CPT Private RallyPoint Member 1211999 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>How we react to negative feedback determines a lot about where we go in life. It can be viewed as a way to grow or it can defeat you, all depending on your attitude about it. How you embrace it determines if it can be used to your advantage or if it will defeat you. There are many ways to handle negative interactions and how they are handled has a lot to do with our own personalities whether they are positive or negative in themselves. <br /><br />&quot;There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.<br /><br />Have you ever met Debbie Downer, Negative Nancy or Pessimistic Patty? These people can be so entrenched in the bad things that there isn’t any room for good things to grow. They inhabit our families and social circles. It can be emotionally draining just being around them, and you must be careful because their attitudes are contagious. Negativity perpetuates itself, breeds dissatisfaction and clutters the mind. And when the mind is cluttered with negativity, happiness is much harder to come by.<br /><br />Here are 10 ways to defend yourself against negativity:<br /><br />Don’t take other people’s negativity personally. Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own attitude. Even when a situation seems personal – even if someone insults you directly – it oftentimes has nothing to do with you. Remember, what others say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection. Read Learned Optimism.<br /><br />Spend more time with positive people. You are the average of the people you spend the most time with. In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you eventually become. If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative. Does who you are and who you want to be reflect in the company you keep? Start spending time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you, people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.<br /><br />Be the positivity you want to see in the world. Lead by example. You can’t always save the world, but you can make the world a better place by practicing what you preach – by becoming self-aware, tapping into your compassion, and protecting your positive space. Doing simple things like talking about positive daily events, common friends, hobbies, happy news, make for light conversations with negative people. Keep the conversations focused on optimistic areas the person can relate to. You can disarm their negativity, even if it’s just for a little while.<br /><br />Change the way you think. The one thing nobody can take away from you is the way you choose to respond to what others say and do. The problem isn’t the events that are negative. The problem is the way you react to those events. The last of your freedoms is to choose your attitude in any given circumstance. Complaining, blaming and criticizing aren’t going to change the situation. It is not always easy to find happiness in ourselves, but it is always impossible to find it elsewhere. Regardless of the situation you face, your attitude is your choice. Remember, you can’t have a positive life with a negative attitude. When negativity controls your thoughts, it limits your behavior, actions, and opportunities. If you realized how powerful your thoughts were, you would never think another negative thought again.<br /><br />Focus on solutions. Negative people have an endless supply of pity party invitations. Don’t RSVP. Oftentimes people use negativity as a barrier to protect themselves from the world, which in turn blocks them from solutions that could improve their life. Instead, identify solutions. Don’t dwell too much on what went wrong. Instead, focus on the next positive step. Spend your energy on moving forward toward a positive resolution. Remember, when you focus on solutions, by thinking and acting positively, sound becomes music, movement becomes dance, a smile becomes laughter, and life becomes a celebration. <br /><br />Read Stumbling on Happiness.<br /><br />Love whoever is around to be loved. Practice acts of kindness. It’s a lot harder to be negative when you’re in the presence of love and kindness. Be that presence whenever possible. Let your guard down. Talk to someone you don’t know straight from your heart. Compliment them. Don’t anticipate awkwardness. Just be you in that beautiful way only you know, and give them the chance to smile and connect with you. Sometimes a kind word and some attention from a friend is all that’s needed to turn a negative attitude around.<br /><br />Provide support when it makes sense. Some people complain as a way of crying for help. They may not be conscious of it though, so their comments come across as negative complaints rather than requests. Show some concern. Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders. <br /><br />Resist the urge to judge or assume. It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have them figured out. Let them know they are not alone. People overcome the forces of negative emotions, like anger and hatred, when the counter-forces of love and support are in full effect.<br /><br />Realize that life is a series of ups and downs. Acknowledge the negativity, accept it, and let it pass through your consciousness, thereby teaching you a lesson but not ruining your day. Life is full of highs and lows, but you don’t have to go up and down with them. We develop from the negatives when we accept them and learn from them. This cycle is all part of the human experience. Relax, let go a little, and enjoy the ride. Read Happiness Is a Serious Problem.<br /><br />Concentrate on today. Too often, we carry around things from our past that hurt us – regrets, shame, anger, pain, etc. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Don’t let these negative points from the past rob your present happiness. You had to live though these things in the past, and although unfortunate, they can’t be changed. But if the only place they live today is in your mind, then let go, move on, and be happy. You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future.<br /><br />Let go and move on when you must. If all else fails, remove yourself from the wrong situations and relationships. Some people are like dark clouds; when they disappear, it’s a brighter day. Know when it’s time to let go. Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them, it just means that you care about your own wellbeing. Every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive.<br /><br />It isn’t easy to remain positive when negativity surrounds you, but remember that you have full control of your attitude. Think of it this way: An entire body of water the size of the Pacific Ocean can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, all the negativity in the world can’t bring you down unless you allow it to get inside your head. People who are able to discern the positive points in negative situations are the ones who prosper in the long run. So defend yourself against the ‘negative way’ and make room for a positive day.&quot;<br /> 2016-01-03T09:34:53-05:00 CPT Private RallyPoint Member 1211999

