What is the best lesson an NCO/Officer has ever taught you?

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What is the best lesson/piece of advice an NCO or officer has ever taught you? Personally, I would say the most impressionable advice an NCO has ever taught me was that at the end of the day, my military career is in my hands. My decisions reflect my career and at the end of the day, if I want something done (schooling opportunities, career advancement) to ALWAYS push and never give up.

What's the best advice you have ever received?

Response by CWO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 4:04 PM

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The words of former Sergeant Major of USMC Leland B. "Crow" Crawford always stuck with me and served me well. With regard to leadership he made it simple. Firmness. Fairness. Dignity.

Response by Capt Daniel Goodman made Feb 17 at 2018 4:04 PM

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Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 4:10 PM

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Response by COL John Hudson made Feb 17 at 2018 4:18 PM

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NEVER believe for a minute that anyone else in the military will watch/monitor your career as closely as you do yourself. NEVER assume someone will automatically promote you or enter your name for any program, school, or advancement opportunity. NEVER throw away ANY military paperwork. Many were the times during my 30 year military career that I had an order or piece of paperwork that DA or my unit had supposedly 'lost.' I simply kept a file drawer with plain manila folders marked by year and tossed a copy of anything into them. So - one folder for each year takes up very little space - or if you're a computer nut - scan them and keep those scans on more than one back up drive or thumb drive. This was some of the best advice I ever received as a young enlisted soldier, then Warrant Officer, and finally walked out the back door as an O6 Colonel. I found an award I had never received, corrected retirement points and dates, successfully challenged incorrect verbiage on more than one efficiency report, and was ALWAYS up on promotion times, requirements and submission items. Having all my admin ducks in order got me promoted at first look and I had my name first on the list for any required class or school. Simple advice, simple process, simple program for success in one's military career.

Response by A1C Ian Williams made Feb 17 at 2018 4:23 PM

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Let others fail in a safe and controlled environment so they can learn to stand on their own two feet, ask for help and become better assets to you later. SSG Private RallyPoint Member

Response by MAJ Byron Oyler made Feb 17 at 2018 4:25 PM

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"To be a good leader, you must first be a good follower." MSGT Loreman, USAF (RET). I was bitter about not being the FLT LDR my freshman year of JROTC and 27years later, I believe I am the highest ranking and most successful military wise from that class.

Response by SGT Joseph Gunderson made Feb 17 at 2018 4:27 PM

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When I was a PFC, maybe a SPC I can't remember exactly, I was tasked with a detail for a change of command that took place at III Corps. I was an usher; basically, I took the place of a cone marking the way to the reception. I was just supposed to stand at parade rest and whenever someone passed me I would come to attention and render a greeting. Eventually, a CSM and a BG came walking up to me. I went from parade rest to attention and rendered a greeting. They BG raised his hand above his head for a high five. I stood motionless at attention for about fifteen seconds before the CSM leaned in and said, "unless you want to do some push-ups, you better give that general his damn high five, private." Well, there was no arguing with that. I reluctantly gave a pitiful high five to the BG and quickly snapped back to attention. They both smiled and as they began to walk past me the BG chuckled out, "Don't take life too seriously, kid."
Words that I have lived by ever since! lol

Response by SMSgt Thor Merich made Feb 17 at 2018 4:28 PM

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The lesson I was taught was that you can learn from anyone. Don’t discount the lowliest Airman or Privates advice just because they are new. You never know, they just might have the solution that you are looking for.

Response by Capt Daniel Goodman made Feb 17 at 2018 4:38 PM

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Sorry for typo, O-2 was the plane he'd flown, I just had ophthalmic of surgery, also, this tablet I'm using is very prone to typos and auto corrects, I'm afraid..

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 4:39 PM

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I was deployed to Iraq and I'd just pinned E-5. I was tasked with driving the task force CSM to the flight line at BIAP. After several minutes of awkward, silent driving I worked up the courage to ask him if he had any advice for a new NCO. He simply said to leave every assignment a little better than when you arrived. Even if it's a small improvement eventually it all adds up to something much bigger.

Response by SGM (R) Antonio Brown made Feb 17 at 2018 4:45 PM

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Learn at least one thing about everyone you come in contact with and you will always have that one thing on common.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 4:56 PM

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In every decision, think first about your subordinates, then your assets, then your mission. If you satisfy the necessities in that order, you can't go wrong.

Response by SGT Mark Halmrast made Feb 17 at 2018 5:11 PM

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Professionalism.
I had a SSG who was the consummate professional who, by his example and exhortation, lifted us all. I sent him a letter to thank him, 30 years later, that's how much of an impact he had on me.

Response by SGT David A. 'Cowboy' Groth made Feb 17 at 2018 5:14 PM

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I was given advice from an old C O of mine, if I was going screw off, make it look like I was doing something productive.

Response by Maj John Bell made Feb 17 at 2018 5:46 PM

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If you get visibly angry and full of rage in peace, you just sent a message you don't want to send about how you will be in combat. I never allowed myself to be angry with a Marine again.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 6:06 PM

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It’s better to make the wrong decision and learn from it than to fail to make a decision at all.

Response by CW3 Jeff Held made Feb 17 at 2018 7:22 PM

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GREAT question!

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 7:49 PM

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One of the PSGs I hated the most gave me the best advice. If you don’t like where you are at, rank up.

Response by SPC Margaret Higgins made Feb 17 at 2018 9:07 PM

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I learned this on my own in the Army; so I am not sure if this is what you are looking for, SSG Private RallyPoint Member, but I learned that one can learn from the Private on up- and from the General on down. I mean, with this statement, absolutely NO disrespect to Privates. You Privates are professionals just like the Generals are.
-Margaret C. Higgins U.S. Army Retired

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 17 at 2018 9:09 PM

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This is my own advice. "Work hard and be nice to people, unless they give you a reason not to be nice."

