What do I do if my wife is expecting our child when I’m in AIT?

2020-02-24T12:36:24-05:00

So my ait is 6 weeks but my wife is due in 3 what would I do with that?

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made Feb 24 at 2020 12:37 PM

2020-02-24T12:37:47-05:00

Damn little I'm afraid- talk to your drill's and CoC, but it may not work- Welcome to the Army.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 24 at 2020 12:39 PM

2020-02-24T12:39:02-05:00

Basically two to three choices:
1) Stay in AIT and then link up with your wife afterwards.

2) Go home for the birth and possible maternity leave and be recycled when you get back.

3) See if you can get your AIT date pushed back.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 24 at 2020 1:03 PM

2020-02-24T13:03:42-05:00

This is going to sound cold. But its honest. You deal with!!!!!!! Try to facetime after class. But this is just the beginning of many missed important events in your military life. Birthdays, Anniversaries, other births, weddings, funerals, are all part of what can or will be missed over the years. Its a harsh reality that I do not think many young people realize when they join.

Response by SFC Michael Hasbun made Feb 24 at 2020 1:04 PM

2020-02-24T13:04:18-05:00

Have fun at school. Hopefully someone takes pictures or video... Welcome to the Army. We miss important events all the time...

Please understand, I'm not unsympathetic. It's something we've all had to deal with. Births, anniversaries, borthdays, school events, growing up milestones, first words, first steps, we all mis countless treasured moments. It sucks. It does, but it's part of the military...

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 24 at 2020 2:53 PM

2020-02-24T14:53:59-05:00

Finish your school and go after, unless you plan on recycling, starting over and have an even longer wait to see her. Missing more than a few hours of POI is grounds for recycling or failing.

Response by SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 24 at 2020 3:31 PM

2020-02-24T15:31:30-05:00

Congratulations but you need to work on preplanning for the next one so you’re not in training. The best I got for you is invisibly tell your chain of command. Try to coordinate a video conference you can watch the birth. That’s what they did for my friend at AIT. You’re a soldier your family needs to know that you will miss a lot and sometimes you’ll miss everything for long periods of time.

Response by SPC Richard Zacke made Feb 24 at 2020 6:22 PM

2020-02-24T18:22:38-05:00

PVT Private RallyPoint Member You may hear this from others...infact I'm sure you hear this from others "Welcome to the Army". We have men in war zones who have not seen their new borne in months and we also unfortunaly have lost men that will never see their child. Hang in there your only looking at 3 to 4 weeks. Good luck and make wise decisions while your young...you have a lot of life ahead of you.