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>How we react to negative feedback determines a lot about where we go in life. It can be viewed as a way to grow or it can defeat you, all depending on your attitude about it. How you embrace it determines if it can be used to your advantage or if it will defeat you. There are many ways to handle negative interactions and how they are handled has a lot to do with our own personalities whether they are positive or negative in themselves. <br /><br />&quot;There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.<br /><br />Have you ever met Debbie Downer, Negative Nancy or Pessimistic Patty? These people can be so entrenched in the bad things that there isn’t any room for good things to grow. They inhabit our families and social circles. It can be emotionally draining just being around them, and you must be careful because their attitudes are contagious. Negativity perpetuates itself, breeds dissatisfaction and clutters the mind. And when the mind is cluttered with negativity, happiness is much harder to come by.<br /><br />Here are 10 ways to defend yourself against negativity:<br /><br />Don’t take other people’s negativity personally. Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own attitude. Even when a situation seems personal – even if someone insults you directly – it oftentimes has nothing to do with you. Remember, what others say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection. Read Learned Optimism.<br /><br />Spend more time with positive people. You are the average of the people you spend the most time with. In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you eventually become. If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative. Does who you are and who you want to be reflect in the company you keep? Start spending time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you, people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.<br /><br />Be the positivity you want to see in the world. Lead by example. You can’t always save the world, but you can make the world a better place by practicing what you preach – by becoming self-aware, tapping into your compassion, and protecting your positive space. Doing simple things like talking about positive daily events, common friends, hobbies, happy news, make for light conversations with negative people. Keep the conversations focused on optimistic areas the person can relate to. You can disarm their negativity, even if it’s just for a little while.<br /><br />Change the way you think. The one thing nobody can take away from you is the way you choose to respond to what others say and do. The problem isn’t the events that are negative. The problem is the way you react to those events. The last of your freedoms is to choose your attitude in any given circumstance. Complaining, blaming and criticizing aren’t going to change the situation. It is not always easy to find happiness in ourselves, but it is always impossible to find it elsewhere. Regardless of the situation you face, your attitude is your choice. Remember, you can’t have a positive life with a negative attitude. When negativity controls your thoughts, it limits your behavior, actions, and opportunities. If you realized how powerful your thoughts were, you would never think another negative thought again.<br /><br />Focus on solutions. Negative people have an endless supply of pity party invitations. Don’t RSVP. Oftentimes people use negativity as a barrier to protect themselves from the world, which in turn blocks them from solutions that could improve their life. Instead, identify solutions. Don’t dwell too much on what went wrong. Instead, focus on the next positive step. Spend your energy on moving forward toward a positive resolution. Remember, when you focus on solutions, by thinking and acting positively, sound becomes music, movement becomes dance, a smile becomes laughter, and life becomes a celebration. <br /><br />Read Stumbling on Happiness.<br /><br />Love whoever is around to be loved. Practice acts of kindness. It’s a lot harder to be negative when you’re in the presence of love and kindness. Be that presence whenever possible. Let your guard down. Talk to someone you don’t know straight from your heart. Compliment them. Don’t anticipate awkwardness. Just be you in that beautiful way only you know, and give them the chance to smile and connect with you. Sometimes a kind word and some attention from a friend is all that’s needed to turn a negative attitude around.<br /><br />Provide support when it makes sense. Some people complain as a way of crying for help. They may not be conscious of it though, so their comments come across as negative complaints rather than requests. Show some concern. Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders. <br /><br />Resist the urge to judge or assume. It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have them figured out. Let them know they are not alone. People overcome the forces of negative emotions, like anger and hatred, when the counter-forces of love and support are in full effect.<br /><br />Realize that life is a series of ups and downs. Acknowledge the negativity, accept it, and let it pass through your consciousness, thereby teaching you a lesson but not ruining your day. Life is full of highs and lows, but you don’t have to go up and down with them. We develop from the negatives when we accept them and learn from them. This cycle is all part of the human experience. Relax, let go a little, and enjoy the ride. Read Happiness Is a Serious Problem.<br /><br />Concentrate on today. Too often, we carry around things from our past that hurt us – regrets, shame, anger, pain, etc. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Don’t let these negative points from the past rob your present happiness. You had to live though these things in the past, and although unfortunate, they can’t be changed. But if the only place they live today is in your mind, then let go, move on, and be happy. You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future.<br /><br />Let go and move on when you must. If all else fails, remove yourself from the wrong situations and relationships. Some people are like dark clouds; when they disappear, it’s a brighter day. Know when it’s time to let go. Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them, it just means that you care about your own wellbeing. Every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive.<br /><br />It isn’t easy to remain positive when negativity surrounds you, but remember that you have full control of your attitude. Think of it this way: An entire body of water the size of the Pacific Ocean can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, all the negativity in the world can’t bring you down unless you allow it to get inside your head. People who are able to discern the positive points in negative situations are the ones who prosper in the long run. So defend yourself against the ‘negative way’ and make room for a positive day.&quot;<br />