Response by CPT Gurinder (Gene) Rana made Feb 17 at 2018 9:24 PM

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I was taught never to judge any book by its cover alone; be the one to seek the truth, know the subject inside and out, do what is right for the masses and not just the few (Be, Know & Do).

Response by SGT Aaron Atwood made Feb 17 at 2018 9:51 PM

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NCOs and SNCOs in my line of work are well worth the advice for knowing how to do the job better. Officers help me to understand a bigger picture, and in many cases the "why" behind certain parts of the job. I've gotten solid advice from both.

Response by SSG Dave Johnston made Feb 17 at 2018 10:36 PM

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Most of the advice and lessons I learned how to be a good NCO came from NCO's outside of my MOS and some really good advice I received came from a SGM in the British Army, and it all boiled down to this:
1. Be willing to get dirty with your subordinates to show them how to perform a task. If Joe PVT has a better, easier way to accomplish XXXXX so be it. As long as its done.
2. Be a Shoulder to cry on, a sounding board for their frustrations, and keep the paperwork to a minimum. keep it internal, only write it up when it is egregious and blatant.
3. Nudge, never push; you'd be surprised with how much more can be accomplished that way.
4. Periodically help them blow off steam someplace where "you" control the environment, whether it's between members of the Platoon, or a chip about command; even if it's about you. Let them go off. The ruffled feathers can be smoothed. UCMJ leaves a mark.

Response by MAJ Wiley Winter made Feb 17 at 2018 11:22 PM

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Don’t yell so much, sir!

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2018 10:42 AM

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My NCOs taught me how to really think unconventionally while forming a tactical plan, how to read terrain at a glance, and how to instantly see the weakness in an enemy's position. Then one of my SSGs saved my life. You cannot do much better than that!

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 18 at 2018 12:18 PM

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That the work will always be there tomorrow no matter how late you stay that evening. I was always staying late trying to either get ahead or complete another task. It will eventually catch up with you...maybe not tomorrow, or next month, or next year, but somewhere along the line you will hit the wall.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 19 at 2018 8:13 AM

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My first deployment as a division officer, I had a Senior Chief "take my under his wing" when my Chief was sent home following a medical emergency. He was the first SNCO to teach me that while it was good that I respected and learned from the Chiefs...I needed to learn to still "wear" the rank on my collar. He taught me to remember that every officer the Sailors see...from the CO to the CNO started out as a "butter bar", and the men expect to see the "seeds" of that leadership even from a JO. It is a lesson that I hope I gave evidence of learning...not only in my active service, but leadership in the private sector and at home.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 21 at 2018 9:06 PM

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"Sir, think of life like a pie. Think even of the Army as a pie. You usually don't eat the whole thing all in one sitting, so attack the pie in slices. That is the key to life, the Army, and leadership. To be a good leader, start out with pieces. Be an expert at the fundamentals, then take another piece of the pie. Doctrine. Then another. Enlisted functions. Then another. Personnel actions. And the list goes on. Take things in slices, and you will be successful in all you do."

SSG Michael Lang, a 35M, Human Intelligence Collection NCO. I was a brand new, newly minted 2LT fresh from college. He wasn't my platoon sergeant at the time, but since I took charge of the platoon within the company that did not have a platoon sergeant, he took me under his wing as well in addition to the other 2LT in his platoon. We were out on a field exercise when he told me this, and I'll remember it forever. An amazing human being.

Response by LTC Patrick Turner made Feb 25 at 2018 11:05 PM

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I have 34 years of service both in active and reserve service. Was the S3 if a Brigade and also the President of a 610 person company of a logistics concern. One of best pieces of advice I ever got was from an officer early in my career. Simplistically put, he said, communicate tough/bad news up the chain the moment you become aware of it. This advice saved me many ass chewings and endeared me to my superiors as a guy who would communicate early and often. Many times I saw other younger guys scramble to avoid / or hide bad news that invariably blew up on them. I learned the value of communication with bosses who appreciated the heads up and also mentored me at the same time. Many times, they asked me “now that we all know that, WHAT are YOU going to do about it? P S: it also works in a good marriage (35 years married)!

Response by MSgt Robert Kagel made Mar 1 at 2018 2:03 PM

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I had heard the term before, but I had a Section Chief who always used the term "Perception is Reality" if there are things that don't appear right, chances are you'll just barely have to dig to find something really wrong. The opposite also holds true.

Response by PFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 1 at 2018 8:51 PM

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Never utter the words “this f’ing sucks sir” to a LTG when asked how things are going. One ☝️ f my Sgts during Desert Storm did this during our deployment and was paid in ass chewings from the LTC to the Plt Sgt. we all had quite a laugh about it later though.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 1 at 2018 9:02 PM

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Stand Tall and be Counted.

Response by SSG William Kimbrell made Mar 2 at 2018 12:07 PM

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CSM Crisp 263rd 1st Armored Brigade 1973. Said establish your goal, acknowledge what success is . Work back to where you are. Then you can set your course to victory. It has never failed

Response by COL Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 2 at 2018 1:40 PM

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What I learned from a battalion commander when I was a young buck sergeant. Every soldier has a sergeant. The BN CDR has the CSM, CO has 1SG, a Private has his Team and Squad leader. NCOs run this Army every day so if a young LT fails his NCOs have failed. We all know it’s the NCO Corps that run the Army but he put the fire to our feet that if there was a failure it’s because a Sergeant wasn’t doing his job. Every Solier has a Sergeant!

