What are your views on two soldiers getting married? Pros? Cons?

SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 15:08:38 -0500

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2015 3:19 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 15:19:55 -0500

If they are doing it as a contract marriage to get extra pay and base housing, yet want to "date" other people, then they better think twice before they get put in the fire. Otherwise, I don't care if two Soldiers want to get married.

Response by SGT David T. made Dec 2 at 2015 3:28 PM

SGT David T. — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 15:28:45 -0500

It was never an option for me. I never liked mixing my personal life with my professional life. This is just my personal choice. I have seen many dual military couples have amazing marriages and many that crashed and burned. I would caution you against rushing into anything as that 9 times out of 10 leads to a crash and burn scenario. Make sure you really want to make that commitment and not just giving into youthful lust.

Response by CAPT Kevin B. made Dec 2 at 2015 4:28 PM

CAPT Kevin B. — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 16:28:00 -0500

It does make things more difficult career wise, especially in the smaller specialization designaters. Getting PCS together to the same location means someone is more likely not getting a billet that is as career enhancing. They are more of an administrative headache if you're trying to avoid dual deployment. So where do you dump the kids, etc.? Is it impossible? No. You just have to realize there's extra work to manage it all through the careers.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2015 6:12 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 18:12:59 -0500

The MACP (Married Army Couples Program) is not a very good program. I've seen it work for 2 out of 4 couples that I know/knew. So you have a 50/50 of staying with your spouse, but there are a lot of variables to it. They also just revamped the pay system so you won't get as much money as you used to. Good luck.

Response by MSgt Curtis Ellis made Dec 2 at 2015 6:16 PM

MSgt Curtis Ellis — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 18:16:03 -0500

SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member It would depend on when the children will come into the picture...

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 2 at 2015 6:21 PM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 18:21:22 -0500

In my (admittedly non-scientific) observation, they very seldom work out. There is a lot of stress on dual-service couples.

Response by Sgt Aaron Kennedy, MS made Dec 2 at 2015 6:45 PM

Sgt Aaron Kennedy, MS — Wed, 02 Dec 2015 18:45:03 -0500

I was married to another active duty Marine.

Pros: She understood what it was like.

Cons: When it came time for me to get orders, I got flagged for recruiting duty. This put me in the awkward position of not knowing where I was going next, or being able to coordinate orders for her. I had to choose between family and career. I chose family.

Choose early what is important to you. Talk it over with your spouse. Have a plan.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 3 at 2015 2:43 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 03 Dec 2015 02:43:19 -0500

SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member Let me guess, you met the love of your life the first week of AIT and now want to get married and live happily forever after. ( I hope that the sarcasm translates into my response)
As a AIT PSG, I saw many geniuses fall in love during language training and get divorced before they even make it to MOS training. Marrying another Soldier is just like marrying a civilian, you just don't marry the first person that says hi to you and you definitely don't get married to get BAH and get out of the barracks. If that's your case, hopefully you take my advice