021 12:31 AM

SGT Michael Brand — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 00:31:28 -0400

The ability to push myself beyond my previous physical limits when necessary.

Response by PFC Angela Heuvelmans made Sep 16 at 2021 1:35 AM

PFC Angela Heuvelmans — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 01:35:56 -0400

I learned that I could be something different than what I previously limited myself to. The thought of joining the military never even crossed my mind until 9/11. I learned discipline, but also how to have the confidence to rely on my training and my fellow soldiers. There were also darker lessons learned as a woman during my time in the Army. I also never expected to reach a higher level of pushing through difficult situations or physical injury. The military also taught me to look beyond the narrow-mindedness of nationalism and to be truly devoted to creating a more just and free world. It gave me the experience I needed to see that for myself. I really enjoyed my training and was always reaching higher for goals that I had no motivation to do prior to my service.

Response by SSgt Bill L. made Sep 16 at 2021 4:11 AM

SSgt Bill L. — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 04:11:06 -0400

That there is literally nothing I can't accomplish if I am willing to devote myself to it. Basic Training, PME, overseas assignments, college...no matter whether physical or intellectual, if I'm willing to give it my all, I can accomplish it.

Response by SSG John M Jacobson Sr made Sep 16 at 2021 8:15 AM

SSG John M Jacobson Sr — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 08:15:51 -0400

I guess it was that I had more endurance than I thought I had. Not just for the PT part, but also for the long haul in the service. 24 years is not much time for some but when you are away from family as much as I was, that takes a lot of endurance when you are missing them all the time. I also the fact that I was a pretty good leader. I never had my troops doing anything unless I was right there working along side them. It gained me respect and trust from my soldiers, as any good leader should have.

Response by PV2 Keith Young made Sep 16 at 2021 8:22 AM

PV2 Keith Young — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 08:22:19 -0400

A lot. I learned how quick I could adapt to new situations

Response by SGT Lisa Mayne made Sep 16 at 2021 8:25 AM

SGT Lisa Mayne — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 08:25:00 -0400

Honestly I was shocked at how well I could hold my tongue and not mouth off!

Response by SSG Shawn Mcfadden made Sep 16 at 2021 8:49 AM

SSG Shawn Mcfadden — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 08:49:08 -0400

I learned I was able to accomplish whatever I set my mind to. Be it me getting promoted, accomplishing a mission, managing work and school, etc.

Response by CPO Simon Gonzales made Sep 16 at 2021 8:49 AM

CPO Simon Gonzales — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 08:49:55 -0400

What I learn during my military career, was I had to work as a team to get to the next process. I could no longer just depend on myself to complete tasks, it’s a team effort.

Response by PO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 16 at 2021 8:57 AM

PO3 Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 08:57:13 -0400

Pretty much everything. I joined at 17 and, although I thought I knew everything about everything, I actually knew very little about anything, including myself!

Response by MCPO Gary Frady made Sep 16 at 2021 9:00 AM

MCPO Gary Frady — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 09:00:28 -0400

Attitude reflects altitude! I’ve always possessed a really good attitude which definitely came from my parents. What I didn’t know was when channeled correctly, took me to the top of the enlisted ranks. From boot camp, to school, through all the deployments, to that last speech on retirement day. It’s all about your outlook!!

Response by A1C Paula Roblez made Sep 16 at 2021 9:18 AM

A1C Paula Roblez — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 09:18:02 -0400

I learned that I was stronger than I ever imagined I could be. I learned that I could do anything I put my mind to and that I could have a real and better family with my brothers and sisters I served with than I had growing up it changed me for the better.

Response by PO3 Paul Kalb made Sep 16 at 2021 9:41 AM

PO3 Paul Kalb — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 09:41:27 -0400

One of the most important things that I learned about myself in the military are that combat troops also serve on humanitarian missions and this role opened my eyes to a career that I had never considered for myself prior to the military. At this point in my life I have almost completed a master's degree in clinical mental health counseling at a private university and I am working with veterans as part of my caseload. In the future, I plan on providing a certain number of hours per week of pro-bono work counseling veterans who need mental health counseling services. The military experience has also opened so many doors and provided experiences that I could have never gotten without the serving in the Seabees, so many skills are transferable to many different occupations. Lastly, I have no regrets and I am proud to have served my country.

Response by SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. made Sep 16 at 2021 10:05 AM

SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:05:33 -0400

I learned a lot of things about myself while in the military. I learned how to work as a team player/team member rather than always doing it by myself. Also, in dealing with many different type of leadership styles for soldiers from different backgrounds, customs and cultures. You have to take the time to get to know them and what motivates them.

Response by CW5 Jack Gaudet made Sep 16 at 2021 10:06 AM

CW5 Jack Gaudet — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:06:29 -0400

I was stronger mentally in the end than the beginning.

Response by AB Bobby Crook made Sep 16 at 2021 10:26 AM

AB Bobby Crook — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:26:07 -0400

I learned I could endure cold - I said cold weather. Yet, there are colder places in this world than I endured. I learned to push my limits. I learned to speak up, and that has served me well in other jobs since.

Response by PO2 Gerald Oliver made Sep 16 at 2021 10:26 AM

PO2 Gerald Oliver — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:26:45 -0400

My enlistment was a decision I made to learn a skill and serve. Opportunities came with unexpected results . I was fortunate to serve on a submarine involved in unique operations that had challenges and responsibilities that mold the future, how to proceed in life after the military. Skills that continue in decision making and experience throughout life.

Response by SPC Thomas Trezise made Sep 16 at 2021 10:30 AM

SPC Thomas Trezise — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:30:47 -0400

I learned that I could do anything I set my mind to. Physical limitations are mental limitations, you must tell yourself you can accomplish anything. Results don’t happen overnight. I’ve taken that into my civilian life, ran a successful business for 20 years and been a single dad of 4 magnificent kids. A couple tragic incidents in the Army have weighed me down Through the years but didn’t hold me back from achieving goals. The military separated us from the mentality that serves self and held us to a standard of camaraderie. I miss that the most and it simply isn’t available too much in the civilian platform. The closest I can get to that is serving veterans and being plugged in to groups like this. Thank you to all that have served this great country. Keep your head forward and your elbows and a**holes backwards! Oh… one more thing I learned. You know the old saying “watch pot, never boil?” Well… fire watch, never fire!

Response by Cpl Tyler Therrien made Sep 16 at 2021 10:33 AM

Cpl Tyler Therrien — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:33:33 -0400

That I was far more patriotic than I had previously thought.

Response by LCDR Diane Neff made Sep 16 at 2021 10:53 AM

LCDR Diane Neff — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:53:35 -0400

I learned that the desire to achieve is greater than the limitations you think are in your way - and often, you have to get out of your head, and out of your own way, to succeed. I learned that the journey toward this is worth the pain, and through it all, you have the opportunity and responsibility to help lift others with you.

Response by PO2 Dennis Edwards made Sep 16 at 2021 10:59 AM

PO2 Dennis Edwards — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 10:59:32 -0400

I learned that if I applied myself I could be above average. All thru grammar school, Junior high, High school and junior collage, my grade average was in the middle of the class. When I joined the Navy Seabees, I attended Builder A school, and again in the middle of my class. After making BU2 I reenlisted. At that time I decided to really put all my potential into this career. Upon entering BU B school, I studied a minimum of 2 to 3 hours after school every day even if I had no homework. Making my self stick to this routine, I was able to achieve first in my class. At that point I knew I could do anything I put my mind to do and not just be average again.
After my military service I applied that lesson to everything I worked at. That lesson to work just a little harder, study the subject more than the rest, taught me to succeed.

