Uniformed Navy Officer Turned Away From NY Hotel Bar For Violating Dress Code: How would You Deal With This Situation?

2015-06-01T00:56:03-04:00

An unidentified female Navy Officer, staying at an upscale NYC hotel with family while visiting during Fleet Week festivities last week was taken aback when her group was stopped by bouncers and prevented from entering the hotel's bar one evening. At first, nobody could figure it out, everyone was dressed in professional attire; until the bouncer's indicated that the Officer's Class A Uniform did not fit it's criteria for female dress, and they weren't backing down. How about it? How would you address such an insulting situation?

Navy Officer Told Uniform Does Not Meet Hotel Bar's Dress Code

A New York hotel apologized after a sailor was turned away from the business' cocktail lounge because her U.S. Navy uniform was not up to dress code.

Response by TSgt Kenneth Ellis made Jun 1 at 2015 1:16 AM

2015-06-01T01:16:59-04:00

I was turned away at the New Sano Hotel in Tokyo. I was wearing a sweater. But that was in 1985. That was in the restaurant.

Response by COL Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 1:35 AM

2015-06-01T01:35:57-04:00

Management agreed that this was a training issue and the bouncer was in error. Failing to inform management of this training oversight meant that others would similarly be negatively treated by an erroneous interpretation of the standards.

Response by PO1 John Miller made Jun 1 at 2015 1:50 AM

2015-06-01T01:50:48-04:00

Seriously? A military dress uniform not meeting dress codes? GTFO!!!

Response by LCpl Mark Lefler made Jun 1 at 2015 1:54 AM

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I think this is disgraceful, a member of our military in a proper dress uniform should meet any dress code any where. This shouldn't take training to realize.

Response by PO1 John Miller made Jun 1 at 2015 1:55 AM

2015-06-01T01:55:07-04:00

I ran into a somewhat similar situation once at a bar in downtown San Diego. The doorman asked for ID, and my friend and I produced our military ID's. The doorman refused us entry because "he didn't know how to tell if military ID's were fake or not."

Please note this was a bar I was a regular at, and the doorman was on his first night. I asked to speak with the manager right away. In fact I asked for him by name. He came out and said "John, what's the problem?" I said "Ask your bouncer. He won't let me and Rob in with military ID's."

The manager let us in and in fact told the doorman that he wouldn't be needing his services again after that night. I wouldn't say I got him fired per say as he was an employee of a temp agency and not the bar.

Response by PO3 Wade Linschied made Jun 1 at 2015 2:23 AM

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Take my money to a business that honors active duty/vets!

Response by PO3 David Fries made Jun 1 at 2015 6:23 AM

2015-06-01T06:23:19-04:00

Their house, their rules.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 7:46 AM

2015-06-01T07:46:46-04:00

Seriously, a dress uniform of any service is completely acceptable.

Response by Capt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 8:22 AM

2015-06-01T08:22:04-04:00

Seems like the management didn't train their bouncer well and didn't account for a military function in town.

I hope they lost business because of it - a LOT of business.

Response by LTC Paul Labrador made Jun 1 at 2015 9:47 AM

2015-06-01T09:47:50-04:00

Maybe this is just a case of differing cultures between services, but why was she wearing a uniform in a bar in the first place....?

Response by Capt Richard I P. made Jun 1 at 2015 10:06 AM

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Idiots.

Response by LCDR Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 10:11 AM

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Wait for it to close and empty out then burn the place to the ground. It was fleet week after all.

Response by WO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 10:21 AM

2015-06-01T10:21:18-04:00

I might have asked for a manager, but I wouldn't have waited for one. I'd just leave.
If the club has a dress code, especially one with dumb rules, I don't want to go there anyway.

Response by MSG Brad Sand made Jun 1 at 2015 10:32 AM

2015-06-01T10:32:58-04:00

I think there is a lot in the details and the details are missing. If the uniform does not meet their dress code, it does not meet their dress code. Of course, I will not be going there anytime soon, but I probably wasn't going to go there before?

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 11:14 AM

2015-06-01T11:14:23-04:00

Not sure what a Class A Uniform is (never heard of this in the Navy) or the equivalent Navy uniform but if they were in any uniform besides NWUs (Navy Working Uniform) they would have been authorized to drink. Either way shame on them for turning a Service Member away period for being in uniform.