Response by SGT Philip Roncari made Mar 2 at 2018 3:15 PM

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Advice from my old platoon Sergeant,that has been indelibly printed on my remaining brain cells “goddamn it Roncari don’t quit”!

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Mar 2 at 2018 5:14 PM

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Have some fun with the troops and thank those who never get recognized.

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made Mar 2 at 2018 9:50 PM

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Responsibility to my troops just as important as my responsibility to my superiors.

Response by MAJ Brad Friedlander made Mar 4 at 2018 11:16 AM

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The best lesson I ever learned came from an NCO that I admired long before I was in the service. The lesson was simple: Put your trust in your senior NCO. He or she has far more experience than you who are in command and is most frequently right.

The senior NCO was my Dad: MSG Yael Friedlander. I took his advice to heart when I became an officer.

Dad recently passed away at the age of 98 and 2/3. I had the honor of giving him a final salute at the funeral service at the VA cemetery near Las Vegas.

Response by Cpl Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 4 at 2018 2:53 PM

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The best advice I ever got was from a Staff Sergeant by the name of Fred Sames (RIP) who told me that training is hard enough without SNCOs throwing their weight around for the hell of it. He said you don't have to train to be uncomfortable, that comes naturally with the job.

Response by Maj John Bell made Mar 4 at 2018 3:27 PM

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If you lose your cool and get pissed off in peace time, non-emergency environment; what message are you sending your Marines about how you will handle the stress of combat?

Response by CW2 Ernest Krutzsch made Mar 5 at 2018 3:44 PM

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A Captain once told me If you want me to be on the plane when it crashes, ensure I am on the plane when it takes off..In other words if something bad may happen make sure I hear about it from you, not the General. I was the 1st SGT

Response by CW2 Ernest Krutzsch made Mar 5 at 2018 4:02 PM

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As an aside, I was newly appointed as a warrant, Previously I was a SFC. When I was in Korea, I saw the troops with my Senior NCO. I walked up and asked what the problem was, She stated, "This is NCO business" Message received, Know your lane!

Response by SSG Lyle O'Rorke made Mar 5 at 2018 11:17 PM

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The best advice I ever got was at a chow hall in Korea. It was from an older gentleman who sat down to eat breakfast next to me. We were on a small post, CSCT 3, maybe 45 Americans with an COL in command during day to day. This was right before a UFL exercise, and we had III CORPS Arty commander and DC on post. Well the gentleman started talking to me and asked my goals and gave me a lot of advice about enjoying my experiences and keeping my career in my control. I though little of it because we always had tons of visitors. At the end of the exercise I see the guy put a not and envolope on my door and go back into his room which was across the hall from mine. That’s when I put two and two together, my breakfast was with the DC of III Corps. Was a great memory that left a strong impression on a young PV2

Response by MSgt Chandos Clapper made Mar 6 at 2018 4:02 PM

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If you take care of your people, your people will take care of you.

Response by MSgt Chandos Clapper made Mar 6 at 2018 4:03 PM

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If you take care of your people, your people will take care of you.

Response by 1stSgt Joseph Jaramillo made Mar 6 at 2018 9:03 PM

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I was a young PFC sweating everything and anything. Sgt. M.G. Rockwell took me aside and said, in part; "If you can fix it, fix it. If you can't fix it, it ain't your problem."

Response by CPT Wes Marsh made Mar 11 at 2018 5:10 PM

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An organization does those things well that the boss checks. So as a boss, you need to check everything. If not the boss, you need to check everything that the boss doesn't.

Response by SPC Sean Martin made Mar 11 at 2018 5:16 PM

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A little patience goes a long way! Step back and look at the whole situation. What is it you are trying to accomplish. You know, the big picture. One small thing here, could effect what happens in the long term. Early in my career, I had a couple NCO's who really took the time to teach me, by physically putting hands on projects. I learned a lot by that, than simply told to do something without any knowledge or trial an error! MSG Issac, SGT Thompson

Response by Lt Col Bill Fletcher made Mar 23 at 2018 11:55 AM

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Th best lesson I learned was early in Beast Barracks. We were in the middle of a uniform formation drill. There was no winning only persevering. The fact the entire process was not win able wasn't the point. The point that I took away was we were going to keep going regardless of the outcome and we were going to do it together. Keeping one's cool under pressure served me in good stead flying fighters and in the courtroom once I quit flying.

Response by MCPO Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 24 at 2018 11:58 AM

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A Captain I served under was instructing a newly arrived Ensign to earn the respect of those who serve below deck. The Ensign looked perplexed and ask, "Why is that?" The Captain, amazed at his arrogance, sternly replied, "Because they're the ones who know the ship is sinking first!"

Response by PFC Ross Fernandez made Mar 29 at 2018 3:37 PM

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That's simple....lead by example!

Response by Cpl Brian Ruby made Mar 30 at 2018 11:05 AM

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Listen to your men. You cannot anticipate every possible scenario that might occur when devising a plan. Having stripes (or bars) does not make you an infallible God. You don't listen, people die.

Response by SFC David Bentley made Mar 31 at 2018 5:24 PM

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one of my early mentors CSM Bjornson told me to never burn a bridge in the Army, you never know when you will be back working with someone, always offer your help or assistance to other NCOS you never know when you will need help yourself.

Response by CPT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 3 at 2018 2:45 PM

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The best advice I got from an old 1SG was this: "Trust your gut feeling on what's right or wrong but always take time to think about how your actions impact others and think through everything first." I feel like this is good advice because I believe I have a strong moral compass but am guilty of knee jerk reactions. This advice has got me to slow my thinking down and give me time to put my thoughts together before making a decision.