Response by PFC Ray Gibb made Sep 16 at 2021 11:01 AM

PFC Ray Gibb — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:01:30 -0400

I found that Mind over matter gets you through. Your mind allows you to do things you had always been told you couldn't do.

Response by MGySgt Bob Willis made Sep 16 at 2021 11:32 AM

MGySgt Bob Willis — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:32:39 -0400

The thing that surprised me the most was the difference in boot camp from when I went through (1960) and when I was a Drill Instructor (1972 - 1974). The physical demands where about the same, but the mental stress on the recruits was much different. I think several factors played into this. In 1960 we lived in Quonset Huts with 12 to 16 recruits to a hut and were not under the continuous watch of the DI, where as in 1972 the recruits were housed in 3 story barracks with 4 squad bays per floor. Each recruit platoon was housed in one squad bay and were almost constantly under the eye of the Drill Instructor. Another factor was the higher education of the recruits in the 70's. Most recruits were high school graduates. When I was a DI the Marine Corps was no longer receiving draftees which, I think, added to having better educated recruits.

Response by SPC Michael Duricko, Ph.D made Sep 16 at 2021 11:36 AM

SPC Michael Duricko, Ph.D — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:36:53 -0400

I learned that my life is always in the hands of our Lord. I should have been killed 13 times that I remember vividly (unknown how many others) but the Lord miraculously saved my life everytime. Not knowing how or why at that time, and they play over and over a million times in my mind, I now realize the Lord has a plan for each of us and as I now realize what the plan was for me as I look at my loving wife of 53 years, our 3 beautiful children and our 7 grandchildren and say thank you Almighty Lord for I have now realized and fulfilled the plan you had for me.

Response by SPC Lyle Montgomery made Sep 16 at 2021 11:40 AM

SPC Lyle Montgomery — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:40:12 -0400

I learned that a small town kid who never went hunting, I could hump a heavy rucksack and a m 60 with 300 round bandoleer through the hills and jungles of Viet Nam. I didn't like the killing but enjoyed my time there. I still don't hunt or even own guns. I had enough of that crap back then to last a lifetime. I'm not for gun controul. Everyone has the right to have guns except criminals. I just don't think I went one.

Response by CMSgt Caryn Chipman made Sep 16 at 2021 11:51 AM

CMSgt Caryn Chipman — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:51:43 -0400

At 17, when I joined the USAF, I had No idea that there was a much bigger world out there than I ever imagined AND that I had the skills and support to succeed, thrive, and then mentor the future to do the same. I look back and can’t help but smile and think, “WOW!” at all of the things I’ve seen and done.

Response by PO2 Phillip Scott made Sep 16 at 2021 11:55 AM

PO2 Phillip Scott — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 11:55:09 -0400

That I could get thru fear and still do my job. I could inspire those under my command.

Response by MAJ Cary Zahn made Sep 16 at 2021 12:31 PM

MAJ Cary Zahn — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 12:31:37 -0400

Learning how to lead others gave me a chance to grow and help make my assigned unit the best it could be. Being deployed to Iraq gave me a better understanding of how good we have it in the USA. I'm grateful to have served this country and would do it again if I had the same choices. Proud to be an AMERICAN!!!! U.S.A.

Response by Sgt Jerry Genesio made Sep 16 at 2021 12:44 PM

Sgt Jerry Genesio — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 12:44:05 -0400

I learned I could go much further than my imagined physical limits, and that I could actually be wherever I was supposed to be with time to spare. And I learned an incredibly larger-than-life portion of self-respect and self-worth.

Response by SPC Jeff Gard made Sep 16 at 2021 12:44 PM

SPC Jeff Gard — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 12:44:40 -0400

That I really, really hate 0600, but I can still roll out and PT every day. Perseverance and the triumph of dedication over impulse

Response by PFC John Bruton made Sep 16 at 2021 1:34 PM

PFC John Bruton — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 13:34:28 -0400

I wasn’t the dummy that I thought I was, once I had a chance to use practical application of different subjects I started to see success and built more and more confidence. That with learning to think under pressure and not panic. Those traits have gone on to serve me well.

Response by CPL Theresa Cressey made Sep 16 at 2021 1:45 PM

CPL Theresa Cressey — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 13:45:16 -0400

I enjoyed working at the VA Hospital in New Orleans as an administrative assistant in the Social Work Department and Podstartics Department under the Veterans Work Study Program. Great people.

Response by SSgt Michael Bowen made Sep 16 at 2021 3:11 PM

SSgt Michael Bowen — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 15:11:20 -0400

First thing i learned was i could push myself far beyond what i thought was my limit . And there was nothing i couldn't do if i worked at it and wanted to do it bad enough .

Response by SPC Justine Blankenbeckler made Sep 16 at 2021 4:06 PM

SPC Justine Blankenbeckler — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 16:06:28 -0400

I learned that I could do more sit-ups and run and max a PT. Test than the younger Veteran's. WE would Start in Front of the Hospital and come all the way around and back and helicopters would be taking off. I was proud to be in Great Physical Shape. Some of the younger ones had to do remedial PT.

Response by PO1 Todd B. made Sep 16 at 2021 4:42 PM

PO1 Todd B. — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 16:42:14 -0400

I joined originally to follow in my fathers footsteps as he served 4 years in the US Navy himself long ago. I also was enamored with warships, their design, function and more. And I always had a love of the water and boats. And finally, I loved the history of our country, its founding and heritage and I badly wanted to do my part to keep that sacred and secure and safe.

My family was also patriotic and proud to be Americans and to uphold the Constitution and its words. And so I knew early on I wanted to do the same. I think what surprised me the most was two fold, first how different I looked at my service compared to others. I was there because I truly believed in this nation, our Constitution and defending it per my oath. And yet so many others were "just there for the school money". And second, the fact I excelled to a level even I did not realize I had in me. I actually graduated #1 for both my A School and BE/E schools for my training period and groups. I loved it and while I was a C student in high school because to me it was all boring, the Navy training and schooling fit me to a tee.

I retired in 2014 due to my military injuries, of which I have a few service connected that are pretty severe. But if asked, I would not hesitate to go back in uniform to serve the Constitution and our Republic if need be. I hope that day does not come where things get so bad, the need may be there for even those like me, but if that day does come, I will not hesitate to stand tall once again with pride and honor in uniform.

Response by PO2 Patrick Paine made Sep 16 at 2021 4:51 PM

PO2 Patrick Paine — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 16:51:33 -0400

As a 'floundering' 17 year old, I found myself in the Navy, and came to realize that I really could accomplish goals with a lot of effort. Lucky enough to get into the radio room on a radar picket ship, I advanced to E-5 in near record time. I truly surprised myself, and was a changed man from this experience, thanks to the Navy!

Response by SGT John Goschka made Sep 16 at 2021 5:04 PM

SGT John Goschka — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 17:04:46 -0400

I learned that I could live in mountains and valleys with what I carried on my back for a month or longer. C rations and water would be brought in by helicopter when needed but finding a stream or river to bathe in was a luxury.

Response by SGT Lance LeBerte made Sep 16 at 2021 5:13 PM

SGT Lance LeBerte — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 17:13:50 -0400

I found out how much farther I could go once I had had enough

Response by SSG Chris Furney made Sep 17 at 2021 1:23 AM

SSG Chris Furney — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 01:23:12 -0400

I learned I'm too good for hard drugs and the ghetto mentality. Send my young white ass back to the Burbs for Christ;'s Sake.

Response by SGT Erick Holmes made Sep 17 at 2021 6:28 AM

SGT Erick Holmes — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 06:28:30 -0400

For me, I learned what patience, reality and what the real world was. Coming straight from high school you were on the high from graduating and doing all the graduating high school stuff. Getting awards and hearing what the CT National Guard was offering me. But when basic training hit thats when reality hit the fan.

