What are those things you do or your spouse sees as a great act of love from you??

PO3 Sherry Thornburg — Thu, 05 May 2016 16:45:56 -0400

Had surgery recently. My husband, works away almost as much as he did in the Navy. But he is here taking care of me, vehicle repairs, house repairs, meals and a bunch more. Today he brought me roses for my room. That's special, and so was the diabetic cherry pie. But nothing says love like a man that doesn't like cats, but will bath one while the wife is down. What do you do to show the love?

Response by Alan K. made May 5 at 2016 4:52 PM

Alan K. — Thu, 05 May 2016 16:52:03 -0400

A Personal Handyman......My Wife has saved hundreds of thousands of dollars over our 29 year marriage so she can spend it on other things...!

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made May 5 at 2016 5:05 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 05 May 2016 17:05:09 -0400

I always try and do the little things. When heading to bed, we both like to read, and she likes to prop her pillow on another pillow so she can sit comfortably while reading, so I ensure that I already have it set for her. I always try to take her plate for her when she is done with dinner. Randomly send her flowers to her work or bring flowers home to her.

Response by CAPT Kevin B. made May 5 at 2016 5:39 PM

CAPT Kevin B. — Thu, 05 May 2016 17:39:28 -0400

Funny that you don't find about some of these things for years. Our kids are grown up but my wife told me a few years ago that she though me taking the boys out for breakfast at the bowling alley every Saturday so she could sleep in was really appreciated. Also she mentions it feels like home whenever I have the smoker oven fired up taking its time to put Sunday dinner on the table. So now that we're retired, I do my breakfast early alone but still fire up the smoke so it wafts around enough to keep normal going.

Response by Sgt David G Duchesneau made May 5 at 2016 5:50 PM

Sgt David G Duchesneau — Thu, 05 May 2016 17:50:53 -0400

Taking care of each others needs and wants, mentally, emotionally and physically!

Response by SGT Kathi Prato made May 5 at 2016 7:20 PM

SGT Kathi Prato — Thu, 05 May 2016 19:20:13 -0400

Not married and can't speak for my BF, but I know for me, it's the little things he does that make me know I'm loved. Something as simple as replacing the trash can liner when I'm at work and he's at the house....

Response by PO1 Brian Austin made May 6 at 2016 1:08 AM

PO1 Brian Austin — Fri, 06 May 2016 01:08:00 -0400

Every Saturday and Sunday when i was home i'd get breakfast ready. I'd have the kids get all their laundry together and get that started, while mom slept in. Then have the kids do the dishes afterwards. :)

I now work Saturdays and Sundays and always prepare her some breakfast and get her tea ready before leaving for work, so it's waiting for her when she get's up. On weekdays i work evenings so i either make something or take her out for breakfast or lunch before work.

Response by MAJ Jack Horn, LPC, NCC, CCMHC, CCTP, CCTP-II, CCFP, CDBT made May 12 at 2016 1:06 PM

MAJ Jack Horn, LPC, NCC, CCMHC, CCTP, CCTP-II, CCFP, CDBT — Thu, 12 May 2016 13:06:57 -0400

I would recommend looking at the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary D. Chapman. What I have found working as a therapist with couples is that everyone has a primary "language" that tells them they are loved (e.g. giving time, acts of service, etc.). I find that many couples are frustrated and feeling unloved by their spouse/significant other when, very often, the other is trying to communicate love in a way that is not interpreted as love by their partner. This frustrates everyone. I often use the free online survey with couples to identify their specific language, then help them work out ways to communicate that way. Frequently, we try to show love to someone else in the way that means love to us, when sometimes that isn't the key for that other person. When both sides of the couple accurately identify the love "language" of their partner (easy online survey) and start to communicate in a targeted way that domain to each other, then the relationship tends to feel much more loving subjectively and relationships tend to improve.

Response by PVT Raymond Lopez made Nov 6 at 2017 2:12 AM

PVT Raymond Lopez — Mon, 06 Nov 2017 02:12:11 -0500

I like to cook and I am rather good at it. I am a dedicated foodie and I watch all the food shows and I refer to them as the “porno channel” last night I found a show called “Food Porn.” I was really annoyed that it should have been my show! Life is not fair to me! By the way if you go to France and you see a restaurant with a gilded horse's head out front don't go in unless you are very adventurous gastronomically and want to try horse meat. I get up first thing in the morning and make her fresh coffee and breakfast. I can get her Polish bread just like her grandmother made when she was a little girl and all the Polish delicacies she loves. I happen to make a lot of friends and I can get her car inspected very fast. I am in better health than she is so I will go pick up all her medicines for her. My friends help us with home repairs because I only know how to blow up things. I