Response by SFC Greg Bruorton made Apr 3 at 2018 2:51 PM

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The best advice ever received was from several NCOs at the NCO Academy at Fort Jackson. And that was Methods of Instruction; how to teach professionally, thoroughly, and with conviction. I use those attributes learned in teaching today varied subjects of religious topics, guitar and music instruction.

The most valued advice received from NCOs was to always Set the Example.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 3 at 2018 4:58 PM

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The officer-enlisted divide in the sea services are great (edit: by great, I mean expansive and large). We wear different uniforms, eat in different places, etc. and have the historical and practical reasons to do so. It I carried a piece of wisdom from an Army NCO, MSG, when I was in high school rotc. Before doing chaplaincy, I wanted to be a submarine officer. I was designated the platoon leader at this particular summer camp, for that days activities. I was first in line to the bus, and just stood to the side as my platoon got on. MSG Ociferio, our instructor, before I got on the bus held me back, and said “That right there, that’s what makes a good Officer. Great job.” Especially poignant after hearing a SFC bring a group of high school cadets (he was NOT cadre, but was tasked by the 3ID as running the course we were on) together and said, “Officers are bas*****. All of them.”

I bumped into that MSG some 12 years later. Camp was only a week, so of course he didn’t remember me. But I made sure I thanked him.

Number 2, a gentleman at my church, UDT (forerunner of the SEALs) in WWII and Marine GySgt in Korea said, “Even as an Officer, never call a Gunnery Sergeant ‘Gunny’ unless he gives you permission.” Served me well every time thus far.

Course, there’s much advice from many many Officers that have served me well also, and other advice from NCOs, Chiefs, Warrants, and even Petty Officers and E-nothing’s. Always something to learn if you look and listen for it.

Response by SGT Randall Spence made Apr 3 at 2018 11:36 PM

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Always look after your troops, make sure they get what they need even if it means you go short.

Response by SSG Paul Lundquist made Apr 5 at 2018 7:25 PM

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NCOs should know something about the men they lead. The smaller the unit, the more the NCO should know.
Trust any subordinate leaders under you to know their people, and talk to them constantly.
This was taught to me by my first line company platoon sergeant in Vietnam, and it carried me very well through my career.

Response by SSG Craig Newton made Apr 8 at 2018 10:35 AM

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When you screw up, own it. And the job of any leader is to prepare their subordinates for their next promotion.

Response by CH (CPT)(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 8 at 2018 10:39 AM

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One of the most important lessons came from a 1SG. He had a CSM tell him to counsel me bit before doing so he asked my side of the situation. After hearing both sides he knew a counseling would not be needed.
We talked about this and he told me every good leader takes the time to hear both sides of an issue when it comes to Soldiers. I've used this advice as a Sr. NCO and as a Chaplain.
Best advice I've ever received from a military leader.

Response by SFC Thomas Nichols made Apr 8 at 2018 10:57 AM

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I had a team sergeant that had a no-nonsense way of looking at things. I remember that there was a guy complaining a lot, and this team sergeant finally had enough and said, "I know all about what you can't do." That was just one thing that he said that really stuck with me, but there were many subtle lessons like that.

Response by MSgt John McGowan made Apr 8 at 2018 11:06 AM

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Two pieces of advise I remember very well. Keep my supervisor advised and he gets no surprises. I found out later just how bad surprises can be. Know what you are signing even if it only means the form was filled out correct. My best is know when to hold them, know when to fold them, you can't always win.

Response by PO1 Raymond Fochler made Apr 8 at 2018 11:23 AM

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I believe it is the duty of each of us to act as if the fate of the world depended on him. Admittedly, one man by himself cannot do the job. However, one man can make a difference. We must live for the future of the human race, and not for our own comfort or success.” Hyman G Rickover

Response by SFC Brad Maddox made Apr 9 at 2018 10:14 AM

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"Sergeants eat Last". This quote has a whole lot of meaning to me. The statement entails many leadership traits that are often used. I have many book titles that have yet to have prints. One of them is " Sergeants Eat Last" . I still use that attitude as a retired soldier in a civilian world.

Response by Cadet COL Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 9 at 2018 10:23 AM

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I had a retired Sergeant Major as a JROTC instructor when I was in high school, and he was always big on excuses. Just talking about owning up for everything, whether it was entirely your fault or not. If one of your guys screwed up, it was on you, and obviously if you screwed up, you need to own up to it. Gave me a huge speech about it since I always liked to give excuses, and now whenever I attempt to give one, I think about that moment from about 7 years ago.

Response by MSgt Gary Miller made Apr 11 at 2018 7:39 PM

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How not to treat people. Many times throughout my career I experienced both Officers and NCO's who really treated their subordinates both military and Civilian with allot of disrespect. And towards the end of my career, I had an NCOIC who saw me as a threat to his authority because I had been at the base and in the unit for a really long time and people in the unit had learned that they could trust and rely on me. Needless to say, I was very poorly treated and performance reports did not reflect truthfully on my performance.
These experiences taught me how not to treat people who I worked with and has been a great benefit throughout my life.

Response by TSgt Alejandro Cuervo made Apr 15 at 2018 12:20 AM

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At my first duty station, during my very first debrief my SNCO gave me advice that I followed throughout my career. He stated, "You can't be a good leader if you're not a good follower" that click with me instantly because it made sense to me. I was lucky in my career because I had good NCO's & Officer's I respected, here is one more example that was profound to me once I became an aircrewman, my Commanding Officer told me "Whatever you do when people are around doesn't matter as much as to what you do when people are not around." While I have many other's these two were the ones that shaped who I was while I was servicing our great country.

Response by CPT Don Kemp made Apr 15 at 2018 11:12 PM

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I was a SSG E-6 applying for an Active Duty ROTC Scholarship. I did it on my own. My Battalion Commander, LTC Douglas Tademy, told me “God helps those who help themselves.” He subsequently wrote a letter of recommendation for me. I’ve never forgotten to ask senior ranking people for help after that.