Response by MSG Dennis Terens made Jun 1 at 2015 11:16 AM

2015-06-01T11:16:14-04:00

Going anywhere in uniform is a double edged sword. In a bar is just adding another variable.

Response by LTC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 11:29 AM

2015-06-01T11:29:21-04:00

Ill bet the bouncers didnt like military people!

Response by PFC Tuan Trang made Jun 1 at 2015 11:36 AM

2015-06-01T11:36:09-04:00

I'll ask for manager, seem like the bouncer is new. I would honor to let any military personnel in regarless of asu or acu.

Response by Maj Chris Nelson made Jun 1 at 2015 12:13 PM

2015-06-01T12:13:21-04:00

IF I really felt compelled to visit this establishment, I would ask for a manager. Sometimes tho, just accepting their house rules (right or wrong) is easier....go find someplace that works better.

Response by MSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 12:30 PM

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Apparently, the uniform covers too much skin.

Response by SPC Charles Brown made Jun 1 at 2015 12:33 PM

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Talk to friends and fellow service members about establishment and have an "unofficial" off limits to not only the bar/restaurant but the hotel as well. Establish a boycott with Service Members and families of service members. Post bad reviews on the website. Just a few off the top of my head.

Response by COL Ted Mc made Jun 1 at 2015 1:37 PM

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Quite frankly, the management probably never turned their minds to "Female Officers' Dress Uniforms" when formulating their dress code (and the bouncers appear not to have had minds capable of turning).

Response by SrA Edward Vong made Jun 1 at 2015 4:10 PM

2015-06-01T16:10:41-04:00

Asking to speak to the manager can calm things down, I'm pretty sure they would still want the business. Sometimes bouncers feel the need to be douches for no reason.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 4:25 PM

2015-06-01T16:25:14-04:00

I think that would be the instant reaction: let me see your manager, please. I have a feeling that the dress uniforms would probably put some of the other dresses being worn at the bar to shame.

Response by SSgt Charles Edwards made Jun 1 at 2015 4:30 PM

2015-06-01T16:30:43-04:00

Nothing really to read into this. Bouncer/doorman was just ignorant to the classification of the military service dress.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 1 at 2015 4:50 PM

2015-06-01T16:50:38-04:00

We are above this kind of disrespectful behavior. Professionalism is our mark. We say, Yes ma'am/ sir and politely go on our way.

They did, however, apologize... So, non-issue.

Response by SSG Thomas Brousseau made Jun 1 at 2015 5:37 PM

2015-06-01T17:37:38-04:00

Thats a tough situation because while in public in military uniform you are expected to act appropriately. I would just spend my money somewhere else.

Response by SSG (ret) William Martin made Jun 1 at 2015 7:08 PM

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They can speak to the manager. If they don't want their money, they can go else where.

Response by CPO Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 5:43 AM

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Response by LT Stephen Amiaga made Jun 3 at 2015 12:07 PM

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I'd additionally mention the name of the mis-guided hotel in the social media post, so others know to use the power of the purse to change things.

Response by SA Harold Hansmann made Jun 3 at 2015 12:20 PM

2015-06-03T12:20:34-04:00

I can relate to this situation. I was asked to leave a bar because I was wearing a kilt.
I asked for the manager and the manager straightened it all out.
I was allowed to stay with my group of friends at the bar as a kilt is considered proper clothing.

Response by LT Jim Wolbarsht made Jun 3 at 2015 12:25 PM

2015-06-03T12:25:25-04:00

Politely request to speak with a manager. See what happens, and if manager doesn't apologize immediately, post the name of the hotel on every social media account you own - including this one - with a very polite and factual explanation that says "XXX hotel does not permit U..S. military officers, in uniform, in the restaurant." Watch what happens then!

Response by CMDCM Gene Treants made Jun 3 at 2015 12:41 PM

2015-06-03T12:41:40-04:00

I have run into this situation before both in the US and overseas. When it was pointed out to Management that our Uniform both officer and enlisted) WAS in fact the same as their equivalent of formal dress, Management QUICKLY relented. Especially when it was pointed out that the place would be place Off Limits to ALL Military Personnel.