2016-01-03T09:34:53-05:00 2016-01-03T09:34:53-05:00 PO1 John Miller 1212018

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><br />My biggest problem has always been people who feel the need to give negative feedback alongside positive feedback. "John, you did a great job on this task, but you really fudged up on that other one..."

2016-01-03T09:45:23-05:00 2016-01-03T09:45:23-05:00 Sgt Aaron Kennedy, MS 1212019

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>A couple months back I was listening to the Adam Carolla Podcast, with Guest Tai Lopez and he introduced me to this concept. &quot;The 33% Rule&quot; I believe it dovetails nicely into your thread and the personal interactions we foster. <br /><br /><a target="_blank" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bB_fVDlvhc">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bB_fVDlvhc</a><br /><br /><a target="_blank" href="https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/33-rule-why-mentors-important-wendy-zacuto">https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/33-rule-why-mentors-important-wendy-zacuto</a> <div class="pta-link-card answers-template-image type-youtube"> <div class="pta-link-card-video"> <iframe src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/7bB_fVDlvhc?wmode=transparent" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </div> <div class="pta-link-card-content"> <p class="pta-link-card-title"> <a target="blank" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bB_fVDlvhc">Why I read a book a day (and why you should too): the law of 33% | Tai Lopez | TEDxUBIWiltz</a> </p> <p class="pta-link-card-description">This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. In this talk, Tai Lopez reminds us that everyone wants the good lif...</p> </div> <div class="clearfix"></div> </div>

2016-01-03T09:45:58-05:00 2016-01-03T09:45:58-05:00 COL Mikel J. Burroughs 1212031

