https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/top-things-a-lover-can-say-do-for-their-service-member-suffering-w-ptsd-angry-in-denial <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>What can a lover do to protect themselves and love their loved 1, without worsening the situation? How do they go about that?<br /><br />I was young, 19, once, in a military uniform, engaged, could not fail, big dreams, and started getting a stress disorder due stressors of my unit I tried to forget. She noticed my quick change I now can recall, and indeed, like a good lover, a good girl who cares about her man, said I needed therapy which really shook me, and actually was sort of threatening and weird and made me possibly distance myself even a bit from her. I was a warrior and in denial, thinking not talking, and ignoring were solutions, let anger and testosterone take over, in the 1990s. Needless to say I lost her, and have not had much of a love life ever since. Now I am diagnosed, trying out talk therapy, but that is about 20 years late. These things hurt, and I wonder if my life story can help solve anything, help anyone else in the future. Wed, 20 Jan 2016 03:00:41 -0500 https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/top-things-a-lover-can-say-do-for-their-service-member-suffering-w-ptsd-angry-in-denial <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>What can a lover do to protect themselves and love their loved 1, without worsening the situation? How do they go about that?<br /><br />I was young, 19, once, in a military uniform, engaged, could not fail, big dreams, and started getting a stress disorder due stressors of my unit I tried to forget. She noticed my quick change I now can recall, and indeed, like a good lover, a good girl who cares about her man, said I needed therapy which really shook me, and actually was sort of threatening and weird and made me possibly distance myself even a bit from her. I was a warrior and in denial, thinking not talking, and ignoring were solutions, let anger and testosterone take over, in the 1990s. Needless to say I lost her, and have not had much of a love life ever since. Now I am diagnosed, trying out talk therapy, but that is about 20 years late. These things hurt, and I wonder if my life story can help solve anything, help anyone else in the future. PO3 Aaron Hassay Wed, 20 Jan 2016 03:00:41 -0500 2016-01-20T03:00:41-05:00 https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/top-things-a-lover-can-say-do-for-their-service-member-suffering-w-ptsd-angry-in-denial?n=1247066&urlhash=1247066 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>ONE WORD.............LISTEN. NOT LISTEN AND ACT, BUT JUST LISTEN. SHOW EMPATHY Capt Skip Sponheim Wed, 20 Jan 2016 07:17:58 -0500 2016-01-20T07:17:58-05:00 2016-01-20T03:00:41-05:00