The best/worst example of this was in Monaco at the Casino. Management was going to let in officers because their Summer Dress Uniform at that time included a tie, while the Enlisted uniform included only a neckerchief. As soon as it was explained that NO Sailor, Officer, Enlisted, or ANY Navy would be allowed to enter the Casino and that the Off Limits Designation would extend to ALL Allied Forces, USN Enlisted Sailors were welcomed with open arms. BTW - 1968 and NEVER again.

Response by PO3 William Villalpando made Jun 3 at 2015 12:44 PM

2015-06-03T12:44:16-04:00

First one, then generally escalate to the social media option if satisfaction is not met. At that point it becomes a disrespect issue. Time to educate the ignorant.

Response by PO2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 12:46 PM

2015-06-03T12:46:56-04:00

I would inform the manager that I was no longer interested in his/her establishment and make sure that signage was posted on every ship tied up that week that military members were not allowed in this establishment. In uniform or not. At that point the Marines would probably launch a recon mission...

Response by CWO3 Bryan Luciani made Jun 3 at 2015 1:08 PM

2015-06-03T13:08:55-04:00

I don't expect everyone to understand us military people and I'm rarely disapppointed. A bouncer is not a high paying position and thus when left to represent an organization (this hotel's bar) it shows the management made a serious judgement error to place their brand name and dress-code decision-making ability in the hands of their bouncer. Simple as that. I'm sure the negative publicity hurt them.

We have an obligation to fight this sort of treatment (ask for the manager) or we risk being brushed aside. My 2 cents.

Response by PO2 Mike Ellek made Jun 3 at 2015 1:11 PM

2015-06-03T13:11:47-04:00

Ask to see the manager, and politely inform him or her of the situation and tell them that neither I nor my shipmates will be coming to your establishment. Oh, and by the way, word travels fast in the fleet. They'll be out of business in a month

Response by CDR Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 1:23 PM

2015-06-03T13:23:02-04:00

Happy to take my money and my friends' money somewhere else!

Response by PO1 Jose Roman made Jun 3 at 2015 1:29 PM

2015-06-03T13:29:38-04:00

Is this a picture of the officer in question above?

Sounds lie in the article the problem was addressed and corrected.

Sounds like the bouncer would make a good Marine.

Response by PO2 Darryl Armstrong made Jun 3 at 2015 1:40 PM

2015-06-03T13:40:30-04:00

Fire the bouncers as well as the manager. If they are this dumb, it is only a matter of time before they get you into a real costly law suit. Loose cannons are sure to cause major problems on deck.

Response by PO2 Frances Smart made Jun 3 at 2015 1:55 PM

2015-06-03T13:55:55-04:00

Start a boycott. They might ignore my complaints, but they would not ignore that much of a business loss.

Response by PO2 Frances Smart made Jun 3 at 2015 2:06 PM

2015-06-03T14:06:22-04:00

An apology would not have been enough. They would have been treating me and my entire family to an evening of entertainment, on the house.

Response by MAJ James Woods made Jun 3 at 2015 2:14 PM

2015-06-03T14:14:06-04:00

The article didn't elaborate what the dress code for women was so I'm still confused. A Class A uniform is as dignified as a business suit but since the bouncer was specific to women standards does this mean their code requires women to wear a dress or skirt? This doesn't sound like a training issue. But I'll reserve judgement until their elaborate on the violation.

Response by PO3 Jennifer McMullin made Jun 3 at 2015 2:19 PM

2015-06-03T14:19:36-04:00

After making a small scene about the bar's unpatriotic policy I'd leave and go somewhere where they would appreciate me. Not only should they have been allowed in, the first drink should've been on the house!

Response by PO1 Bob Davis made Jun 3 at 2015 2:55 PM

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In NYC's mind, she's a war monger!

Response by SGT Racie Hutchens made Jun 3 at 2015 3:00 PM

2015-06-03T15:00:08-04:00

I think I'm with the majority here, I would have politely asked to speak to the manager on duty. Stated my request to be seated. If at that point, I had been given any indication that things were going south. We would have left. I would have contacted the corporate hedquarters, if I still had not received an apology or some sort of resolution. Yeah, you bet I would have shown some media attention as well! Sorry, but it is never exceptable to disrespect my Country, or the uniform I effing wear ( wore ) so proudly!!!

