I am in the IRR. My girlfriend is a T32 National Guard AGR. We met in the military, and she used to work for me. Can she get in trouble?

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 12:18:48 -0500

Our primary concern is whether or not the guard can take any adverse action against her? As stated I am in the IRR with no intention of returning.

Response by CPT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 29 at 2021 1:02 PM

CPT Private RallyPoint Member — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 13:02:58 -0500

The regulation targets those that met while in their official duty and started to court another. In your case you are no longer serving. In AR 600–20 • 24 July 2020 it states:

(d) Personal relationships between members of the RA and members of the ARNG or USAR when the relationship primarily exists due to civilian association and the USAR member is not on active duty (other than annual training), on FTNGD (other than annual training), or serving as a dual status military technician.
(e) Soldiers and leaders share responsibility for ensuring that these personal relationships do not interfere with good order and discipline. Commanders will ensure that personal relationships that exist between Soldiers of different grades emanating from their civilian careers will not influence training, readiness, or personnel actions.

You are no longer Active Duty. The spirit of the regulation was to prevent quid pro quo and favoritism. Seeing how you no longer in an active status then you should be good. If you met while you were active but then started dating then you have to find the divide. Did a relationship benefit either party? Is it still maintain good order in the unit? If she was promoted or got an position due to being in a relationship then that could be an issue. If you were the person that directly influenced the hiring of your partner then the burden would be on you. I don't think this would rise to a level of concern to where either of you would be liable. There are a few more factors that I would have to know. A lot of this is also at the discretion of the commander. Would they want to initiate a 15-6 to find out? Probably not.

Response by Lt Col Jim Coe made Dec 29 at 2021 1:33 PM

Lt Col Jim Coe — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 13:33:07 -0500

You should check the current Army regulations regarding relationships among officers and enlisted personnel. Look for Guard and Reserve exceptions to the regulations. Also, I believe an AGR is a State Employee, so the state may have some unique rules. In general, if your relationship is carried on outside of the time either or both of you are subject to the UCMJ, then you may not have any problem. I would recommend you not flaunt your relationship while your girlfriend is at work or give her Commander a reason to "take any adverse action".

Response by SFC Ralph E Kelley made Dec 29 at 2021 11:59 PM

SFC Ralph E Kelley — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 23:59:21 -0500

Why? Are you in her chain of command as you mow the lawn?

Response by SMSgt Bob W. made Dec 30 at 2021 1:03 AM

SMSgt Bob W. — Thu, 30 Dec 2021 01:03:12 -0500

Are both of you "Zeros" or "Enlisted" Then its OK. You aren't in her COC.

Response by Sgt Judy Leonard made Dec 30 at 2021 2:42 AM

Sgt Judy Leonard — Thu, 30 Dec 2021 02:42:32 -0500

If anyone was to get in trouble first it would be you. If you’re both enlisted or both officers shouldn’t be a big deal

Response by Amn Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 30 at 2021 3:43 AM

Amn Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 30 Dec 2021 03:43:21 -0500

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