Is there a way for my girlfriend (the mother of my son) to go with me to a duty station without being married?

2017-12-08T14:30:29-05:00

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for awhile and I’m working on re-enlisting. We have a kid together so is there a way she could come with me to a duty station without being married yet?

Response by SSG Edward Tilton made Dec 8 at 2017 2:48 PM

2017-12-08T14:48:07-05:00

Is she your dependent? Do you already have quarters

Response by CMSgt Mark Schubert made Dec 8 at 2017 2:52 PM

2017-12-08T14:52:37-05:00

I don't understand the concept of "having a kid together' but not married - can you enlighten me with the thought process? Why not just marry her?

Response by SPC Kevin Jobe made Dec 8 at 2017 3:08 PM

2017-12-08T15:08:22-05:00

I didn’t know I could claim her as a dependent. Thought I could only claim my son. No I don’t have quarters yet

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 8 at 2017 3:08 PM

2017-12-08T15:08:41-05:00

Where are you going and is your son in DEERS?

Response by CW5 Edward "Tate" Jones Jr. made Dec 8 at 2017 3:11 PM

2017-12-08T15:11:15-05:00

Direct answer to your question - NOT at Government Expense FOR SURE!!!!

Response by SFC Christopher Taggart made Dec 8 at 2017 5:18 PM

2017-12-08T17:18:03-05:00

Unless things have changed in the seven years I've been out, I would have to say NO. From what I can remember, your dependents need to have orders too, to move there, especially overseas tours. If you can't afford a wedding, just go the Justice of the Peace, pay for the marriage license, and their fee to perform the marriage, and their you go. The whole thing might be under a $100.

Response by CW3 Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 11 at 2017 12:08 PM

2017-12-11T12:08:42-05:00

She might be able to, but the government will certainly not pay for it, as they will only pay for dependents (and you would need to be married to her for that I believe). So the answer is no. However, if your son is listed as a dependent than the Army will pay for him.

Response by SPC David Willis made Dec 11 at 2017 12:51 PM

2017-12-11T12:51:27-05:00

First of all its your personal decision to bring someone into this world and your decision to not be married as long as you're being responsible and raising the kid to be a productive member of society ignore everyone else telling you how to live your personal life at the end of the day no matter what rank the person telling you otherwise holds you do you when it comes to your family. Now the military wont move your gf, but if you have documents showing that YOU have sole custody of the child and not your gf they will give you BAH and BAS, but only for the child, they wont recognize the gf as a dependent. Whether or not that's feasible or if your gf would be willing to sign those rights away to you is a different story. The easiest and quickest way to make it happen is to get married, however that is your choice to make.

Response by SGM Bill Frazer made May 9 at 2018 8:57 PM

2018-05-09T20:57:01-04:00

NO,NO,NO. Bottom line unless you pay for her move yourself out of pocket and find her a place to live out of your own pocket. Uncle Sam will work with you when you have a spouse, not with a shack job, or baby momma. You do know, that even sharing a child together she is not eligible for any medical help either.