Response by CPO Charles Mabry made Jun 3 at 2015 3:07 PM

2015-06-03T15:07:42-04:00

I would say ask to see the management,and if that didn't work then leave and go elsewhere without making a scene. A couple of other folks have basically said the same thing. Try to point out and correct the error,but don't make a scene as you are in uniform and are representing all service members at that point. Besides, do you really want to spend your money in an establishment that doesn't welcome service members in uniform in the front door? I sure don't.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Jun 3 at 2015 3:34 PM

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Ask to see th

Response by SCPO Rich Rogers made Jun 3 at 2015 3:36 PM

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Inquire WHY it doesn't meet code. Is it considered "work clothes", which it is, then ask to see the manager for a waiver. Was the officer in slacks vice a skirt, and the club required women to be in dresses/skirts? Get the WHY, then make a choice to go somewhere else or ask for the manager's assistance.

Response by PO2 John Russell made Jun 3 at 2015 4:26 PM

2015-06-03T16:26:24-04:00

Very simple do like I would and post that sucker all over Facebook and CLUB reviews for other woman stand with you that place loses customers and probably replace the doorman ?

Response by SR Tom Stryska made Jun 3 at 2015 4:30 PM

2015-06-03T16:30:00-04:00

some people just don't know what's wright and what wrong, sad the bouncer did not notice the uniform of a Military Officer on Fleet week.

Response by SN Omar Alaji made Jun 3 at 2015 4:30 PM

2015-06-03T16:30:35-04:00

That should have never happen. I'm sure that the hotel staff have seen military personnel in uniform. This is kind of disturbing to me. New York has become so foreign in nature that's that it cannot distinguish between American ideas and customs anymore. I would have asked to speak to the manager.

Response by PO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 4:49 PM

2015-06-03T16:49:05-04:00

I wouldn't be seen in uniform for the navy drinking alcohol, there is a bad enough image already. People take pictures of that sort of thing.

Response by PO2 Jamie Lawson made Jun 3 at 2015 5:16 PM

2015-06-03T17:16:43-04:00

Leave after speaking my peace and report the incident to management and alert all military personnel that they are not welcomed at this business. The way I see it, if you turn away one member of our military you are turning away all of them.

Response by PO2 Dave Green made Jun 3 at 2015 5:19 PM

2015-06-03T17:19:27-04:00

As a Navy officer, you are required to conduct yourself in a professional manner at all times, especially when in uniform. I don't believe walking away would solve the issue at hand and others may find themselves in the same situation, but may not be inclined to react in such a way. I feel that the best course of action would be to ask for the manager in order to see if exceptions may be made in the future. If the manager in noncompliant then I would suggest walking away.

Response by PO3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 5:40 PM

2015-06-03T17:40:57-04:00

I chose Politely leave and go elsewhere. Here's why:
1. Why does the officer go to a bar in uniform to drink? I am enlist so I do not about officer, but to best of my knowledge, we are not allowed to even eat out in uniform in certain command, let alone drinking. The only exception to drinking in uniform is command function such as Balls.
2. Yes, the bouncer might be not properly trained. However, a lot of establishment do have dress code and it doesn't include military uniform.
3. 7% of people here think that causing a mild scene is actually an option? Where's the professional and military bearing? It's like demanding for discount at the mini mart.
4. Serving and wearing the uniform does not make me feel any special in civilian setting. So other than politely leave and go elsewhere, I strongly curious what the 11% think any other option is appropriate. I do not care what rank you are when I put my uniform down upon retirement or getting out. What on your collar device does not command anything to a manager. And if you are to speak to a manager, your only credential is just like any other civilian patrons. In which case, the manager will address the dress code policy. Life too short to complain. The fact that 62% think we entitled to an argument is baffling. We do our job, but no one owe us anything in civilian sectors.
5. Even if I was to entertain the idea that I was "enraged" by this incident. I would rather Politely leave and go elsewhere. Go buy that bar, then fire everyone and make it a sailor joint.

Have a fine Navy day.