Response by CPO Deborah Simmons made Apr 18 at 2018 12:56 PM

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When I was in the Navy, my mentor was the Command Master Chief. I just made E7, and one of his advise to me was, "Stand your ground if you are correct and can prove it, but if you're wrong, take the @$$ chewing, brush yourself off and keep on stepping.

Response by SSgt Tina GAllagher made May 3 at 2018 3:34 PM

2018-05-03T15:34:08-04:00

To stand up for myself, how to do so and how to choose my battles.

Response by Sgt Steve Williams made May 5 at 2018 9:24 AM

2018-05-05T09:24:02-04:00

The first thing that I thought of was something I tried to practice throughout my civilian career: Never ask your people to do something you aren't willing and able to do.

Response by Lt Col John Culley made May 7 at 2018 1:17 PM

2018-05-07T13:17:55-04:00

Five star General Douglas MacArthur's statement that there is no substitute for victory.

Response by SSG Thomas Hill made May 9 at 2018 9:40 AM

2018-05-09T09:40:12-04:00

At the end of Basic Training in 1979 our Drill told me, "Hill, regulations exist for a purpose, but are never more important than the wellbeing of those you are responsible for." I remembered that well when I became a NCO and was responsible for soldier care.

Response by LtCol Joe Waldron made May 10 at 2018 12:53 PM

2018-05-10T12:53:12-04:00

Staff NCO leadership. From a 45 year old Staff Sergeant, finest NCO I ever new. He retired a SgtMaj.

Response by LT Ed Skiba made May 13 at 2018 9:39 PM

2018-05-13T21:39:28-04:00

From an old Master Chief that was in the German Navy for some of WWll: Don't think you know it all even if you are good at your job and NEVER say...it ain't my job... just do it.

Response by CPL Harry Daniel made May 15 at 2018 4:02 PM

2018-05-15T16:02:18-04:00

The best advice that I've received during my tour of duty came from my Senior Drill Sergeant Cannady and my First Sergeant Guest. Be prepared always. Do your duty to the best of my ability and to respect the Organization.

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made May 19 at 2018 12:33 PM

2018-05-19T12:33:27-04:00

"It is better to be an hour early, than a minute late"

Response by SSG Robert Perrotto made May 20 at 2018 10:56 AM

2018-05-20T10:56:50-04:00

Patience and understanding that not everyone has the same knowledge or work ethic

Response by SSG Robert Reynolds made May 23 at 2018 10:22 AM

2018-05-23T10:22:52-04:00

My very first Team Leader, CPL Adam McDowell was the best Leader I ever had the privilege to work for. He taught me to incredibly valuable lessons. The first was lead by example, and he taught this to me by being an example to follow. His beliefs on leadership were soldiers will do whatever you order them to because that's what soldiers do, but if you lead by example, and treat your soldiers with respect they will take the initiative and go the extra mile for you without every being told to. The second lesson he taught me was when he sat me down one day and said "Reynolds, you're going to have good leaders, and bad leaders in the Army, learn from both. Take the qualities that you admire in the good leaders, and apply them to your own leadership style. Then look upon the bad leaders, and promise yourself that you will not lead your soldiers like that." He also taught me (quite painfully, and completely deserved on my part) that sometimes the best way to get through to a soldier is to smoke the living hell out of them, and other times it's best to sit down and have a heart to heart to try to figure out what the root of the problem is.

Response by Col Russ Logan made May 30 at 2018 1:50 PM

2018-05-30T13:50:48-04:00

The NCO was my father (28.5 year CMSgt USAF). I was the newly minted 2Lt (also USAF). The Lesson (besides the very valuable experience of growing up around the enlisted members and getting to know their quality and value)? "When it goes right - it's your people's fault. When it goes wrong - it's yours. And let them see that. Do this, and they will never let you down." He was absolutely right (proven many times in my own 24 years.

Response by Col Russ Logan made May 30 at 2018 1:52 PM

2018-05-30T13:52:07-04:00

Response by LTC Marvin Gibson made Jun 3 at 2018 7:22 AM

2018-06-03T07:22:20-04:00

"You attract more flies with honey then with vinegar!", COL Bruce Baker...

Response by 1LT Otis R. made Jun 3 at 2018 7:26 AM

2018-06-03T07:26:54-04:00

“Sir, you might want to reconsider...."

Response by SN Kristi Kalis made Jun 5 at 2018 5:16 PM

2018-06-05T17:16:41-04:00

A wise Officer once told me to take advantage of every opportunity available through the military, whether it be education, benefits, travel, or whatever. He also told me to hold the military accountable for every injury and to keep meticulous documentation for whenever I got out. This has saved my bacon when it comes to getting proper treatment and filing for compensation.

Response by LTC Lewis Cox made Jun 12 at 2018 1:05 AM

2018-06-12T01:05:30-04:00

My very first Plt Sgt gave me advice that helped throughout my career. He said your os have a wealth of experience and knowledge. Don’t hesitate to call on them for information and recommendations. I found this to be absolutely true but with a couple of individual exceptions my
Lt Sbt’s advice proved invaluable throughout. My career.entire career.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 14 at 2018 1:38 PM

2018-06-14T13:38:44-04:00

Take care of yourself first. The [Branch of Service] will always demand more, but if you burn out you're no good to anyone. When you need to step back, or eat, or sleep, then do it. Taking care of yourself is not weakness, it is professionalism and excellence and is the ONLY way to ensure you can continue to be an asset.