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="658680" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/658680-31a-military-police">CPT Private RallyPoint Member</a> I first look at the source of the individual and the circumstance that is surrounding the negative attitude and environment that is creating the negative feedback. I assess the situation quickly (internally) to decide on what course of action to take. If it a situation that will have an affect on others or a team (whether in the military or civilian environment) I will find the best avenue to escort or professionally ask the individual or individual(s) to come with me to a location so we can discuss the issues or negative atmosphere they are creating (easier said than done sometimes). If approached properly you can remove the problem in a professional manner. Negative comments or feedback on RallyPoint, I usually avoid altogether and move on - don't feed the fire with a reply - walk away from firing back - just my approach - there are a ton of TTPs that can be used to handle and defuse negative feedback and individuals. I'd like to get some other advice from some other RP Members as well. Great question <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="658680" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/658680-31a-military-police">CPT Private RallyPoint Member</a> Your thoughts:<br />

2016-01-03T09:52:17-05:00 2016-01-03T09:52:17-05:00 SPC Margaret Higgins 1212042

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>VERY nice discussion, <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="658680" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/658680-31a-military-police">CPT Private RallyPoint Member</a>. It makes a whole lot of sense. Thank you for your information. I feel very negative, at times; but I try to inspire with a positive attitude.<br />Again, Thank You.

2016-01-03T10:00:03-05:00 2016-01-03T10:00:03-05:00 1LT Private RallyPoint Member 1212072

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>To answer the original question--how I react to negative feedback it depends. With all feedback I take whatever value I can from it. With that said, if it is the rare situation where the feedback has no constructive value, then I address the individual providing the feedback get a sense of where they are coming from and look for a positive way to move forward.

2016-01-03T10:23:13-05:00 2016-01-03T10:23:13-05:00 SFC Joe S. Davis Jr., MSM, DSL 1212075

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="658680" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/658680-31a-military-police">CPT Private RallyPoint Member</a>, it&#39;s there and its not going anywhere no time soon. Great question: <br />How do you react to negative feedback? I personally use the bible as my reference, starting with the book of Proverbs. It gives me the understanding and wisdom from a spiritual side to deal with all problems encountered here on earth/the flesh. I have learned over my time in the military to use the military seven step problem solving techniques. Sometimes it works/sometimes it does not. Lastly, when all fails, I use common sense with respects to the bible.<br /><br />This is a good tool, that I learned in the military and will continue to use in my post retirement life to deal with negativity.<br />PROBLEM SOLVING PROCESS<br />1. Recognize And Define The Problem<br />2. Gather Facts And Make Assumptions<br />3. Define End States And Establish Criteria<br />4. Develop Possible Solutions<br />5. Analyze And Compare Possible Solutions<br />6. Select And Implement Solution<br />7. Analyze Solution For Effectiveness

2016-01-03T10:25:26-05:00 2016-01-03T10:25:26-05:00 SCPO Charles Thomas "Tom" Canterbury 1212082

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I look at the situation, not the person. I try to speak words of encouragement and help if I can. Each situation is unique and there is not a one-size-fits-all path for each of them. However, if someone seems to thrive on the negative energies and always seems to have a black cloud surrounding them, eventually I begin to back away from it and separate myself from that side of them. It&#39;s hard enough in life to be positive so I have to ensure that it doesn&#39;t bleed into my own life.

2016-01-03T10:28:07-05:00 2016-01-03T10:28:07-05:00 SSG Buddy Kemper 1212108

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="658680" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/658680-31a-military-police">CPT Private RallyPoint Member</a> I try to take it as actually something I can improve on. I used to get mad and shut the person down pretty quick or tune them out completely. Now I try to say something like &#39;thank you for pointing that out, tell me how else can I improve?&#39; That usually will either open up a conversation where I can get ideas on how to be better. If their motives are simply to degrade and not be a friend or good co-worker, that will come out rather quickly as well. Sometimes it seems to be a good idea for me to ask that person if they will pray with me for God&#39;s help in my situation. Just my 2 ¢&#39;s worth. Hope y&#39;all are off to a good New Year!!!

2016-01-03T10:47:10-05:00 2016-01-03T10:47:10-05:00 MCPO Roger Collins 1212115

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>1. Hackles rise. 2. Evaluate comment. 3. Respond with jocularity or firepower depending on results of evaluation. 4. Block the A**hole.