Response by LCDR Bruce Cooley made Jun 3 at 2015 5:43 PM

2015-06-03T17:43:33-04:00

Ensure that the name of the establishment is bandied about as being unfriendly to service personnel and encourage others to NOT frequent the establishment.

Response by PO3 William Farinas made Jun 3 at 2015 6:35 PM

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Ask the manger to show what there dress code requirements for there establishment is, and how the Navy's First class dress Uniform doe's not fall in line with there dress code. Then if they refuse to do so, Than the Officer than has the wright to file a discrimination complaint against the establishment. Or take it to internal affairs and have it put out to the media, and the public about that establishment, and how they treat our Brave Men and Women in Uniform who serve and protect the freedom of this country, So places like that have the freedom to operate. And to put a memo out to all Military personal to avoid that business and spend there hard earned dollars else ware, where they will be welcome. Always do so with the upmost respect that the military ask of there personal. By the way I salute you all!!! God Bless you who serve, and God Bless America!!!!

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 6:52 PM

2015-06-03T18:52:08-04:00

Fleet Week is a tradition in NYC, putting a rookie bouncer at the door was a bad move on that bar's part.

Response by PO2 Robbi King made Jun 3 at 2015 6:52 PM

2015-06-03T18:52:57-04:00

Politely leave and go elsewhere. let military chain deal with it.

Response by PO1 Mike Edgecomb made Jun 3 at 2015 7:08 PM

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A military dress uniform should meet any dress code anywhere!

Response by LT Don Johnson made Jun 3 at 2015 7:42 PM

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And if the manager refused to come out, then I would walk to the lobby of the hotel and ask for the general manager and not leave until they were present to talk to me. There is no excuse for poor training, if that is what it was. I feel there was something else other than the uniform going on.

Response by MSG Greg Kelly made Jun 3 at 2015 7:44 PM

2015-06-03T19:44:52-04:00

While the proper response is leave nicely tip your head gear to douche and leave. Not sure that is how it would have played out in my younger day. I would have gone along lines of not liking the military goading the Turd on the door into a physical altercation one of us taking a beat down. Me needing a new uniform and standing tall before the CO explaining I was a dumbass was defending the honor of the service ECT. Praying he would have mercy on my mind, body and wallet.

Response by PO3 Kevin Luby made Jun 3 at 2015 8:28 PM

2015-06-03T20:28:54-04:00

You take a picture of the outside of the bar and tell the story on Facebook and Twitter. Make them look foolish..

Response by SCPO Larry Knight Sr. made Jun 3 at 2015 10:56 PM

2015-06-03T22:56:46-04:00

This actually happened to me in San Francisco, Ca in 1969 before deploying on my first tour in Vietnam. I was refused entry into a well known steak house while wearing full dress blues, their reasoning was based on that I wasn't wearing a coat and tie. I demanded to speak with the restaurant manager, he came outside and politely let me know he didn't care for military personnel coming into his establishment in uniform. I could come back in a suit and tie, and I in so many words told him what he could do (put his establishment where the sun doesn't shine) !

I returned to the base and went to the club to eat and partake in some well deserved cold beverage (Beer) . Every time we returned to the bay area I and my shipmates made it a point eat where we were welcomed. I boycott any and all business that take this type of stance towards our service men and women, and wont waste any time blogging their business'.

Response by PO1 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 3 at 2015 11:07 PM

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Go to another bar

Response by PO3 German Corea made Jun 3 at 2015 11:22 PM

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I won't make a scene of any level but I will imply that the establishment is unpatriotic and say so on social media before leaving to elsewhere.

Response by SN Craig Ralston made Jun 3 at 2015 11:58 PM

2015-06-03T23:58:01-04:00

I would ask to speak with manager and if refused I would make a small scene and tell everyone I know how this place refused service to a military service member in dress uniform.

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 4 at 2015 12:50 AM

2015-06-04T00:50:13-04:00

Find a better establishment to hang out/spend my money at.

Response by PO1 Rick Serviss made Jun 4 at 2015 3:35 AM

2015-06-04T03:35:45-04:00

Vomit on the bouncer's clothes and reply at least my uniform is clean.

Response by Col Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 4 at 2015 5:46 AM

2015-06-04T05:46:18-04:00

IMHO, I would not go to a bar dressed in uniform regardless of how many others are doing it. It gives the wrong impression and has the potential for negative consequences.