Response by TSgt Michael Ponti made Jun 18 at 2018 1:54 PM

2018-06-18T13:54:25-04:00

E-9 when I was a lowly E-2, and did something stupid. "Your not Stupid, so don't act like it." Another great Quote of his "Fix the problem, not the blame".

Response by Cpl J. R. Lonsway made Jun 20 at 2018 2:35 PM

2018-06-20T14:35:54-04:00

Marine Corps 1974, just promoted to PFC six months out of boot camp. Message from gunnery sergeant who had been in 30 years: "For some reason known only to God and Chesty Puller, the Marine Corps has seen fit to promote you. Now, I want to tell you something about this rank that you are about to wear. Rank is about more than money, it's about more than being able to boss around those beneath you, or using it to get out of shit details, or being first in the chow line. Rank is about responsibility. As a PFC you might find yourself in charge of a fire team, a squad, or, like me on Iwo Jima, a platoon, or what was left of it. But whatever situation is thrust upon you, you have a responsibility to those who fall under your command to do what is right. If your people are hungry and they need to eat, they eat first. If they're thirsty and need water, they drink first. You take care of your people.
Always do what is best for the unit. The unit comes first. If what is best for the unit happens to benefit the individual, that's icing on the cake for the individual. And don't ever lie to your people. If you lie to those who serve under you they will never respect you, and they will do everything in their power to undermine you. If you don't know the answer to something, tell them you don't know and go find the answer. If you know the answer but can't tell them, say so. If you have to give them bad news, don't bullshit and don't sugarcoat it. They're Marines, they can handle it, just give it to them straight and let them sort it out. You keep those principles in mind and you'll do alright."
Semper Fi, gunny, wherever you are today.

Response by SSgt Holden M. made Jun 20 at 2018 2:38 PM

2018-06-20T14:38:24-04:00

You need to make sure that your family comes first in all your decisions because if no matter if you do 4 years and get our or do 20+ and retire your time in the military will eventually come to an end and your family will be all you have left when your military career eventually ends.

Response by CW3 Kevin Storm made Jun 20 at 2018 3:59 PM

2018-06-20T15:59:36-04:00

I have learned great things from both sides.

Response by SFC Ralph E Kelley made Jun 20 at 2018 5:00 PM

2018-06-20T17:00:24-04:00

'Don'r Lie', doesn't mean open your month and tell on yourself.

Response by SGT Matthew S. made Jun 24 at 2018 9:01 PM

2018-06-24T21:01:52-04:00

One of the best squad leaders I ever served under once told me, "You are not successful as a leader until your subordinates can do your job."

Response by SSG Richard Hackwith made Jun 24 at 2018 11:35 PM

2018-06-24T23:35:55-04:00

One time in Munich Germany, around 1966, I was on a detail painting the dayroom. And while doing the painting I was doing the usual GI bitching. The NCOIC, who was also my tank commander, responded " I might not always like the job that I have to do, but I will do the best job that I can because it's MY job"

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 25 at 2018 12:04 AM

2018-06-25T00:04:55-04:00

You teach people how to treat you. Even in the military, you have some control over how you’re treated.

Response by CPT Earl George made Jul 1 at 2018 9:03 PM

2018-07-01T21:03:48-04:00

I reported for duty as a 2LT with the 2/30 Infantry, March 1972. I reported to the BNCO LTC Bettinger. His words were short and to the point. Lt George," make sure your people are at the proper place at the proper time and do a days work for a day's pay."

Response by SSG Shawn Mcfadden made Jul 2 at 2018 6:19 AM

2018-07-02T06:19:54-04:00

I can't narrow it to just one. Various NCO's showed me through their ACTIONS what it means to be a SOLDIER and a person.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 8 at 2018 6:29 AM

2018-07-08T06:29:36-04:00

“Be the change you want to see as an NCO” (when o was complaining about this shotbag NCO I had as an E4, he told me if I wanted to see better NCOs I should get my SGT and be the change I want to see as a NCO)

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 9 at 2018 8:35 AM

2018-07-09T08:35:19-04:00

Not the most important career-wise, but as far as leading Soldiers, here is the most important advice I received.. Basically I was a newly promoted CBRN SGT in an Infantry Pathfinder Company just being reactivated that only had about 10 Soldiers total, so at the moment of this lesson, the NCO support channel was 1SG -> Me -> junior enlisted, and I was expected to act like an 11B SGT. I was in charge of getting the 5 junior enlisted ready for step off for an early morning ruck march, and long story short, they didn't have proper gear (about -10 degrees in fort drum). So while the Soldiers were sent back into the Company to get their gear, I got a personal ass chewing from the 1SG, that included these 2 gems that I will probably always remember.. "Your Soldiers either want to BE you, or they're laughing AT you. There is no in between." and "It's call 'Pre-Combat Checks and Pre-Combat Inspections', not 'Pre-Combat Surveys.' SEE and TOUCH the equipment, don't ASK if they have the equipment." When it comes to leading Soldiers, those 2 quotes have served me better than probably anything else I've ever been told.

Response by Sgt James Kujala made Jul 14 at 2018 2:54 PM

2018-07-14T14:54:40-04:00

As a young Airman in a Radio Maintenance shop, my Shop Chief taught me the most efficient way to troubleshoot. He called it "Half Split". Using a block diagram of the system, we started in the middle to see if there was a signal. If not, we did the same from there to the end of the circuit, or vice versa if there was a signal. Only when we localized the issue to a block (module) did we open the pertinent schematic. From there we executed the same process. Very fast, and very efficient. To this day, I still use this technique, and I also teach junior level techs and engineers to use it.

Response by SSG John Lasseigne made Jul 15 at 2018 12:01 PM

2018-07-15T12:01:57-04:00

Therecis a huge diffetence between being a boss and being a leader. A leader works, educated and guides his team. A good leader will absorb the blame and share the praise for their teams actions. A boss on the other hand just tells others what to do and hogs all the credit.