Response by SGT Ann Gardner made Sep 17 at 2021 6:29 AM

SGT Ann Gardner — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 06:29:47 -0400

I found out that I am stronger than I thought.

Response by SSG Chris Gursky made Sep 17 at 2021 6:31 AM

SSG Chris Gursky — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 06:31:26 -0400

After being raised in a rough and tumble but common sense household I learned I had patience to deal with an amazing amount of stupid and still stay calm.

Response by SP5 Walter Mearkle made Sep 17 at 2021 6:35 AM

SP5 Walter Mearkle — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 06:35:56 -0400

I enlisted in the Army on 6/1962. I had never been near or operated a firearm. In Basic Training, we trained on the M-1 Garand rifle. I loved the mechanics, ease of disassembly and assembly, and the precision of how it works. Later during my service, I qualified on the M-14 and the Colt 45 sidearm. I was surprised at how easily they worked and how deadly they can be. Being left-handed, I was surprised to learn that all those weapons and indeed I surmised all weapons are designed for "Right Hand Use". When fired the hot, oily spent cartridges are expelled to the right and if the weapon is fired "Lefty" the cartridges go right across your face! Also, the safety switch is activated by the right thumb. A "Lefty has to use two hands!!

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 17 at 2021 6:37 AM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 06:37:06 -0400

I learned that I could do more things when I put my mind into it. Not giving up so easy and being resilient.

Response by SP5 James Coles made Sep 17 at 2021 6:39 AM

SP5 James Coles — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 06:39:45 -0400

I learned that I needed to push myself to be the best I could ever be and try to set a good example for others.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 17 at 2021 7:25 AM

MSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 07:25:10 -0400

regardless about how squared away I thought I was prior to the military... the military and my time in, helped to sharpen the sword, focus, and work to better understand leadership/management... and try to learn more each and every day

Response by CW5 Jack Gaudet made Sep 17 at 2021 8:07 AM

CW5 Jack Gaudet — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 08:07:57 -0400

I learned leadership is gained through mentorship.

Response by PO1 David Shepardson made Sep 17 at 2021 8:15 AM

PO1 David Shepardson — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 08:15:39 -0400

I found out I was not as dumb as I had been made out to be, before entering the Navy..

Response by SGT Lisa Mayne made Sep 17 at 2021 8:23 AM

SGT Lisa Mayne — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 08:23:49 -0400

SO much stronger and more capable of real world growth and accomplishments!

Response by Capt Paul Valentine made Sep 17 at 2021 8:39 AM

Capt Paul Valentine — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 08:39:50 -0400

STOPPING RACIAL ATTACKS
In 1951 after completing basic training and military police training, the Air Force, shipped me off to Clark Air Force Base in The Philippines. My duty assignments as a corporal military policeman included various guard, patrol and gate duties. When on "gate" duty we searched all bags for illegal items. The most profitable item for black marketers' to purchase on base and sell off base was cigarettes. A carton of cigarettes purchased in the Post Exchange for $1.00 brought $10.00 on the black market. That was easy money until we caught you; then you could spend five years in a federal penitentiary act was a felony.
One evening while working at the main gate trying to prevent Philippine workers and military personnel from taking items off base to sell on the black market, we arrested a young African American airman with ten cartons of cigarettes in a duffle bag as he tried to leave the base.
The military police at the gate arrested him, called for a patrol to come pick him up and take him to headquarters. The patrol arrived in their jeep just as my duty time at the gate expired so I asked the patrol sergeant if I could ride back to the military police office with them. He said, “Sure” so I hopped in the back of the jeep with the handcuffed young black man. We started off with the senior sergeant driving, his partner, another sergeant, in the front passenger seat and I was in back with the prisoner.
About two miles down the road, the sergeant surprised me by pulled off the road into a picnic area set among a grove of trees. The dirt road curved behind some bushes, which sheltered the position from the view of vehicles passing on the main road. The sergeant driver stopped the jeep, both sergeants jumped out and brandished their nightsticks. The senior sergeant said, “Come on nigger, get your ass out here. You are going to fall down some stairs and raise some bumps on your head.”
Although I was only a corporal, I put my hand on the kid’s leg and said, “You sit still.” Then I said to the sergeants, “If we go back to the office now, I will forget this happened.” Both of the sergeants were silent for about thirty seconds then they started yelling at me, calling me a “nigger lover” and other racist names. As they became more abusive and approached the vehicle, I pulled my pistol out of the holster and l held it on my knee. This was a questionable move as both of them were armed and I had not yet loaded a bullet into the chamber of my pistol and the 'safety' was still on!
Fortunately, the appearance of my weapon settled them down a bit. They had not planned to have to murder a witness. Eventually they got back in the jeep and drove us to headquarters. Cussing at both of us all the way. When we arrived at the headquarters, the sergeants dismounted from the jeep and called the airman to go with them. I watched the three of them enter the jail. Then I crawled out of the jeep, my knees were shaking. I never heard anything more about the incident and I never saw those sergeants again.
African Americans were not known to me as I had never encountered them in my small, all white town in up-state New York. In the Air Force I had not interacted with them as whites and blacks did not mix socially. This incident opened my eyes and I have fought racial injustice sense then.

Paul Valentine, Capt. USAF (RET)
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Sarasota, Florida 34243
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Response by SPC Carrie Taylor made Sep 17 at 2021 8:40 AM

SPC Carrie Taylor — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 08:40:59 -0400

I learned to trust in others and to work as a team. We work together. I learned to believe in myself, that I can shoot the weapon that I have never shot before (I shot expert). That I can run, do push-ups and be physically fit. I wasn't when I went in. I had no idea what to expect when I went in. I just got tired of being robbed when I enlisted. I enjoyed my time in service.

Response by SPC Justine Blankenbeckler made Sep 17 at 2021 9:11 AM

SPC Justine Blankenbeckler — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 09:11:40 -0400

I learned I had to juggle coming home and cooking dinner, making sure my two children got their homework done, prepare for the next day's work, boots shined. My husband was working the night shift, so we passed in the shadow. I was Strong! The Military made me Stronger.Then am, I was off before the kids got up, so I prayed they got off to school on time. They did. You have to change things sometimes, but my children adjusted well. I was so happy for that. It made me do my job better. The Pressure sometimes at my job did not get to me. I dealt with it. Hooah!!

Response by Capt Al Parker made Sep 17 at 2021 9:15 AM

Capt Al Parker — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 09:15:21 -0400

Officers are treated a whole lot different than enlisted., I found this out when I graduated from OTS and became an Officer. But I still had very good friends who were enlisted.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 17 at 2021 9:17 AM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 09:17:48 -0400

If I had to narrow it down to a few things, I'd say this:

1. There is NOTHING more lethal than the right man in the right place at the right time. Because while yes, the Artillery can go boom and say "screw that guy and everything near enough to think about him," it is the knife in the dark and that man in place who knows his objective that is truly terrifying.

And 2. There is no more powerful a weapon that your own willpower. No matter the struggle, no matter the challenge, no matter your state of mind, if you tell yourself that you'll be fine and that you'll make it, you will. If you tell yourself that nothing will stop you without killing you, nothing will. If you tell yourself that you are the baddest mfer in the Valley, then thats exactly what you will become. It is as it was written: I think, therefore, I am.