Response by HN Donald Snyder made Jun 4 at 2015 8:13 AM

2015-06-04T08:13:04-04:00

I would make sure the Command Officer knew the second i got back to base, then use to be a very strict no visit policy when i was stationed in Norfolk, imagine the loss of business for them to get on the list

Response by PO2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 4 at 2015 8:52 AM

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On a side note, I hope that poor LTJG in the picture gets some royalties, because her picture is everywhere.

Response by RADM Jay Yakeley made Jun 4 at 2015 1:03 PM

2015-06-04T13:03:42-04:00

Would go on in. If the "bouncer" attempted to halt me I would file assault charges in court

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 4 at 2015 1:33 PM

2015-06-04T13:33:21-04:00

I would take my hard earned money elsewhere. I would also send an email to the manager/ceo explaining the situation and if there was a larger bill I would maybe attach a receipt displaying lost funds and explain that you would be sharing this everyone that you knew and other veteran groups you are associated with.

Response by SSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 4 at 2015 6:54 PM

2015-06-04T18:54:36-04:00

I would go haywire, whatever that means. Or challenge them to a game of chess. :)

Diplomacy is the best tact. Go somewhere else and then later report it to the manager. I am sure in the future there would be an equitable resolution with them and other businesses.

Response by SPC Chris Early made Jun 4 at 2015 6:56 PM

2015-06-04T18:56:19-04:00

i would leave and post on every military site the name of this place

Response by SPC Jeffrey Bly made Jun 4 at 2015 7:11 PM

2015-06-04T19:11:56-04:00

Anyone in military dress should not be turned away from anywhere they wish to go.

I may be biased, however, I believe military personnel automatically command, at the very least, a little respect if not a lot.

Response by SGT William Howell made Jun 5 at 2015 10:46 AM

2015-06-05T10:46:19-04:00

Not sure How I would respond. I guess it would depend on what day of the week.

Gut Stomp Sunday
Drop Kick Monday
Sucker Punch Tuesday
Throat Slam Wednesday
Throat Punch Thursday
Beat Down Friday
Jimmy "Superfly" Snuka - Off the Top Rope Ass Kicking Saturday

It is Fleet Week after all!

Response by SSG Marciano Gonzalez made Jun 6 at 2015 8:42 AM

2015-06-06T08:42:07-04:00

which hotel did that? put it on face book just to let everybody knows that when military personnel goes to new York don't stay in this crappy hotel that don't let military personnel in uniform use their facility for a get together with their family.I want the hotel name.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 7 at 2015 4:10 PM

2015-06-07T16:10:14-04:00

Walk away then complain about it on Rally Point

Or

Ask to speak to the manager about the issue and walk away.

Or

Just walk away and find another bar.

or

Change out of my uniform (because it's a bitch to clean) and go incognito as a civilian.

Response by SPC John Decker made Jun 7 at 2015 4:18 PM

2015-06-07T16:18:01-04:00

I would inform them that I was going to inform the DOD and all other military people I could that this happened and to not go to that bar, even if not in uniform. They let her stay in the hotel but would not allow her to enter the bar? I'd give them something to think about.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 7 at 2015 6:31 PM

2015-06-07T18:31:54-04:00

Beat the bouncers face in then walk over his knocked out body ask for a paper towel and some ice for my hand and continue on with my day

Response by SGT Suraj Dave made Jun 7 at 2015 7:14 PM

2015-06-07T19:14:09-04:00

I think drinking in uniform is distasteful and attention seeking behavior. I get it, sometimes you get off work, go out to eat, and grab a beer with your dinner. That's cool.... but when you go into an establishment that primarily serves alcohol and are attempting to drink in your uniform, you are attention seeking in my opinion.

When I was in the Army, I was authorized to wear my uniform home going on leave, and a lot did, but I never did. Wearing a uniform in an airport when not on orders is something else I see as attention seeking behavior. Why would you even want to wear your uniform on your off time anyways?

