So my boyfriend is leaving to basic right as I'm leaving on an exchange to Germany for 5 months. What's the best way to keep contact?

Basic Cadet Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 00:33:14 -0400

Response by PFC Allen VanDyke made Jul 31 at 2018 2:16 AM

PFC Allen VanDyke — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 02:16:44 -0400

Use all means available

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 31 at 2018 6:10 AM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 06:10:05 -0400

Social media, whatever you need to keep your relationship going. Call each other, granted international rates are expensive so check with your phone carrier to find the best international plans. And know it'll be hard. Stay loyal, communicate but be realistic and cognizant to the reality of a long distance relationship. Good luck!

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 31 at 2018 7:10 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 07:10:03 -0400

Write letters the old fashioned way. Give each other the space to focus on your respective goals and responsibilities. If the relationship is strong and built on trust, you shouldn’t have any problem six months from now when you see each other again.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 31 at 2018 8:19 AM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 08:19:04 -0400

All means available. Think positive when you guys can’t get ahold of each other . It happens sometimes. Good luck

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 31 at 2018 8:44 AM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 08:44:36 -0400

Skype worked for me when I was deployed. However he may not have the luxury of communicating.

Response by SSG Michael Hathaway made Jul 31 at 2018 8:49 AM

SSG Michael Hathaway — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 08:49:06 -0400

As others have stated, use any means available. Social media, skype, facebook, video calls with messenger, email, and even snail mail. All these options and more. One thing I would stress is that you both understand that it may not be convenient to talk at times, you may be busy with studies or he may be busy with basic/AIT. Or you each may be getting to know the area or people around you. There is nothing wrong with that, especially if you have a solid foundation of trust and respect in your relationship. As much as you may mean to each other, give yourselves and each other space enough that you each may continue to grow in your respective areas. I am currently on assignment away from my wife and family for the past few months now but I make it a point to call or video her once a day. There are times we talk for 10 minutes because she's busy with the kids, church, or her friends or I may be exhausted from work or need to spend time with my soldiers. There are days we talk for 2 or 3 hours, and I enjoy that time with her as it lets us connect on a deeper level. Best advice I can say is go day by day, savor your time together, and don't be too disappointed those times you can't connect.

Response by SGT Tony Clifford made Jul 31 at 2018 11:11 AM

SGT Tony Clifford — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 11:11:42 -0400

Considering that your boyfriend is going to be in basic, letters are really your only real option.

Response by CSM Darieus ZaGara made Jul 31 at 2018 12:37 PM

CSM Darieus ZaGara — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 12:37:50 -0400

Email, he will likely not have his phone. When he attends AIT he will have it back then he can call or text. Good luck.

Response by AB Private RallyPoint Member made Aug 15 at 2018 11:26 PM

AB Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 15 Aug 2018 23:26:32 -0400

There’s a app or website called sandbox you type letters and they get a paper copy quicker then most letters

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made Aug 16 at 2018 3:36 PM

SGM Bill Frazer — Thu, 16 Aug 2018 15:36:36 -0400

You will hake to probably wait for the occasional on the weekend till he is out of training.

Response by SPC Margaret Higgins made Aug 16 at 2018 6:37 PM

SPC Margaret Higgins — Thu, 16 Aug 2018 18:37:16 -0400

Via SKYPE.

Response by SPC David S. made Jul 31 at 2019 2:24 PM

SPC David S. — Wed, 31 Jul 2019 14:24:38 -0400

As you will soon be a commissioned officer and your boyfriend will be enlisted not sure this isn't going to be a problem. I've been out a long time but concerned about possible fraternization. Is he going Air Force?