PFC Private RallyPoint Member 4636159 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I want to legally separate from my husband. He is extremely emotionally and psychologically abuse and I’m finally strong enough to make a move. <br />Will I need a fcp? If I separate from him, I won’t have one, as I’m on the other side of the country from my family. I’d prefer to chapter, so that I can go back home to my family and rebuild my life. <br />So what’s the process? I’m still on maternity leave, should I let my COC know now? Is there anyway to expedite the chapter? Will they even let me get one if it’s not an actual divorce?<br />Thanks everyone. 2019-05-14T21:58:53-04:00 PFC Private RallyPoint Member 4636159

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I want to legally separate from my husband. He is extremely emotionally and psychologically abuse and I’m finally strong enough to make a move. <br />Will I need a fcp? If I separate from him, I won’t have one, as I’m on the other side of the country from my family. I’d prefer to chapter, so that I can go back home to my family and rebuild my life. <br />So what’s the process? I’m still on maternity leave, should I let my COC know now? Is there anyway to expedite the chapter? Will they even let me get one if it’s not an actual divorce?<br />Thanks everyone.

2019-05-14T21:58:53-04:00 2019-05-14T21:58:53-04:00 PFC Private RallyPoint Member 4636205

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2019-05-14T22:17:50-04:00 2019-05-14T22:17:50-04:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 4636289

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>You&#39;ve got to give people time to answer, it&#39;s only been an hour lol.<br /><br />As soon as you lack proper care for your dependents you require a family care plan. You can inform your command now. You have 30 days to develop a family care plan once the issue has been identified or every time you PCS. I would encourage you to hold off on being separated for a while. You just had a baby and you&#39;re escaping an emotionally volatile situation with your spouse. Your emotions are all over the place from hormones, conflict, stress and change. It is literally the worst time to make life altering decisions in the middle of life changing upheaval. Don&#39;t make a permanent decision to a short term problem.<br />I would encourage you to ride out the duration of your contract for at least another year. You have financial stability, great health care and it will give you time to plan your exit while you save money - babies are expensive, extremely frigging expensive.<br />If you rush to leave you will be disadvantaged by missing valuable time to attend SFLTAP for your final year. Leaving early will cost you some of your benefits such as your GI Bill, VA home loan, and repaying a portion of any bonus you may have received. You could use the rest of your contract to attend college and ETS with at least an AA and apply to jobs. You could transition to a reserve component which would help cover your Healthcare, provide tuition assistance, and you could transfer your GI Bill to your child in the future.

2019-05-14T23:18:06-04:00 2019-05-14T23:18:06-04:00 SSG Phil Miller 4636346

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Yes, you will. <br />When I was a Retention NCO, I tried everything I could to keep a single mom in. She wanted to stay in too. I looked up every regulation that had to do with her situation and tried to come up with alternative plans. <br />Nothing worked because she did not have a solid family care plan. Very sad, but your child&#39;s needs come first.

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