Response by LT Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 7 at 2015 8:29 PM

2015-06-07T20:29:58-04:00

This picture needs to be taken down. The officer has requested a number of times that her picture not be used. I would suggest removing it. Thank you

Response by PO2 William Braddock made Jun 7 at 2015 9:55 PM

2015-06-07T21:55:39-04:00

Well this was fleet week, the hotel should have informed staff to make exception. Needless to say that hotel will no longer be getting any military business. At least from me and my family and friends.

Response by Col Gonzalo Arturo Gutierrez Orozco made Jun 8 at 2015 5:36 AM

2015-06-08T05:36:05-04:00

This is a honnor to the people in that place!!!yuo look good miss.

Response by Col Gonzalo Arturo Gutierrez Orozco made Jun 8 at 2015 5:37 AM

2015-06-08T05:37:41-04:00

To much charge to ASAP!!!Manager grade is specificly a official take.

Response by PO1 Patrick Shakal made Jun 8 at 2015 5:34 PM

2015-06-08T17:34:20-04:00

No surprise coming from the people's republic of new york. It is high time that the liberal left learn tolerances of other.

Response by PO1 Timothy Miller made Jun 9 at 2015 6:15 PM

2015-06-09T18:15:16-04:00

This just shows how much our service is regarded by the corporate world. As the fellow in the article on Military.com put it "just steps from ground zero this should be a no-brainer." Add to this the fact that it was Fleet Week, a week where all of New York is geared up to honor the contributions of Navy members, and this bouncer was more than a moron.

Response by SFC William Swartz Jr made Jun 9 at 2015 6:55 PM

2015-06-09T18:55:25-04:00

They don't want my business they don't get my business!

Response by PO1 Dave Dextradeur made Jun 10 at 2015 12:23 PM

2015-06-10T12:23:12-04:00

Naval officers (USUALLY) don't "create scenes"! The ONLY acceptable means of resolving this issue is to DEMAND to speak with the bar manager! If he/she can't or wont see the offended person then I would march straight into the hotel general manager's office and not leave until the matter is resolved! The actions of the bouncers are totally inappropriate!

Response by 1SG Michael Blount made Jun 10 at 2015 12:59 PM

2015-06-10T12:59:02-04:00

Whether in or out of uniform, we represent the US military and should comport ourselves accordingly

Response by PO1 Michael Watson made Jun 10 at 2015 2:00 PM

2015-06-10T14:00:56-04:00

FIND A BETTER BAR

Response by PO2 Kevin O'Connor made Jun 10 at 2015 2:13 PM

2015-06-10T14:13:52-04:00

There are times to get up and raise some hell, but to cause a scene and imply unpatriotic behavior is not the way to go. Being patriotic means you stand up for others attitudes and opinions even if you don't agree with them. So you ask to speak to a manager, and lodge your protest that way. Sort of like in the service, you praise in public and condemn in private.

Response by PO2 Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 10 at 2015 2:16 PM

2015-06-10T14:16:26-04:00

Are those even authorized at a bar?? I was on emergency leave stopped by a bar in uniform with food being served and will never do it again. The amount of vets that came out of the woodworks dear Jesus!!!

Response by PO3 Chaz Sutherland made Jun 10 at 2015 2:34 PM

2015-06-10T14:34:30-04:00

As distasteful as this is I don't believe any private enterprise should be forced to accommodate exceptions, so long as they are consistent on their practices. The hotel apologized, which is a step in the right direction for them making the change under their own volition. If they were forced to take her in that night this would most likely go the wrong way.

Response by PO2 Anthony Portillo made Jun 10 at 2015 3:41 PM

2015-06-10T15:41:44-04:00

As a Navy veteran, I would have dug my heels deep. Stood my ground as a proud Sailor. Then, I would obtained the bouncer name and additional information. Then I would have gone to the national media. Recording a video is always a excellent choice to protect yourself. Why is there so much contempt for military personnel?

Response by LT Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 10 at 2015 3:43 PM

2015-06-10T15:43:18-04:00

proof that the female uniform does not look good on females, but tends to make them look frumpy and unattractive... especially in summer whites. Maybe there should be a uniform cut and designed for a woman's body, just a suggestion...

