How does everyone handle vacations?

2017-04-04T19:16:19-04:00

These times bring up too much anxiety because of the unfamiliar surroundings. I try to stay out of everyone's way, but now my girlfriend is mad at me. I took a nap to calm down. That is what pissed her off. PTSD cost me my first marriage and my children and it seems I am on the same path again. No one gets us and no one ever will. Nothing I can do but prepare for life alone which isn't too bad.

Response by SFC George Smith made Apr 4 at 2017 7:18 PM

2017-04-04T19:18:56-04:00

have not see one in 5 years...

Response by SSG Edward Tilton made Apr 4 at 2017 7:27 PM

2017-04-04T19:27:42-04:00

My wife grew up in a refugee camp while her family starved. She and I have PTSD in common and are isolated almost all of the time. After 54 years of marriage I think we have the knack of it. Neither of us likes others, maybe that is the key

Response by TSgt Dawn Premock made Apr 4 at 2017 9:12 PM

2017-04-04T21:12:58-04:00

I go with my safe people. These are friends or family who understand PTSD. Maybe you can try to educate your friend about your triggers and what they do to you.

Response by SN Vivien Roman-Hampton made Apr 4 at 2017 11:00 PM

2017-04-04T23:00:12-04:00

Perhaps having a conversation about compromise is in order. Explaining that yes, I have agreed to go on vacation despite feeling more anxious and wanting to stay in familiar surroundings means that you give me some time to collect myself and take a nap so that I can continue to make the best of this vacation and we BOTH can enjoy it. She is your partner, it does not sound like you are asking for too much and if it is a problem for her, ask her why. What bothers her about you taking a nap on vacation?

Response by CPL Eric Escasio made Apr 5 at 2017 2:17 AM

2017-04-05T02:17:53-04:00

sad to say but I have never been out for a good vacation since 2007 after being diagnosed with PTS and other health issues. Im working on adjusting still, but I make up on my own like when kids wanted to feel camping I pitch a tent at the backyard and dig a hole on the dirt and cook outdoors for them. Im a slow working progress for the better, but also thinking with limited income I would rather save and buy the necessities that the family needs.

Response by PO2 Rev. Frederick C. Mullis, AFI, CFM made Apr 10 at 2017 11:38 AM

2017-04-10T11:38:30-04:00

At 62 my wife understands my PTSD and she knows that when we are able to afford a Vacation which is few and far between, they are in areas that do not trigger anything for me. She is also not one for big crowds so it works out great. vacant beaches, mountains, forests. Lots of nature and not a lot of people.