2016-01-03T10:54:56-05:00 2016-01-03T10:54:56-05:00 1SG Private RallyPoint Member 1212135

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>If it is directed at me, most of the time I take it as a challenge. "No can do" folks generally fail in the military.<br />Nobody likes listening to the folks that piss and moan all of the time. Misery may like company, but it doesn't get the job done.

2016-01-03T11:14:50-05:00 2016-01-03T11:14:50-05:00 CPT Jack Durish 1212208

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I must admit that I ignore negative feedback. Just ignore it. I was conditioned to ignore it by virtue of being raised by a father who disapproved of everything I said, did, and was. Sadly, the experience also taught me to distrust all in authority. After all, he was my first exposure to authority and it wasn't a good one. (Makes you wonder how I survived the military, doesn't it? Well, to be honest, I didn't.) Now, if someone approaches me with an alternative to what I am doing, saying, or being, I'll consider it. More often than not, I'll dismiss it because, after all, no one can truly know all the factors that guide you (many are internal). Still, I'll accept such constructive criticism in the spirit it was given (excusing those who do not offer it constructively) and move on. Sadly, one you're already committed to what you are saying, doing, or being, it's kind of late to switch horses. However, constructive criticism will influence future behavior, utterances, and states of being (even if they aren't so good)...

2016-01-03T11:56:13-05:00 2016-01-03T11:56:13-05:00 MAJ Ken Landgren 1212243

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It has not been an easy road for me. When I experience another FUBAR situation I get stressed, depressed, then I go numb. Being numb protects me but prevents me from seeing the world with clarity.<br />After a few days I will see what alternate methods will lead me to victory.

2016-01-03T12:15:49-05:00 2016-01-03T12:15:49-05:00 Sgt David G Duchesneau 1212305

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As long as it is constructive criticism and positive I have no problem at all. We all have our faults and God knows I can surely use any type of feedback, negative or positive, to make myself a better person and leader! Thanks for posting! Happy New Year Captain!

2016-01-03T12:42:28-05:00 2016-01-03T12:42:28-05:00 CAPT Kevin B. 1212356

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Negative feedback is either about perspective or power. Power trips are almost always damaging and perspective can be wrong too. If you understand the who. what, and why, you'll be able to better sort out what you own, if anything. Also realize negative feedback can be technically wrong too. Good people are typically harder on themselves. We all don't like negative feedback, right or wrong. It's the moving on piece that's important. The sun does come up the next day.

2016-01-03T13:08:43-05:00 2016-01-03T13:08:43-05:00 COL Ted Mc 1212418

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="658680" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/658680-31a-military-police">CPT Private RallyPoint Member</a> - Captain; We'll skip over "Hide the evidence." and get right to "If caught, confess. If not caught, don't do it again.".<br /><br />My position is that, unless the feedback is deliberately intended to bring someone down (i.e. to boost your own ego) then there is really no such thing as "negative" feedback as all feedback is intended to instill/reinforce positive behaviors.<br /><br />That doesn't mean that the feedback can't be badly handled but it should be INTENDED to be "positive".<br /><br />"Destructive" behavior, on the other hand, can become quite difficult to handle in a civilized manner.

2016-01-03T13:52:00-05:00 2016-01-03T13:52:00-05:00 Capt Private RallyPoint Member 1212424

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I once heard a senior NCO say - Don't say constructive criticism. There is really no such thing. Criticism is just that criticism and nobody receives it well.

2016-01-03T13:58:51-05:00 2016-01-03T13:58:51-05:00 MAJ Ken Landgren 1212460

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sometimes I kick rocks and cactuses, cuss, and yell at the clouds, lament why me, drink a six pack, yell at my dogs and kids, and go to bed watching NETFLIX.