Response by FN Michael MacDonald made Jun 10 at 2015 5:35 PM

2015-06-10T17:35:44-04:00

My country is really starting to embarass me. Military dress should be acceptable EVERYWHERE! I can understandsagging pants, gang colors, and all other forms of inappropriate dress, but a military uniform. What a joke! I would never ever patronize that establishment again, and I would write a scathing letter to their corporate office shaming them for the manner in which they treat military personnel. How shameful

Response by CDR Larry Askins made Jun 10 at 2015 6:34 PM

2015-06-10T18:34:29-04:00

Just boycott the hotel and if it is a chain - the entire outfit. If they have someone so stupid that he makes that call or he is enforcing the managements antimilitary opinion - time to boycott them. L the infidel.

Response by PO2 Charles Lemmons made Jun 10 at 2015 7:37 PM

2015-06-10T19:37:12-04:00

I'm not now nor have I ever been known to be polite to people who do not respect the uniform that our nation requires us to wear, and any civilian operated facility that thinks it's inadequate for their establishment never had the honor and pride in being up to the standard of putting one on.

Response by LTJG Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 10 at 2015 8:32 PM

2015-06-10T20:32:49-04:00

Response by LTJG Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 10 at 2015 8:35 PM

2015-06-10T20:35:31-04:00

Shortly after WWII, my father and friends had a similar problem at an establishment that had posted, "Sailors and Dogs Not Allowed". After getting snubbed by the manager, my father's wealthy friend proceeded to buy the place and then fire the manager. He then immediately sold it back to the original owner. :D

Response by PO2 Gregory Wooldridge made Jun 11 at 2015 9:53 AM

2015-06-11T09:53:47-04:00

I would cause no scene. I would report this to my upper chain of command. Hopefully the U.S. Navy would banned Military Personnel from this place, and if it is a Chain it would be a ban on ALL of them.

Response by PO1 Jason Bishop made Jun 11 at 2015 6:34 PM

2015-06-11T18:34:27-04:00

Certain establishments have rules, and human beings are put there to enforce them. That doesn't mean they will always make rational decisions when trying to follow the rules to a T. I can give you some equally, if not MORE absurd rules that some ridiculous people in the military have went overboard on. On MCBH Kaneohe, they have a strict dress code for the exchange and commissary. No PT gear being one of the rules. Some marine decided that applied to an 8 year old boy wearing basketball shorts while with his mom trying to shop for groceries. Then on the other side of the island on Hickam, one of our planes got ahead of one of our others and used their landing approval instead of getting their own, so when the other one landed, out came Air Force security and made everyone exit the plane at gun point, including the crew and space A passengers. That's pretty standard protocol, and also the people on the plane are supposed to face away from the terminal. One man happened to be holding his two year old, and one of the E- nothings yelled at him to turn the two year old around so that he wasn't facing the terminal.

Response by PO2 Nathan Meyer made Jun 11 at 2015 10:44 PM

2015-06-11T22:44:19-04:00

I wouldn't go to a club in uniform anyway. I thought only boot privates did that? Free drinks aren't worth it especially when you aren't supposed to be drinking in uniform anyways.

Response by PO2 Bryan Tague made Jun 13 at 2015 1:35 PM

2015-06-13T13:35:33-04:00

I encountered an identical situation while chaperoning grad night 1986 at Disneyland,asked to speak to the supervisor and the situation was resolved with apoligies

Response by SPC Leisel Luman made Jun 21 at 2015 10:06 AM

2015-06-21T10:06:55-04:00

MAJ Paul Hoiland, I would ask to speak with a manager with witnesses. If admitted I would decline and take my friends, family and money somewhere else.... We can chose which establishments to spend money at because of these uniforms. They would not get one dime from me.

Response by SGT Peter Hayes made Sep 14 at 2017 2:56 PM

2017-09-14T14:56:41-04:00

I don't think this would happen in a upscale Hotel bar in New York City or in any other big City in the U.S.A this Sounds like a what question

Response by Eric Lund made Oct 29 at 2017 8:51 PM

2017-10-29T20:51:49-04:00

As a soldier she should have understood and went and changed. As a soldier she should have known better than to go into a bar while in uniform because while your in that uniform, especially your Class A's you are implying readiness for duty and the bar is the last place you should be. the bouncer in question was probably a former soldier, reservist, or even an off duty police officer and understood professional code of conduct.