Is there something more that can be done for single service members or geo bachlors when returning from deployment?

SFC Jesse Wyant — Wed, 23 Jul 2014 22:20:48 -0400

As a single soldier throughout my military career I found some of the hardest times I encounter emotionally was returning from deployment to nothing. From the time we step of the plane until being released for the evening all I saw was married service members sharing hugs and kisses with their loved ones, walking hand in hand with smiles across their faces. As I received a ride home to my empty quarters. I am looking for tangible experiences that individuals have had and experience to see what can be done to make returning from deployment better for all service members.

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Jul 23 at 2014 10:28 PM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 23 Jul 2014 22:28:56 -0400

SFC Wyant. When you find the right person this will all fall into place. In the interim, I would spend time with my closest 'mates to make the transition easier. Warmest Regards, Sandy

Response by LTC Paul Labrador made Jul 23 at 2014 10:54 PM

LTC Paul Labrador — Wed, 23 Jul 2014 22:54:27 -0400

I've always said in some ways being a deployed single soldier is harder then being a married one, particularly during homecoming.

My first deployment I thought no one came out to see me come back. It was a sad feeling. Luckily, I just didn't see where all of my friends were standing and they quickly tracked me down.

Response by COL Randall C. made Jul 23 at 2014 10:56 PM

COL Randall C. — Wed, 23 Jul 2014 22:56:27 -0400

SFC Jesse Wyant, I can relate as I married late in life and most of my deployments behind me when I finally did.

First, it is inherent upon the leadership to ensure they are cognizant of the single soldiers in their unit and what type of support system they have. Are they going on leave to family? Do they have close battle buddies that they are going to be with instead of that empty apartment? What BOSS events are the leadership going to have for those soldiers?

Second, the single soldier needs to plan events so they don't turn into a barracks rat. Every post I've been at has had a very active BOSS program. Additionally there will very likely be many other soldiers in the unit that are in the same situation. Buddy up! Get involved! During my single days, my unit was my family and I formed some very close friendships and leaned on these friends during the troublesome and lonely times.