Response by SSG Byron Hewett made Sep 17 at 2021 9:22 AM

SSG Byron Hewett — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 09:22:51 -0400

I learned that a lot of most difficult duty assignments were the most easiest and that came down to accepting a folded American Flag from a member of the Honor Guard casket team and the presenting the flag to the next of kin and looking them in eyes and saying those most sacred words “On Behalf of a Grateful Nation” easy assignment right up until you look the next of kin in the eyes and start saying those words the out comes the vice grips putting the squeeze on your heart, but the job can be done and the surprise is how difficult saying those words are for such an easy assignment and every time you do this it is surprising that is never gets any easier no matter how many hundreds of times you do this those words never ever get easier to say no matter how many times you say them or practice them it’s always a surprise that it never gets easier I guess it’s because it’s not supposed to.

Response by MSgt Don Dobbs made Sep 17 at 2021 9:31 AM

MSgt Don Dobbs — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 09:31:28 -0400

So many things I could not have imagined when I went in. I had a 9th grade education when I entered service, I retired with a BA. Becoming a Military Training Instructor, then Master MTI. Every deployment I saw things I never even imagined. Living in and visiting Countries that existed only on a globe. Becoming part of a Brotherhood only a Veteran can understand. So many other things that cannot be expressed in this medium.

Response by CPL Theresa Cressey made Sep 17 at 2021 9:35 AM

CPL Theresa Cressey — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 09:35:24 -0400

I learn what trigger my anger and what to do positive . So, that I would not act negatively about anything I disapproval of in the military or any where else. I learn I could achieve positive things in my life. I learn I am capable of learning , working and maintaining my health. I learn how to also resolve problems when they come in my life. I learn how to relax when I need to enjoy r and r time. I learn how to go and talk to spiritual leaders when there was crosses in my life.. ( family or any negative things going on ) Most of all I learn not to give up on the positive things I am interested in doing. I went in the. I litany when I was young. I became an adult in the mi.itary.

Response by PFC Jennifer Hendricks made Sep 17 at 2021 10:10 AM

PFC Jennifer Hendricks — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 10:10:34 -0400

I learned a lot while I served in the Army. The biggest thing was I learned who I was. So many kids today grow up confused about who they are and what they can do and end up turning to all the wrong things in life. I was headed down that path as well. But my experiences helped me grow up and deal with issues. Instead of hiding behind bad things. Or using dangerous things to mask my fear and anger, I turned to the truth. I can see why so many young adults turn to “society” to help them feel better. But that’s not what works.

Doing the hard work of getting yourself out of trouble and not choosing the easy way out is the best long term solution. Being a soldier taught me to look at the different possibilities and find the one that will help in the long run. Even if it hurts in the short term.
I spent a lot of time at night on CQ duty reading my Bible and those quiet times taught me so much. And during the day, doing the work of a soldier taught me I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me.

Response by SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. made Sep 17 at 2021 10:36 AM

SSG Rafael R. Rodriguez Sr. — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 10:36:22 -0400

Some challenges and surprises I have encountered is that I knew I had to do more to make myself more competitive and promotable. Had to take some college courses and self-development courses to increase my promotion points but also to better myself as a person and a leader.

Response by SPC David Roberts made Sep 17 at 2021 11:48 AM

SPC David Roberts — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 11:48:34 -0400

Three things:
1. I can do things I could hardly imagine with the right training and effort.
2. Teamwork is not only the way to accomplish the mission. When it works, it is a source of great happiness.
3. A skinny white kid from the suburbs of California can be friends with people of any color and from any background as long as we share similar core values and are working towards a common goal.

Response by PO1 Gary Bell made Sep 17 at 2021 12:08 PM

PO1 Gary Bell — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 12:08:40 -0400

I held life in my hands everyday I worked on Aircraft Systems. Quality Assurance - Safety for everyone became my mission. The NAVAIR really pressed this home. Look for "Man from LOX" and
"Trial by Fire: The Disaster on USS Forrestal" on internet for example. I stood on decks of a "Man of War" at the "Tip of the Spear" and our mantra was "Complacency Kills !!"

Response by SPC Randy Torgerson made Sep 17 at 2021 12:42 PM

SPC Randy Torgerson — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 12:42:58 -0400

The biggest thing I learned (that I can remember because I'm old now) is that whatever I thought my limit was, it's not. I can do more than I thought, I could, both physically and mentally.

Response by SSgt Daniel d'Errico made Sep 17 at 2021 12:47 PM

SSgt Daniel d'Errico — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 12:47:16 -0400

you cannot always wait for something to be done by others. self help projects takes paper work with too many explanations of what, why and where. some projects can be accomplished out of special funds within your own unit.

Response by SFC Terry Fortune made Sep 17 at 2021 12:50 PM

SFC Terry Fortune — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 12:50:29 -0400

I learned a lot of things while in the Army. Mainly don't the simple things for granted and be flexible. Things always changes.

Response by MSgt Kelly Robertson made Sep 17 at 2021 1:16 PM

MSgt Kelly Robertson — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 13:16:53 -0400

During military service I learned that a Command Presence was way more effective when leading others than a Demand Presence. Wish I had a do-over! Xx

Response by SSgt Michael Anderson made Sep 17 at 2021 4:27 PM

SSgt Michael Anderson — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 16:27:20 -0400

I learned responsibility--not only responsibility for my own actions, but responsibility for people that who are affected by my actions. When I entered the military, I felt that there would always be someone there who would catch me if I slipped up or fell. As a result of my military service, I learned through trial and error, that I have the power to pick myself up, while ensuring that others don't make the same mistakes that I did. The military helped me grow up! I have a list of supervisors and leadership that I owe so much to, and will always feel a tremendous amount of gratitude for showing this immature kid from the Midwest how to be a successful adult! I am not sure that I could have done it without their guidance!

Response by SMSgt Victor Ogden made Sep 17 at 2021 5:07 PM

SMSgt Victor Ogden — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 17:07:02 -0400

I learned a lot of things in my lengthy career—too many to mention. But the FIRST thing I learned sticks out in my mind:

I learned that the world is much more diverse than I realized when I joined in 1982. I was born and raised in Iowa, which—as of 39 years ago—had a population that was about 98% white. Starting in basic training, I was introduced to a diverse group of people of different races, ethnicities, and cultures. It was an eye-opening experience.

Today, I look back at my kids’ birthday party videos and pics and see a rainbow of people. I formed friendships with fantastic people from around the US and all over the world.

The military is a melting pot. I loved getting to learn new and wonderful things about the diversity inherent in our world. I am forever grateful.

Response by Sgt Laura Campbell made Sep 17 at 2021 6:44 PM

Sgt Laura Campbell — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 18:44:57 -0400

The most surprising thing I learned about myself was that although I have no concept of time, ( if I'm concentrating on something I can look up several hours later & it feels like 10 minutes went by & every time I'm still shocked) I can use tools (Thank God for cell phones now) to make sure I'm almost never late. (Never say never)

Response by PO1 James Akins made Sep 17 at 2021 7:28 PM

PO1 James Akins — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 19:28:14 -0400