Response by CSM Charles Hayden made Jul 16 at 2018 11:26 PM

2018-07-16T23:26:54-04:00

Time management as a professional with much more to do!

Response by SPC Clayton Ellzey made Jul 17 at 2018 1:51 AM

2018-07-17T01:51:33-04:00

At my first duty station my plt sgt said he was lazy . He explained that he believed in doing a job in a timely matter and correctly the first time so he wouldn't have to go back and do job again.That was March 1985 I still have that work ethnic.

Response by SFC William Stephens made Jul 17 at 2018 11:00 AM

2018-07-17T11:00:22-04:00

When I was OC we were so used to briefing off of LAPTOP, One day I went to brief my BN Command off my laptop and he reached over and turn it off and told "me to brief with out it." This really made me a better instructor and OC because you can't always depend on LAP top working in a classroom. Spend some time reviewing your projects or classes because this will also make you better in front of one person or a large crowd.

Response by PO3 Robert Smith made Jul 17 at 2018 4:41 PM

2018-07-17T16:41:16-04:00

My senior NCO taught me how to function as a part of a complete machine (team). If a team does't work together they all are doomed. The team worked, played and spent time with both each other and their families.

Response by SSG James James made Jul 18 at 2018 11:33 PM

2018-07-18T23:33:01-04:00

Treat non combat arms like civilian's.

Response by LTJG Squire Pettis made Jul 19 at 2018 5:30 PM

2018-07-19T17:30:16-04:00

Once I was feeling down because I was not able to make the top ranking(s) in one of the many measured categories that we were graded on - and my boat chief looked at me and said "Son, you got all the way from Momma's house through high school and college, got to the academy and (at this time) are almost going to graduate. You have made it already, just believe in yourself and keep pushing. If that's not good enough, then you have lost your own battle before it started". After that, I began to think more clearly and focus on the main goals, what was really important, and believe in my own abilities.

Response by PO1 David Richardson made Jul 29 at 2018 9:00 AM

2018-07-29T09:00:57-04:00

Trust no one and document everything.

Response by SSgt Bruce Probert made Jul 30 at 2018 11:27 PM

2018-07-30T23:27:12-04:00

I was admonished to know my men as well as my brothers The commitment to your subordinates is of paramount importance you cannot achieve much alone. It is up to you to set the standards under which you operate. A platoon sgt. should be able to draw uniforms for his men that fit He should know if the parents and siblings of his men are living. is there some one sick at home, who is married. He should be able to name his best NCO's at any time from best to worst, name the one man he'd promote and the reason. Which is the best squad and which is the best squad leader.

Response by CDR Don Wicklund made Aug 4 at 2018 5:21 PM

2018-08-04T17:21:21-04:00

When I attended FMF Corpsman Training at Camp Pendleton back in the 70’s, Senior Chief Star gave us this advice: “When the shooting starts, find the biggest tree, rock or Marine and stay behind it until it Stops. You don’t do anyone any good if you are dead.”

Response by SSgt Nevin Kirkland made Aug 7 at 2018 3:27 PM

2018-08-07T15:27:43-04:00

"You do an outstanding job, Corporal Kirkland. But if you ever want to be a Sergeant, start acting like a Sergeant; the stripes will catch up with you." ~ GySgt. Bennett

Best piece of advice I ever received. I still use that mindset today in the civilian business world and it has served me well.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 7 at 2018 4:04 PM

2018-08-07T16:04:58-04:00

While I was an NCO trying to go warrant, an old CW4 told me "No matter what you say or do, there are going to be people that just won't like you. There's nothing you can do about it. Accept it, and concentrate on the ones that do".

Response by SSG Dale London made Aug 14 at 2018 3:55 AM

2018-08-14T03:55:17-04:00

I was at PLDC in Bad Toelz and the Commandant of the NCO Academy popped into our class one day for a chinwag - Q&A session. Some bright spark in the class asked him "If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice on the day you made sergeant, what would it be?"
The Sergeant Major -- for the life of me, I cannot remember his name but he was a CMH recipient - said this: "Never give an order you don't expect to be obeyed."
It took a few years and a lot of frustration for me to really understand the sheer depth and wisdom of that advice. Once I did, his words changed not only my style of leadership but life as well.

Response by 1SG Charles Coleman made Aug 16 at 2018 9:35 PM

2018-08-16T21:35:29-04:00

I was a SFC Team SGT in 2011 in Afghanistan. I had an idiot 1LT assigned to me. He left his weapon and Kit leaning against a wall during a District Center Shura. I tore him a new a******* while poking my finger in his chest and told him if he ever left his weapon in sector again I would beat the f*** out of him. He proceeded to tell me I could not talk to him like that because he was a lieutenant I told him to go f*** himself I've been in the Army almost as long as he had been alive. He bitched to the Battalion commander and the Battalion Commander told him to shut the f****** and listen to me. Luckily for everybody got sent home early because he had kidney stones and they would not allow him to return to Afghanistan. He was such an idiot.

Response by CPT Kurk Harris made Aug 20 at 2018 8:56 PM

2018-08-20T20:56:38-04:00

I had just failed land navigation at EIB testing. I had run into someone on the course who asked what points I had. He said he had some of the same and would check mine if I wanted. He said they were wrong and gave me the "right" ones. I trusted him over myself. I was wrong. I went back and my Section Leader said, "I don't care if you go back and fail again, we can fix that. But, if you go back and second guess yourself and fail because of that, don't come back to my platoon. I don't need leaders who don't believe in themselves.". Since then, whenever I feel doubt creeping in I still hear SSG Brinston's words. I dig down and keep going the way I think I should. It has rarely failed me. So for all the young troopers out there questioning yourselves, don't. Mistakes are fixable, but not believing in yourself is much tougher.

