Marrying A Soldier From A Different Base?

PFC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 11 Jun 2019 21:28:37 -0400

I’ve been dating this Solider from another base for about a year now and I recently proposed. What will happen if we get married? Will the Army move us together? Will we be separated with BAH? Just curious about the process and what We need to do

Response by SGT Javier Silva made Jun 11 at 2019 10:52 PM

SGT Javier Silva — Tue, 11 Jun 2019 22:52:10 -0400

SFC(P) Palmer U. - I do believe SFC(P) Palmer U. is joking, but may be serious.

No, getting stationed together is not automatic. You will have to apply to MACP. Yes, you both can receive your respective BAH if there is no dependent (child) involved. However, if a there is a dependent the higher ranking service member receives the BAH w/ Dep, while the other received BAH w/o Dep. There are other actions that will need to be done. Get a hold of anyone in your leadership for more advice on the matter. Talk to other married Soldiers.

Response by SSgt Jim Gilmore made Jun 12 at 2019 12:03 AM

SSgt Jim Gilmore — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 00:03:51 -0400

While I have no valid reason to think otherwise, this sounds like the old let's get married for the hell of it and the military will move us together AND we will get BAH and rations.

SGT Javier Silva Is correct. Run this up your local chain and have her do the same. IF the military gods are smiling you will be moved together at one of the 2 bases involved. IF both of by chance have an MOS SPECIFIC to a particular base, looks like you could have a long distance love affair.

Response by LTC Jason Mackay made Jun 12 at 2019 12:09 AM

LTC Jason Mackay — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 00:09:18 -0400

You could try looking at the topics you tagged. https://www.rallypoint.com/topics/marriage

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Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Jun 12 at 2019 3:10 AM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 03:10:07 -0400

You two most likely won't get stationed together until one of you is in their reenlistment window and reenlist to move, triggering the other to receive orders to the same place, and requiring them to reenlist to accept the assignment.

Response by SFC Michael D. made Jun 12 at 2019 11:18 AM

SFC Michael D. — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 11:18:22 -0400

I believe after marrage you apply for Joint Domicile. Been a while, could have changed.

https://www.thebalancecareers.com/married-to-the-military-3344581

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Response by SPC Cesar Freytes made Jun 12 at 2019 8:41 PM

SPC Cesar Freytes — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 20:41:40 -0400

Good luck... family or career, age old question. Your too young to make that decision now... let the proposal linger until you guys figure it out, maybe a little time to be separated and see what it feels like, and if it works get used to the separation's.