What I learned about myself is education, team and hard work is very important in life and I threw my high school education away because for one I decided to work at an early age and another just didn't want to attend school. While in high school the only classes I took seriously was Math, English, and Drafting, because that was what interested me the most. I had dropped out with three months left to go and my high school grades weren't that great to begin with, to go into the "Navy". I scored high on the ASVAB test which was surprising to me and was assigned to a "GMM - Gunners Mate Missile" rating. The time I went in you didn't need a high school diploma but had to obtain a GED and my best friend went in with me. I went thru basic training in Great Lakes, Illinois, and some naval schools before going to the fleet and serving onboard the "USS California CGN 36". The one thing that amazed me was going thru "Basic, Electricity and Electronics" school and being a self paced course went thru it pretty fast, just kept completing my school courses, then thru an "A" school and that's what hooked me about education. I learned who the best person in the class was and chased his grade by studying to be better than he was and along the way I learned I was really smart but didn't use it because I was lazy and had no direction in my life. This situation changed my entire life and I dedicated myself to performing at high standard and to this day I remember were I started and how far came and if it wasn't for the "Navy" providing guidance and structure I would have drifted into a different life and wouldn't be where I'm at today.
The other thing I learned was hard work pays off, I could work hard already because my mom instilled in all seven of us in my family the sense if you work hard good things will come to you. Once I arrived onboard the "USS California" I was put with a small group of "GMM's" on the aft guided missile launcher, being the new guy wanted to impress them and fit in. I worked very hard at learning the missile system and performing "PM's". I put in some long hours on that missile system after the other "GMM's" left for the day just to catch up with what they already know which would put me on an even keel with them. I finally gained their respect and trust but I didn't let off. I kept the bar high for myself at what ever I did and over time gained a lot of knowledge of my work area and the ship but I still remained humble because I didn't want to offend anyone I just wanted to be part of the team. I can work quite well alone, and do it often but I work even better with in a team setting because the collaboration of everyone is what makes things go better.
I'm not saying it was easy, this type of life is structured for a reason because you need a certain amount of discipline to handle whatever comes at you especially the hard choices a person or team have to make and live with the consequences. What I learned along the way I passed it on to my four grown boys and that work ethic that have was instilled into them. My wife and kids have been through some hard times but in them we grew together and if you ask any of my boys what time of their life they remember was the best was when I was living in public housing, going to college, working as a part time college security officer and working once a month for the "Oregon Food Bank" unloading trucks of food to disperse thru the community food banks. There was no pay for doing this it was volunteer but at the end of it you got a few food boxes which I took home and gave some of it away to people in the low income housing area where we lived.
Filling out this response makes me reflect on the what ifs in my life, and not to long ago my son asked me if I had a good life. This question threw me for a loop haven't though much about my life and the path I took to get here today, but I told him that there wasn't anything I wouldn't change or regretted not doing because I did what was needed to keep the family together, fed and safe.

Response by SFC Linda Clipp made Sep 17 at 2021 7:36 PM

SFC Linda Clipp — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 19:36:44 -0400

That I am actually a good leader, excellent planner, super "dog-robber", and marvelous organizer...or, simply an awesome leader! ☺️

Response by SGT Ronald Audas made Sep 17 at 2021 7:53 PM

SGT Ronald Audas — Fri, 17 Sep 2021 19:53:13 -0400

Early on (basic training)I learned that a command is a command is a command.Our 1st Sgt briefed us on guard duty and the importance of holding our ground.On my first time at night at the motor pool ,I was approached by a figure I could only hear. I challenged him to halt.He informed me he was a 2 star general. I told him that tonight, I out rank him, and he needed to leave.45 minutes later,my relief showed up driven by the 2nd Lt.,with no other than my 2 star General.I was shaking all over.He told me to not be nervous.Had I had done anything different,I would never get off KP.Probably the single thing that made me a better soldier.

Response by SPC(P) Donald B. made Sep 18 at 2021 12:56 AM

SPC(P) Donald B. — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 00:56:07 -0400

that hot enough metal, regardless of how blunt it is when it's hot enough, can cut right through other rusted metal barrels when it is hot enough... yay for in country burn pits combating boredom ;P

Response by SPC Richard Rauenhorst made Sep 18 at 2021 10:28 AM

SPC Richard Rauenhorst — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 10:28:29 -0400

There is one other thing I learned about myself. I have a very low tolerance for other peoples stupid actions.

Response by SSG Rene Uhler made Sep 18 at 2021 10:54 AM

SSG Rene Uhler — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 10:54:04 -0400

I got married and had three sons.

Response by SPC Russ Bolton made Sep 18 at 2021 10:58 AM

SPC Russ Bolton — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 10:58:41 -0400

I learned to achieve my goals, even if the pathway seems to be unaccomplishable. I look my challenges in chronological values.

Response by SFC Vanessa Thomas made Sep 18 at 2021 11:08 AM

SFC Vanessa Thomas — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 11:08:45 -0400

I learned that I am strong, determined and loyal. I always did what it takes to accomplish the mission.

Response by SPC Justine Blankenbeckler made Sep 18 at 2021 11:11 AM

SPC Justine Blankenbeckler — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 11:11:40 -0400

I entered the Service at a later age than most. Never in my life did I think I would do this. I was a military wife, for years, but signing up is different. I learned (lol) if yiu are td to do something it's do it. The only thing I am afraid of is Heights. So when we did the Repelling off the tower, I was so nervous, Inknow the Drill Sergeant knew it. So it was my turn to climb up. Up I went. I was fine. Whew, they buckled me in, and told me how to go down the wall. Well half way down my rope slipped a little, and my knees buckled and scraped the wall big time. I got down and was done!! Not. Drill Sergeant says "BLANKENBECKLER" GOOD JOB, now let's do it again. I was strong inside me and upnI went and this time NO issues. I learned to take control of my Fears thank you

Response by Cpl David E. Jenkins Jr. made Sep 18 at 2021 11:17 AM

Cpl David E. Jenkins Jr. — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 11:17:47 -0400

What I most found surprising about myself is the sense of independence. I was 18 leaving home for the first time from under my parents support. I was becoming a Marine and what I learned at Parris Island changed my life and I became an independent thinker. Improvise adapt and overcome became my future and thats how I live my life. But at 18 I couldnt see myself like this before the military

Response by CW3 Joseph Lawrence made Sep 18 at 2021 11:27 AM

CW3 Joseph Lawrence — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 11:27:47 -0400

During my time in the National Guard I was at a seminar and learned some new things that were about to be implemented to the Guard. I was asked by the Logistics Officer of the state to give a briefing to a few people, and when I went to the podium I was in front of well over 250 individuals, to include some high ranking National Guard Officers. My time in the military had given me the confidence to speak to anyone, anywhere at any time about what I knew and what my opinion was concerning current operations. From a young man who jumped when someone said boo, to a seasoned Warrant Officer who was confident in what he knew is the main thing that the military taught me during my tenure. Till this day I still have that ability to write and talk with confidence and that is still surprising to me.

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 18 at 2021 11:43 AM

CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 11:43:54 -0400

My ability to persevere through adverse situation, my ability to lead as well as my capacity to care for all my Airmen.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 18 at 2021 12:06 PM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 12:06:41 -0400

I learned that I could run, and that I liked it. Something that was not previously on my to do list.

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 18 at 2021 12:18 PM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 12:18:41 -0400

We were ambushed on Thunder Road about 2 weeks after I arrived in country. Everything unfolded in slow motion. The jets were screaming overhead dropping about 100 yards in front of us. I looked over to my left ( I was in a VTR…M88 tank retriever) and saw 3 VC staring at us. Their AK’s were at port arms, neither threatening nor surrendering. I deferred to my driver (6 months in country) and said what do we do now. He replied,”You’re the Lieutenant!”. That motivated me to dismount and capture them with my .45. More importantly, I never forgot his words. To this day. Applicable in every way.

Response by MSgt Mark Bucher made Sep 18 at 2021 12:57 PM

MSgt Mark Bucher — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 12:57:20 -0400

I discovered an inner resolve, a dedication to something I never knew I had

Response by SSG Byron Hewett made Sep 18 at 2021 1:26 PM

SSG Byron Hewett — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 13:26:14 -0400

I learned to love to learn and that I could learn anything

Response by SGT John Goschka made Sep 18 at 2021 1:39 PM

SGT John Goschka — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 13:39:11 -0400

That I can keep control under fire and use my military training to defeat the enemy.

