Kayla Schonberger 6544683 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>My boyfriend is in the AF currently stationed in Korea and he just got orders to England a few days ago. We have been talking about getting married for a while now, but him being in Korea makes that difficult now. He says we should get married a month before he leaves for England, because that is when he will be able to come home, but I am worried that could mess up his orders or get them canceled. However, I have been reading if we waited until after he PCSd my move there wouldn&#39;t be covered financially and i would have to ship my things separately. Please give advice!! 2020-12-02T03:59:25-05:00 Kayla Schonberger 6544683

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>My boyfriend is in the AF currently stationed in Korea and he just got orders to England a few days ago. We have been talking about getting married for a while now, but him being in Korea makes that difficult now. He says we should get married a month before he leaves for England, because that is when he will be able to come home, but I am worried that could mess up his orders or get them canceled. However, I have been reading if we waited until after he PCSd my move there wouldn&#39;t be covered financially and i would have to ship my things separately. Please give advice!!

2020-12-02T03:59:25-05:00 2020-12-02T03:59:25-05:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 6544687

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Me and my wife did before i pcsd to korea. Dont wait if yall want to get married, because you need to be registered in DEERS and if you want BAH. Also you can go with him. It&#39;s called &quot;Command Sponsorship&quot; process that has to be started. At least that&#39;s what the Army process is.

2020-12-02T04:04:37-05:00 2020-12-02T04:04:37-05:00 CSM Darieus ZaGara 6544854

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>You can get married when you wish. It will not affect his assignment. You will be added to his orders after the fact provided you clear a medical evaluation he will have to submit for overseas assignments with military dependents. He can find the answers to all of this now.

2020-12-02T06:08:01-05:00 2020-12-02T06:08:01-05:00 SSgt Christophe Murphy 6545354

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>If you all want to get married then get married. In regards to the orders to England and you going depends on his orders. There is such a thing as unaccompanied orders overseas so you would need to verify that it wouldn&#39;t be an issue with spouses traveling there. But you can&#39;t be reflected in DEERS until you have a marriage certificate.

2020-12-02T09:46:19-05:00 2020-12-02T09:46:19-05:00 GySgt Kenneth Pepper 6545444

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>My opinion.....don&#39;t make a decision that should be a life changer based on anything other than whether or not you are both committed to marriage. I have seen the effects of using a PCS move or an upcoming deployment as an excuse to rush into marriage only to see it fail.<br />Consider the following:<br />You will be living with someone you haven&#39;t been around for extended periods of time for several years. That can be an adjustment for both of you.<br />You will be living in a foreign country with no family or life-long friends nearby. <br />If you look at those 2 things and can seriously say you are ready, go for it.<br />And if you do get married while he is home, let him go first and get living arrangements settled. <br />Best of luck.

2020-12-02T10:31:28-05:00 2020-12-02T10:31:28-05:00 SFC Michael Hasbun 6545614

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Afterwards... If the relationship survives the separation, that&#39;s a good sign. If it doesn&#39;t, you&#39;ll have saved yourselves both a great deal of grief.

2020-12-02T11:28:58-05:00 2020-12-02T11:28:58-05:00 Lt Col Jim Coe 6545647

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The decision on when to marry should be based on many factors, but if the love and dedication to the relationship are there, you are right to bring in financial considerations.<br /><br />My advice is to get married as soon as your fiancé gets to CONUS presumably on his way to England. Leave enroute is frequently used. After you&#39;re married, you both may need to go to a military installation to get you entered into DEERS so you can become an &quot;official&quot; dependent. He should tell his chain of command in Korea now that this is going to happen. He should also tell his gaining unit that he expects to change his marital status while enroute PCS. The personnel people in Korea should be able to advise him with regard to his orders and moving household goods, cars, etc. <br /><br />I can also make a case for getting married as soon as possible. Maybe while fiancé is home on leave from Korea. This will possibly simplify the process I described in the above paragraph. It allows the Air Force more time to react to his change in marital status and to change his orders to reflect moving you and him. The drawback here is the stress on a new marriage of a long separation while fiancé completes his unaccompanied tour in Korea. You two will have to decide if you&#39;re willing to try this. It can be emotionally very difficult.<br /><br />I expect his assignment to England will allow you to accompany him at Government expense. If so, you will be issued orders, a port call date, and your air fare to England will be paid. You and fiancé may be able to ship household goods from both Korea and US. If you do not live on a military installation in UK, fiancé will get housing allowance, overseas housing allowance, and a overseas cost of living allowance added to his pay. If you live on base, then only the cost of living allowance is added. If you have a left-hand drive car, I would advise selling it or storing it. Using a right-hand drive vehicle in UK is WAY easier than trying to drive an American car on the &quot;wrong&quot; side of the road. This is all a little complicated, but if you and fiancé stick with it and plow through the paperwork and automated systems everything should work out.<br /><br /><br />BTW England is a great overseas assignment. First, the language barrier is minimal. The country is generally welcoming to Americans. You&#39;ll need a US Passport. UK is a great jumping off point for seeing Europe, but no longer part of the European Union. UK itself has an abundance of historical places to visit. It is the birthplace of the English Speaking Peoples and much of American culture. <br /> Great museums, cathedrals, castles. Strongly recommend you take full advantage of visiting small towns near the AFB where he&#39;ll be stationed. The pubs are great places to get to know the local people and learn about their culture, food and drink. There&#39;s also opportunities to visit big cities such as London. History and shopping abound. Hope it all works out for you.

2020-12-02T11:39:24-05:00 2020-12-02T11:39:24-05:00 MAJ Javier Rivera 6545717

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The USAF will not change his orders due to him getting married. Many service members would which that was the case. Now, if in fact, getting married is a desired option, then he needs to get busy and inquire on all of the required medical clearance stuff you’ll need before hand. You do want to start working on it. Getting married while on leave is a good option, just make sure that during that time he gets you enrolled in DEERS (he knows). Then, like others have mentioned, you can meet him later.

2020-12-02T12:10:01-05:00 2020-12-02T12:10:01-05:00 SSG Private RallyPoint Member 6545838

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Regardless of when you get married, he will have to submit for command sponsorship. Once approved, they will pay for your flight

2020-12-02T13:24:47-05:00 2020-12-02T13:24:47-05:00 SGT Eric Davis 6546314

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I would say get married now and why wait...if you plan on getting married then might as week go ahead and get the extra money. It won’t mess up his orders!

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