2016-01-03T14:15:39-05:00 2016-01-03T14:15:39-05:00 Cpl Jeff N. 1212502

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Negative feedback can be professional given. Feedback is feedback. If all you are hearing is positive feedback you might have a poor feedback loop and you might want to expand it/change it. Most people will not give you hard/tough/negative feedback. It normally requires some courage to do so. If you push back on negative feedback, you will likely never get it again and negative feedback is where you get the chance to see your real blind spots. We all have them, things we do not see about ourselves. <br /><br />People deliver positive feedback easily as there is little risk to giving it. Everyone loves to hear how good they are and normally will not challenge it. Over my career, I have found the best response to feedback, positive or negative is a simple "thank you". <br /><br />Feedback is one persons opinion or observation about you. There is an old saying where I come from...If one person tells you that you are a jackass, pay little attention. If 5 people tell you that you are jackass, buy a saddle.

2016-01-03T14:45:47-05:00 2016-01-03T14:45:47-05:00 Capt Brandon Charters 1212790

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The first rule about negative feedback is never give it via email or text. I would advise to stay open minded and listen carefully to all the feedback. Like <a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="138758" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/138758-col-mikel-j-burroughs">COL Mikel J. Burroughs</a> mentioned, you have to assess the track record of who is giving the feedback and carefully decide how valid it is. As a leader, no matter what, you should encourage both positive and negative input. It's critical to keep the lines of comm open with your troops and set aside time for feedback sessions. Seek second (unbiased) opinions when you can...I feel it helps to validate the claims and also discredit irrational comments.

2016-01-03T17:05:43-05:00 2016-01-03T17:05:43-05:00 SSG Warren Swan 1212914

<div class="images-v2-count-1"><div class="content-picture image-v2-number-1" id="image-74920"> <div class="social_icons social-buttons-on-image"> <a href='https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-react-to-negative-feedback%3Futm_source%3DFacebook%26utm_medium%3Dorganic%26utm_campaign%3DShare%20to%20facebook' target="_blank" class='social-share-button facebook-share-button'><i class="fa fa-facebook-f"></i></a> <a href="https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?text=How+do+you+react+to+negative+feedback%3F&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rallypoint.com%2Fanswers%2Fhow-do-you-react-to-negative-feedback&amp;via=RallyPoint" target="_blank" class="social-share-button twitter-custom-share-button"><i class="fa fa-twitter"></i></a> <a href="mailto:?subject=Check this out on RallyPoint!&body=Hi, I thought you would find this interesting:%0D%0AHow do you react to negative feedback?%0D%0A %0D%0AHere is the link: https://www.rallypoint.com/answers/how-do-you-react-to-negative-feedback" target="_blank" class="social-share-button email-share-button"><i class="fa fa-envelope"></i></a> </div> <a class="fancybox" rel="eb64716d9ba9b06ecbdd232ab7585d5b" href="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/074/920/for_gallery_v2/357f83c7.jpg"><img src="https://d1ndsj6b8hkqu9.cloudfront.net/pictures/images/000/074/920/large_v3/357f83c7.jpg" alt="357f83c7" /></a></div></div>Taking any kind of criticism is in how it's delivered. If you think you're helping me by using every curse word in the Martian dictionary, I won't hear you, your message will come in broken and unreadable, and I'll end up serving the connection right in front of you. We've all done it. The yes and no's, no comments, nothing to rebut, just get me out of here now. When you stare at the brick right above someone's head, not looking at them at all thinking of food. You can still come to me with constructive criticism where I'll listen to your points, interact with you on your points, and come to an agreement on how to implement those changes. How is this done? Treat the person you're correcting with respect. I'm not saying you have to be friends, but respect goes a long ways. Some folks want to hide behind their rank and think that will make it right, but you have no respect from your subordinates, your peers, and your superiors so what have you gotten? Once you've lost the respect, you have to work twice as hard to regain it, or earn it sooner by feeding me this. I don't know anyone who doesn't like White Castle.

2016-01-03T18:14:46-05:00 2016-01-03T18:14:46-05:00 CPT Private RallyPoint Member 1213205

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>You have to take it on and over power there. If they are negative I don't let them have any control of the situation. If you do it is going to be negative. Sometimes people deserve to be cut off.

2016-01-03T21:02:19-05:00 2016-01-03T21:02:19-05:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 1213612

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>it depends whom it is coming from. i hate when it comes from my wife but then im somewhat ok when it comes from my chain of command? ? ?

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