Response by SGT Lisa Mayne made Sep 18 at 2021 2:52 PM

SGT Lisa Mayne — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 14:52:56 -0400

I was completely shocked at how totally out of shape I was at the age of 18!

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 18 at 2021 8:34 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 20:34:23 -0400

I was surprised by how good a leader I could be. My last years in service were as 68W instructor. I was surprised at how much I loved being a full time trainer. It was very satisfying to watching students perform as skilled medics during the final FXT.

Response by SGT Erick Holmes made Sep 18 at 2021 8:36 PM

SGT Erick Holmes — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 20:36:00 -0400

there is an unlimited amount things that you learn about yourself. If I had to choose then it would be the "you can do it" it may take time and unlimited tries but you can do it

Response by Maj Ross Webster made Sep 18 at 2021 9:05 PM

Maj Ross Webster — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 21:05:17 -0400

To be a leader of people.

Response by SPC Luther Leary made Sep 18 at 2021 9:12 PM

SPC Luther Leary — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 21:12:19 -0400

I learned how to be more assertive and confident in myself and my abilities.

Response by SGT Frank Roberson made Sep 19 at 2021 12:22 AM

SGT Frank Roberson — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 00:22:21 -0400

I learned that People are not always what they claim to be and how to deal with difficult situations and be able to overcome adversities. Army training, Sir. Hooah!

Response by SFC Linda Clipp made Sep 19 at 2021 2:10 AM

SFC Linda Clipp — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 02:10:29 -0400

Communal latrines and showers were actually no problem to me. There were some who were taken aback by these situations...but eventually some were able to overcome their qualms. Those who couldn't soon found ways to leave the military, which was okay because the first war we went to had wooden 5-seaters (or at least 2-seaters when we were forward)!! Fun for all!!

Response by Capt Jamie Brown made Sep 19 at 2021 8:58 AM

Capt Jamie Brown — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 08:58:09 -0400

I was 44 yrs old when I decided to join the Air Force and was commissioned. Within my first year of being active duty, I was deployed. That was something completely out of my comfort zone and quite surreal at the same time. Once I arrived to my deployed location, it took almost a week to get acclimated to my surroundings and work environment. Once acclimated, I quickly learned that I was a much stronger person than I gave myself credit for. Had I not been newly married when I deployed, I would have extended my tour. My husband wasn’t dealing well with my absence, so I decided not to extend. There’s not a day that has passed since my return that my experiences haven’t crossed my mind. I love to tell people my story and how much my time in the service and my deployment changed me. I’m still very proud of myself for having made that decision to join. The experiences will forever live on in my memories.

Response by SSgt Daniel d'Errico made Sep 19 at 2021 2:50 PM

SSgt Daniel d'Errico — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 14:50:46 -0400

giving others the chance to either succeed or fail, can improve their becoming a better soldier. not giving them a chance only causes a loss of that soldier.

Response by MAJ Angelo Sambunaris made Sep 19 at 2021 7:59 PM

MAJ Angelo Sambunaris — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 19:59:12 -0400

Learning that one has not yet achieved their full potential. Learning that one can be responsible to a team and also be counting on their team. Lessons that served me well in life.

Response by SGT Lisa Mayne made Sep 19 at 2021 9:27 PM

SGT Lisa Mayne — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 21:27:11 -0400

Really didn’t take long for me to figure out how much I didn’t know about the world and about other people.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 19 at 2021 9:30 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 21:30:37 -0400

During basic training (way back when), I learned I could do it... the physical, the mental, the gas mask training, that I was really good at navigation and problem solving. Later on, that I had really good organizational skills and thinking on my feet.

Response by CPT William Pearson made Sep 19 at 2021 9:30 PM

CPT William Pearson — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 21:30:57 -0400

Ranger School is a real place to learn about one’s self. For me, it changed my life. Vietnam was a challenge, but my training helped me deal with ARVN soldiers. I learned the Army is a great place to understand yourself forever. RLTW.

Response by SPC Justine Blankenbeckler made Sep 19 at 2021 9:36 PM

SPC Justine Blankenbeckler — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 21:36:38 -0400

I learned I was Responsible for my Family. Anything my Son or Daughter did , if it was bad I had to report with my Superior to the Company First Sergeant. So I have an example. When I was stationed at Ft.Irwin, CA, the Military Police , we lived on base., came to the house. It was getting close to dinner and my Son was not home yet. They said could I come down there he was safe and did nothing wrong. I was like why am I going. So I got in the car, and there was my Son with his friend and their bikes. As you know everyone has id cards. Well my Son knows better NOT to to be in the BX without us. His friend went in and the friend stole something. My son did nothing wrong, but was with him. As a parent, when I reported to work MondayI had to report wit my Suoerior to the higher up. He was nice, and asked me did I know what would happen to Stephen? I said "no Sir:". Well his ID card will be stamped for 6 months. I know your Son did nothing wrong , but as you know anything your Son, Daughter, or husband does you are responsible for. I told him it would be taken care of and I will never have to be in his office again for something like m e that. My Son got punished, I'd card,stamped, and a thorough understanding if I had to go report again they would be going. There will not be a second time. His bike was taken away for 2 weeks. He was to come straight home from school. I wonder if anyone else experienced this or knew this. I did know I was responsible. I just had to explain to my son you wrte with the boy who stole. It does not matter. Thank you

Response by SFC Linda Clipp made Sep 19 at 2021 10:04 PM

SFC Linda Clipp — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 22:04:09 -0400

I found out I could do a little work on cars and trucks, and drive a sick-shift! Yep, the trusty, ol' deuce -and-a-half was my learner! (BIG smile!)

Response by SFC Richard Baerlocher made Sep 19 at 2021 10:20 PM

SFC Richard Baerlocher — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 22:20:17 -0400

When I first entered the service, I didn't like instructors, and never wanted to be one. Little did I know that an NCO is always an instructor. I learned that rather than a classroom environment I enjoyed working with the troops to help them become better at their skills. My troops achieved better than average SQT scores.

Response by SFC Robert Falco made Sep 20 at 2021 6:33 AM

SFC Robert Falco — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 06:33:21 -0400

That physically and mentally overcoming challenges was/ is determined by me and my determination to succeed and move forward.

Response by SPC Debra Hill made Sep 20 at 2021 9:43 AM

SPC Debra Hill — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 09:43:32 -0400

What l learned about myself.....I was a very shy person. I learned to open myself to others. I grew up in a primarily all white town, Learned not all people were "bad". Learned I could be an outdoor person! Discovered my strengths and overcame my weaknesses.

Response by SPC Martin Mahan made Sep 20 at 2021 10:13 AM

SPC Martin Mahan — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 10:13:31 -0400

Independence. I learned that I could do things on my own, despite what everyone on the outside had told me - parents, youth pastor, school counselors, etc. The Army instilled me with the confidence and determination to be able to accomplish things on my own that still keeps me going to this day.

Response by PO2 Gerald Oliver made Sep 20 at 2021 11:30 AM

PO2 Gerald Oliver — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 11:30:46 -0400

My purpose when enlisting was to fulfill my obligation to serve while gaining skills and education to guide my future. My techincal training was what I anticipated and enabled my advancement in responsibility and pay grade. What was not expected was the opportunity to serve on a Submarine that had a proud history and continued to provide vital service to the development of our Navy. USS Archerfish AGSS 311, Operation Sea Scan. Fortunate to have been a part of the crew and brotherhood of the Phin.

Response by PO1 James Akins made Sep 20 at 2021 12:40 PM

PO1 James Akins — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 12:40:28 -0400

What learned while serving in the navy was that I was more resilient than I thought I was, because military life is very different and sometimes hard to acclimate to. I learned a great deal more about myself in the areas of dedication, leadership, respect, responsibility, and teamwork which are important traits to have. These are now life long traits that I carry with me everyday and will not lower them for any reason.