Response by SFC Deacon Armando Sánchez made Aug 27 at 2018 9:24 AM

2018-08-27T09:24:08-04:00

Be where you are supposed to be at the proper time & in the proper uniform.

Response by PFC Alan Halliday made Aug 29 at 2018 3:30 AM

2018-08-29T03:30:58-04:00

On the O course at MCRD San Diego when a Lt. told me, "Have some confidence!"

Response by CPT George Ruzicka made Sep 14 at 2018 9:07 AM

2018-09-14T09:07:13-04:00

A cousin had married a career army NCO (SFC). When I met him after I graduated from Engineer OCS I asked him for advice. He gave me some thoughts but the one that really stuck with me was "Don't ask your men to do something that you would not do". I used this advice throughout my time in the military and it gave me instant credibility with my men.

Response by Cpl Douglas Loven made Sep 22 at 2018 5:18 AM

2018-09-22T05:18:54-04:00

My uncle was in Nam 08/68-69. his company relieved another unit that for 3 days were trying to take a hill and were getting pushed back and taking an ass kicking. His Company commander said "Fuck this Im calling in an air strike" My uncle said "They blew the top off that son of a bitch hill". So I guess the lesson to take from that is to evaluate your options before you go charging in.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 28 at 2018 8:33 AM

2018-09-28T08:33:17-04:00

When reporters come around... shut up. All they're looking for is a story, they don't care if that story lands you in Leavenworth making big rocks into smaller rocks.

Response by LTC Jack Regan made Sep 29 at 2018 11:23 PM

2018-09-29T23:23:21-04:00

This is a difficult one to respond to; I've had so much great advice from both sides of the ranks but one in particular comes to mind. My DIVARTY Commander, COL Van Horn, pressured us as battery commanders to investigate every accident no mater how seemingly insignificant. I will not go in to the entire story but years later when I recommended this for an accident (outside of my chain of command) it was ignored. As a result a soldier died. Had the original incident been investigated the cause of the accident would have been discovered and repaired.

Response by CPT Robert Boshears made Oct 15 at 2018 12:36 AM

2018-10-15T00:36:26-04:00

NCO’s took me aside, and reminded me that I was no longer one of “the boys”, that the Commission made a change... not that we were not still on the same team. That showed me their respect and that their advice or comments, from then on meant more to me. They made me and for that, I am humbled.

Response by 1LT Luke Flowers made Oct 19 at 2018 3:08 AM

2018-10-19T03:08:41-04:00

The best advice I ever received was while sitting in my 3rd Squad Leader’s car. I was angry and disappointed with all of the messed up terrible leadership and bullshit I was experiencing in the Army. He told me “take out a notebook and write down everything you see wrong with the Army and everything you see right and after you get the rank to fix things be the difference.” I hope I’m still living up to that.

Response by SFC Frank Ramirez made Jan 29 at 2019 9:39 AM

2019-01-29T09:39:20-05:00

My first PLT SGT told me to always do the right thing no matter who is watching. I learned over the next 25 years that if you always do the right thing, you never have to look over your shoulder. Every situation has a different “right” thing. The best soldiers figure out what that thing is and make sure that’s what is done.
Of course the tough part of those four words is “always”!! It’s not realistic to thing we flawed humans can live up to that standard. Trying to and wanting to do the right thing usually works!!

Response by LTJG Richard Bruce made Jun 8 at 2019 8:41 PM

2019-06-08T20:41:15-04:00

Don't tell me what you are going to do; do it, tell me what you did, and don't screw it up.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 14 at 2020 1:53 PM

2020-07-14T13:53:16-04:00

My CO taught us that no matter your MOS, your rank, or anything else, for everyone in the military, your primary function is WAR and that as unlikely as it may seem it would be our duty to stand between the American people (our, families, friends, neighbors, all US citizens) and the enemy.

I was in a detachment so our CO was a CW4

Response by CW2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 14 at 2020 3:21 PM

2020-07-14T15:21:16-04:00

A CW3 really hammered taking care of the family and putting if not equal then more work and effort into relationships at home then at doing your job. At the end of the day when the Army is done with you, shakes your hand, and thanks you for your service who will be there when you get home?

Response by SP5 Ralph Barker made Nov 20 at 2020 7:33 AM

2020-11-20T07:33:00-05:00

Lead by example and action. When I went through Basic, our initial CO was a young Lieutenant, who, when we were out on a run, would ride along in a Jeep, shouting comments to us. Morale was not high. About half way through, he was replaced by a Captain from the 1st Air Cav. The captain ran with us, and morale improved greatly.

Response by SFC Melvin Brandenburg made Mar 4 at 2021 10:20 PM

2021-03-04T22:20:40-05:00

My section sergeant, who I hated and he hated me, at my first duty station (in Germany) always had me do things as difficult and inefficiently as possible. He intentionally made my job hard. I thought it was for his entertainment. When I later deployed to Afghanistan while part of another unit, the only way I could accomplish my missions was the way that S.O.B. made me do things. As it turned out, he made my job easy and made me look like a pro. I later heard a quote from Bruce Lee that put it all in perspective, that went something like this, "Wish not for an easy life, but pray for the strength to endure a hard one."

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 24 at 2021 9:24 AM

2021-08-24T09:24:12-04:00

Challenges are only an opportunity for self betterment.

Response by SGT James Johnson made Aug 24 at 2021 9:30 AM

2021-08-24T09:30:23-04:00

Keep your da-- head down. Don't ever ever give up. When you have to give your all.