https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/is-the-army-too-rigid-when-it-comes-to-friendship-with-higher-lower-service-members <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I am asking this question because as an older Soldier, I run into this issue a lot. As a junior Soldier, I have very little in common with Soldiers that are considered to be in my peer group. I have been fortunate in my duty assignments, I have been able to make and maintain great friendships with Senior service members. I would wager a guess that it was because I was stationed at a very small Depot and just got lucky at my last duty station. As I stated before, I am an old Soldier. I am just as old, if not older, than most senior leaders in the Army. I have attempted to make friends in my actual peer group, but rank always proves to be the roadblock. I am not seeking sympathy, just posing the question. Thu, 30 Oct 2014 00:08:27 -0400 https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/is-the-army-too-rigid-when-it-comes-to-friendship-with-higher-lower-service-members <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I am asking this question because as an older Soldier, I run into this issue a lot. As a junior Soldier, I have very little in common with Soldiers that are considered to be in my peer group. I have been fortunate in my duty assignments, I have been able to make and maintain great friendships with Senior service members. I would wager a guess that it was because I was stationed at a very small Depot and just got lucky at my last duty station. As I stated before, I am an old Soldier. I am just as old, if not older, than most senior leaders in the Army. I have attempted to make friends in my actual peer group, but rank always proves to be the roadblock. I am not seeking sympathy, just posing the question. SPC(P) Jay Heenan Thu, 30 Oct 2014 00:08:27 -0400 2014-10-30T00:08:27-04:00 https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/is-the-army-too-rigid-when-it-comes-to-friendship-with-higher-lower-service-members?n=300753&urlhash=300753 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I never had that issue. I seemed to get along with very few of the seniors even when I became one. I was never a good staffer. I was always in the trenches and all that mattered to me was keeping the birds in the air. I was a workaholic and workaholics find other workaholics. Life was a lot different back then. When I got home it was kids time. Me time was the rifle range and my daughter was my sidekick. SFC Mark Merino Thu, 30 Oct 2014 02:43:43 -0400 2014-10-30T02:43:43-04:00 https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/is-the-army-too-rigid-when-it-comes-to-friendship-with-higher-lower-service-members?n=300851&urlhash=300851 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The fraternization policies are there for a reason. There's nothing wrong with being friendly with people of different ranks, but when you form friendships outside of work it can affect your work relationship. <br /><br />Say you have a SPC who is a friend of his SFC platoon sergeant. Even if that SPC is high speed and deserves to go to the board, other soldiers may think it is favoritism if he is sent. If the SPC happens to mention an issue he is having to the SFC it could also put a strain on relationships with the team or squad leader if they feel the SPC is circumventing the chain of command.<br /><br />The best way to avoid this is make sure it is an open invitation whenever you do anything outside of work. As a leader you can have a BBQ at your house and invite soldiers, but you need to make sure you invite all the soldiers and not just the ones you like. You also have to make sure that you act professional even if it is off work (no getting drunk or allowing people to drive drunk). SSG Private RallyPoint Member Thu, 30 Oct 2014 06:23:10 -0400 2014-10-30T06:23:10-04:00 2014-10-30T00:08:27-04:00