Response by Sgt David Scott made Sep 20 at 2021 2:03 PM

Sgt David Scott — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 14:03:06 -0400

Learning that you are capable of doing the impossible on a moments notice, like prepare for inspection, or an additional guard assignment. A little time after bootcamp you learn that you are a part of a big organization where there is support for you and any problems you may have come your way. Just ask and it was there.

Response by SGT Erick Holmes made Sep 20 at 2021 2:15 PM

SGT Erick Holmes — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 14:15:37 -0400

You actually can do all things that you never thought that you could do and you can survive the Gas Chamber even when you go through twice cause you messed up the first time

Response by SrA Robert Adams made Sep 20 at 2021 2:19 PM

SrA Robert Adams — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 14:19:22 -0400

I learned I could drink to the wee hours of the morning then still get up and do pt..

Response by MSG Clyde Mills made Sep 20 at 2021 2:20 PM

MSG Clyde Mills — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 14:20:24 -0400

When I was the rank of E-4 and below, while being a married man and living off base. I still had to arrive early enough to help all those in my Platoon clean the barracks. Example, showers, restrooms, hallways and Platoon common meeting room. I hated this because the only places I would be in for almost 95% of the time I was on duty was the motor pool. Doing Pnc’s or actually repairs to my 1/4 Ton Jeep or APC. Then when I got promoted to E-5, I still had to come in an hour before the first formation to make sure my team members were up, dressed and the Platoon areas were cleaned by our E-4’s and below. Plus if I as a soldier lived on base. My Quarters were / could be inspected at any time a higher ranking Supervisor wanted to.

Response by SGT Jose Perdelia-Torres made Sep 20 at 2021 3:29 PM

SGT Jose Perdelia-Torres — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 15:29:25 -0400

I was really surprised with my own discipline and drive to meet goals, achieve higher rank, and surpass standards of operation/ established s.o.ps; because early on I wanted to achieve the rank and grade of SGT/E-5. This wasn't for the associated powers, glory, or for my own ego; but generally to instruct Soldiers and to learn even more about displaying the seven Army Values.

I wanted to bear more responsibility and to help ease any burdens that my unit had; and I wanted to achieve something that takes time and hard work to reach it. I was surprised at my drive and discipline to maintain that drive; that combination where purpose and mindset become one and clarity is reached. I put forth hours upon hours reading every FM and TM I could find; both physical copies and digit copies. I talked with everyone I could; my team and squad members to include the team leaders and Squad Leader; branching out to others in my company overall. I tried to learns from everyone; identifying early on who was an exemplary in areas of physicality, or charisma, etc. and trying to adopt them into my own displayed personality and characteristics. I tried to volunteer more and tried to not come across as someone who might be perceived as a "brownnoser".

I still carry the drive and discipline to improve physically, intellectually, and morally. Each day becoming a better version of myself, learning more knowledge, and surpassing goals and setting new ones for myself. Thank you for the opportunity to reflect and share.

Response by SGT Forrest Stewart made Sep 20 at 2021 5:23 PM

SGT Forrest Stewart — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 17:23:14 -0400

I'm far more resilient than I thought while growing up and being laughed at. To say the least, I'm not laughed at any more.

Response by 1SG Cynthia Butlerperry made Sep 20 at 2021 5:51 PM

1SG Cynthia Butlerperry — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 17:51:06 -0400

That I was mentally stronger than I thought and how I refused to allow negativity and distractions to prevent me from achieving my military goals.

Response by A1C Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 20 at 2021 6:53 PM

A1C Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 18:53:31 -0400

I learned that I am stronger, both mentally and physically than I always thought growing up.

Response by PFC William Mower made Sep 20 at 2021 10:22 PM

PFC William Mower — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 22:22:30 -0400

The ability to step into a situation and asses and make the necessary adjustments to comprehend and make the most appropriate decisions in order to accomplish the desired goal. And that my own worst enemy is my own fear, and that by over coming it I'm capable of accomplishing things I never would of thought possible

Response by MAJ James Woods made Sep 20 at 2021 11:17 PM

MAJ James Woods — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 23:17:03 -0400

Styles of leadership that proved helpful in my civilian careers. That being philosophically and ideologically independent when having to engage different people from different cultures and in different environments. It’s something you don’t learn in high school or college where you tend to spend all your time around people that think like you and enjoy the same things. Military life also taught me you can’t depend on others to look after your career progression. Don’t get me started on all those assignments officers I endured without a choice. Hahaha!

Response by SFC Linda Clipp made Sep 20 at 2021 11:55 PM

SFC Linda Clipp — Mon, 20 Sep 2021 23:55:37 -0400

I learned I had a seething, roiling inner power and could use it to influence the people and environments around me, for better...or worse. I could make a needy subordinate cry, and bring the sunshine to a tent-erecting "party". You gotta know...before the Army taught me how to handle unruly g.i.s, and how to make any task a happy piece of cake...I was the little, tiny wallflower in the corner. Life opened wide for me when I found my inner lion!

Response by Pvt SanJuana Méndez made Sep 21 at 2021 12:25 AM

Pvt SanJuana Méndez — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 00:25:37 -0400

During short time I was in, during Vietnam war, I learned that one will fail in military life if he feels more responsible for civilian matters than he does about military matters what applies to men does not in any way apply to women; & ignorance is "ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE."

Actually, ONLY thing I learned DURING my time on duty was iterated in only UCMJ class I attended: ignorance is no excuse, but first, I must explain attitude about feeling more responsible for civilian matters than about military matters. As oldest of 7 my parents ultimately had, was told by my dad that firstborn (NOT first male) is responsible for younger siblings when parents are no longer able to be responsible for their children--when the children become orphaned, firstborn must step in.

Which leads to next point: what applies to men in no way apply to women. With a few days remaining in emergency leave I had been given to deal with death of my mother, I went to my recruiter to request leave of absence. If I had been firstborn male, I might have been told there was no such thing & would have been offered hardship discharge instead.

Though my maternal grandfather died while his son was in the Army, there were other siblings to look after my grandmother--& they were all grown up, with families of their own. To my knowledge, mine was first family to become orphaned while oldest male AND female were in military service, & we had nobody to tell us anything about military life or protocol--both of us went in with tabula rasa (clean slate; knowing nothing--ignorant). My brother & I have never spoken about his military service so I have no way of knowing how much he knows. My platoon was halfway through Boot when I attended only UCMJ class, & only thing I remember from that class is that ignorance is no excuse. My brother & I had both been discharged when he told me that military personnel have rights that cannot & must not be violated. It is only in last 21 years since learning I could call myself a veteran that I have learned I had been discriminated against--according to gender AND culture.

During these last 2 decades, I have also learned that many of my brothers- & sisters-at-arms have been bound to non-disclosure, denying them all merit that they deserve; by same token Armed Forces/DoD can not only fail to disclose, they can mask their statements/disclosure with ambiguities.

Response by SPC Jeff Stassin made Sep 21 at 2021 1:16 AM

SPC Jeff Stassin — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 01:16:41 -0400

Probably the undetermined about of grit, the willingness to just keep going, the endangering amount of self sacrifice, the motivation and and stubbornness to get er done.

Response by SrA Miles Humphreys made Sep 21 at 2021 2:10 PM

SrA Miles Humphreys — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 14:10:08 -0400

I learned I am a lot more intelligent than I gave myself credit for, and if I have an incentive (dishonorable discharge, or team goal) I can accomplish anything. Since I have realized this, I consistently receive 90% or better on all exams. I wish I learned this lesson while attending high school. I always say, the kid who listens with understanding to their parents life learned lessons, could go on to lead our great nation. Great question, can't wait to read the responses.

