What should I do if my National Guard unit is in Ohio but my husband and I live in North Carolina and he’s stationed here?

You need to speak directly to your unit. No one on this site can give you a one size fits all response. If your spouse remains I. The Army he will move again. You will be faced with this continually throughout, it is a dynamic that comes will dual service, active, guard or reserve component. It becomes more challenging the more senior you both become. I would say that you need to work through your bonus issue, but you have some long term review to do with your spouse. Good luck and thank you for your service.

Ask for a transfer to a like type or sister Unit

You'll need to do an Interstate Transfer (IST) to a unit that has the same MOS as your bonus is for (if it's MOS specific or an affiliation bonus) - it will probably have to be a unit that has a critical shortage of that low-density MOS.

Contact a National Guard Recruiter in the state you'd like to join (or states around the state where you live) as see if they can find a unit that has a vacancy. They'll help you with getting released and attached to a new unit. It will be a long process, but your old unit will understand- just communicate with them & also if you find the new unit to join, your old unit should let you drill with the new unit until the transfer is complete. Communication with your old Command/Leadership is key!