Response by PO3 Kathy Getchey made Sep 21 at 2021 2:41 PM

PO3 Kathy Getchey — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 14:41:38 -0400

A million things, all of which keep me going from one day to the next.

Response by SGT Tim Anderson made Sep 21 at 2021 2:43 PM

SGT Tim Anderson — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 14:43:16 -0400

A surprising fact to learn about the US Military, in general; idiots get promoted, smart people get out while they can.

Response by CPO Deborah Simmons made Sep 21 at 2021 2:46 PM

CPO Deborah Simmons — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 14:46:59 -0400

I actually had what it took to become a Navy Sailor and Chief Petty Officer.

Response by SPC Paula Lindstrom made Sep 21 at 2021 3:39 PM

SPC Paula Lindstrom — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 15:39:47 -0400

That I was stronger and braver than I ever thought!

Response by SPC Tommy Dean made Sep 21 at 2021 3:53 PM

SPC Tommy Dean — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 15:53:20 -0400

I learned that my mind had a wall. If I hit it and pushed through there were two other walls. And when I pushed through those walls, I experienced ever increasing levels of euphoria. Then I’d puke.

Response by Cpl George Matousek made Sep 21 at 2021 5:06 PM

Cpl George Matousek — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 17:06:38 -0400

Learning I could shoot better than I thought since I had never fired a rifle before. Also being picked as a leader by fellow Marines.

Response by Sgt Christian Mendieta made Sep 21 at 2021 6:43 PM

Sgt Christian Mendieta — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 18:43:20 -0400

I am not a natural leader but I LEARNED how to be a leader, and I didn't know I had it in me. To this day, 10 years out, and I still apply the things I learned about leadership with my subordinates.

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Response by SN Dale "CG" Veach made Sep 22 at 2021 2:37 PM

SN Dale "CG" Veach — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 14:37:32 -0400

I learned that I could do what I was asked to to and more. I was a low grade student in school and not at all popular. Class dufus so to speak. But I took to the military like a coastie to water. I excelled at whatever I did and was respected for my abilities and knowledge.

Response by A1C Paul Kelly made Sep 22 at 2021 4:36 PM

A1C Paul Kelly — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 16:36:38 -0400

I know a lot about the bill of rights that other don't.

Response by SGT Dan Theman made Sep 22 at 2021 7:26 PM

SGT Dan Theman — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 19:26:45 -0400

Very simple ~ I learned that a 5’5” 109lbs lad with a 27 inch waist could go thru Basic & AIT and come out weighing 150lbs and still having a 27 inch waist.
I learned that a man who couldn’t swim or run a mile could be distinguished honor graduate in both NCO academies. But most of all I learned that I had earned the respect of my platoon by my actions and by my word.
My father instilled in us this—
“A mans word is his bond
and a man never breaks his bond”.
Not to mention they were all 6ft plus

Response by SSG Cam Prince made Sep 22 at 2021 7:30 PM

SSG Cam Prince — Wed, 22 Sep 2021 19:30:16 -0400

I found that I was a pushy person who would take charge if someone else didn't do so quickly. Probably one of the reasons, I was a SSG by the time I had four years in service.

Response by CSM Thomas McGarry made Sep 23 at 2021 10:08 AM

CSM Thomas McGarry — Thu, 23 Sep 2021 10:08:21 -0400

Coming from a middle class maybe even a little bit upper middle class background I didn't really have a lot of exposure to Americans from minority communities and in the Army I found we all are really not that different. Met a lot of great people and it really is true that character has nothing to do with where you came from or the color of your skin but has everything to do with the content of your character!

Response by PVT Pat Morrison made Sep 24 at 2021 7:52 PM

PVT Pat Morrison — Fri, 24 Sep 2021 19:52:43 -0400

My ability to endure.

Response by MSG Charles Kaiser made Sep 25 at 2021 10:19 AM

MSG Charles Kaiser — Sat, 25 Sep 2021 10:19:57 -0400

I learned that i was respected and a true roll model to most of my men . When i say most some people are not a team player and will never be a team player i find this more in civilian life .

Response by SPC Jerry Mensah made Sep 25 at 2021 2:02 PM

SPC Jerry Mensah — Sat, 25 Sep 2021 14:02:34 -0400

Nothing

Response by SPC Jerry Mensah made Sep 25 at 2021 2:03 PM

SPC Jerry Mensah — Sat, 25 Sep 2021 14:03:01 -0400

Only happy to be alive after 2 deployment

Response by Sgt Fredric Garms made Sep 26 at 2021 12:17 PM

Sgt Fredric Garms — Sun, 26 Sep 2021 12:17:04 -0400

When I came back home from leave after Recruit Training from MCRD Parris Island and realized I was a change man. My girlfriend at the time found “JODY” and she was banging all my so called friends. I could not wait to go back to my unit where I actually felt at home.

Response by SrA Joe Martin made Sep 26 at 2021 1:40 PM

SrA Joe Martin — Sun, 26 Sep 2021 13:40:20 -0400

I learned that I am more resilient than I ever thought.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 26 at 2021 1:42 PM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 26 Sep 2021 13:42:41 -0400

I would say it was surprising to learn how much I could endure, and what I could accomplish. I never really did much to push / challenge myself before joining.

Response by SP5 Richard Unice made Sep 26 at 2021 7:24 PM

SP5 Richard Unice — Sun, 26 Sep 2021 19:24:35 -0400

SPC5
How I responded to favorably to discipline.

Response by Maj Maria Avellaneda made Sep 27 at 2021 2:06 AM

Maj Maria Avellaneda — Mon, 27 Sep 2021 02:06:11 -0400

I learned that most people get the wrong impressions of me until they know me better.
My boss at the MPS in Little Rock decided she was going to swap duties for me and the other Captain in the unit. After announcing the change, she called me to the office to share that she had two lines of people coming to her. One line, my people asking her to keep me in my job. The second line, the people from the other department asking her not to send me to the other office. When I left the unit, the people that didn’t want me to go to their department were crying on my farewell! Needless to say this was troublesome at times. I had similar situations in civilian life!

Response by SMSgt Lawrence McCarter made Oct 13 at 2021 12:26 AM

SMSgt Lawrence McCarter — Wed, 13 Oct 2021 00:26:57 -0400

I learned I could handle unpleasant or even dangerous situations, Communicate well and lead without stress taking over. I was able to react quickly just on instinct. I do credit some very good in service training however for those abilities not all of which I had before. Confidence in Myself to accomplish anything I needed to do developed with the experience gained during my Military service. That I feel served Me well for the rest of My life.

Response by SSG Franklin Briant made Oct 22 at 2021 7:46 PM

SSG Franklin Briant — Fri, 22 Oct 2021 19:46:26 -0400

I learned that the only limits I have are in my head. Once I put that aside there were no limits.

Response by PFC Tiffany Sparks made Oct 22 at 2021 8:04 PM

PFC Tiffany Sparks — Fri, 22 Oct 2021 20:04:58 -0400

That I had a determination inside of me to always finish no matter what.

Response by SPC Robert Bobo made Mar 29 at 2022 6:34 PM

SPC Robert Bobo — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 18:34:15 -0400

I seemed to be a "natural" at soldiering, advanced quicker than anticipated, sought out opportunities to lead others , had more confidence in myself than I realized, I enjoyed a challenge , pressure and competition

Response by SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL made Mar 15 at 2023 5:37 AM

SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL — Wed, 15 Mar 2023 05:37:08 -0400

Thanks for sharing