How do service members do their job and not worry about "Jody"?

Richard Washington — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 13:50:21 -0500

I want to join the military but the stories of significant others cheating has constantly been running through my mind. I don't have a girlfriend now but I want one in the future and I want a family (I didn't really have it growing up), but at the same time I really enjoy the thought of the military and its opportunities. I don't want to pass up the opportunity of joining for a girl that doesn't yet exist but at the same time I do want that family. Any suggestions or personal accounts are welcome.

Response by TSgt George Rodriguez made Dec 19 at 2019 1:56 PM

TSgt George Rodriguez — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 13:56:03 -0500

Research both avenues and then make up your mind as both have advantages and dis advantages. Good luck on your choice.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 1:59 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 13:59:31 -0500

Don't believe the hype!!!!!!!!! Not everything you read is true. I was in the Army for almost 24 years, just retired 3 months ago. My wife and i will celebrate 20 yrs of marriage and 23 yrs together this January. We have 3 wonderful children and she was with me for all 9 of my PCS's and 5 deployments, countless time TDY, in the field, schools, NTC Rotations, JRTC Rotations, you name it. While there are a lot of divorces in the military, there are many success stories as well. Same as any other way of life. Its all about whom you choose to trust to be your significant other, and their commitment to you through thick and thin. If you found a partner you cant trust, the same will be true no matter what profession you choose to enter. DO not let stories of which im sure you have heard prevent you from joining the military if thats what you want to do. I promise you that you do not want to have any regret later in life. Good luck to you and i hope you find a partner to share the wild ride that a military lifestyle has to offer.

Response by SFC Michael Hasbun made Dec 19 at 2019 1:59 PM

SFC Michael Hasbun — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 13:59:43 -0500

Jody doesn't discriminate between military and civilians. Just do your best to pick a good person to be in a relationship with, cross your fingers and hope for the best. Regardless of your profession, Jody is always waiting.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 2:03 PM

Sgt Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:03:23 -0500

Significant others can cheat on you whether you are in the military or in a civilian job. You do not even have a girlfriend now so there is no issue. If you want to join the military, then join. Have you done your research on which branch you want to join and what career path to follow? Are you in good physical condition?

Response by PO3 Phyllis Maynard made Dec 19 at 2019 2:04 PM

PO3 Phyllis Maynard — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:04:27 -0500

The journey of life will take you through your course. With anything, choices have to be made. Stagnet water sits and smells sometimes. Running water refreshes itself because it is traveling. Move forward and explore your life. Let the connections that you encounter be the opportunities to opening your future. Then follow your heart but exercise good common sense.

Response by CSM Richard StCyr made Dec 19 at 2019 2:34 PM

CSM Richard StCyr — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:34:10 -0500

By choosing wisely young Jedi and realizing that at the end of the day you are only able to control your own actions and behavior within a relationship.

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 19 at 2019 2:34 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:34:30 -0500

That is a risk almost all of us took.

Response by SrA John Monette made Dec 19 at 2019 2:34 PM

SrA John Monette — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:34:41 -0500

priorities. which is more important to you at this moment and for the next 4+ years?

Response by SN Greg Wright made Dec 19 at 2019 2:37 PM

SN Greg Wright — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:37:24 -0500

What a perfectly strange thing to base your decision on. Anyway, Jody doesn't discriminate. He'll visit whether you're in the Army or a corporate peon. The key is choosing a girl (or guy) that'll kick him to the curb.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 2:38 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 14:38:01 -0500

I have the upmost trust and faith in my wife to not even entertain the idea of meeting up with Jody. She doesn't abide by cheating. On anyone's part.

Response by MSgt Gerald Orvis made Dec 19 at 2019 3:00 PM

MSgt Gerald Orvis — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 15:00:30 -0500

"Jody" is a constant for married servicemen - has been since militaries first existed. If their husband is gone for a long time (as during WWII, Korea, Vietnam and (now) the Sandbox, a wife will get lonely and if she doesn't have extraordinary loyalty to her husband/boyfriend and had a good moral upbringing, she will succumb to "Jody." When I was in Vietnam, I saw numerous Marines get "Dear John" letters from wives/sweethearts because they got lonely or didn't have strong enough character to resist "Jody." So relationships are a crap-shoot as far as being life-long - as somebody else said, even civilians are plagued by cheating partners. I think the divorce rate is somewhere around 50 per cent, so it's possible, no matter what. Don't let that keep you from enlisting in the service if that's what you want to do. You can only control what you do, so don't worry about it. Fate will either give you a faithful partner or not, depending on what was meant to be. You'll deal with it, I'm sure.

Response by SPC Casey Ashfield made Dec 19 at 2019 3:31 PM

SPC Casey Ashfield — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 15:31:13 -0500

I had a 2 page list of all the Jody my fiance at the time was enjoying while I was deployed. I stayed in the military and dumped her. Do not let the high chance of infidelity enter your mind if you want to enlist.

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 3:37 PM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 15:37:56 -0500

It's called trust. You must have trust that your spouse is faithful. You can't have a healthy relationship without trust.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 4:00 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:00:06 -0500

Rule of Thumb, by a SF Sargent in the jungles of Panama taught us, and it worked well for years in my life, he said, "If in doubt, don't do it!"

What taught me as a COP for 21 years on the streets was, "You could even hold a gun to her head, and she'll still do it".

So, why are you worried about something that hasn't happened yet, "The sun will come up everyday, but, are you ready to receive it?"

That's the best I can do for you young man, Take Care!

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 4:17 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:17:14 -0500

You do it by waiting to get married until you and your future spouse are old enough and mature enough to be able to handle a relationship with frequent traveling and alone time. This isn't a military thing either. You end up in a relationship with someone who has to go away for any length of time, or you end up on opposite shifts, cheating can happen then as well.

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 4:42 PM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:42:41 -0500

Considering you are not affiliated and currently aren't in a relationship, I would say the first thing you need to work on is self-confidence. If you are already building a scenario in your head about what may or may not occur, you will likely carry that idea into a relationship regardless of whether or not the trust is there. But really, MSG Watschinger said it best: "Don't believe the hype."

Response by CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 4:47 PM

CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:47:52 -0500

Self-esteem is a good starting point and the military can definitely help you with that.

Response by SrA William Cassy made Dec 19 at 2019 5:15 PM

SrA William Cassy — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 17:15:13 -0500

Just make sur e whatever girl u find us loyal and honest

Response by LTC Laura Wickett made Dec 19 at 2019 5:19 PM

LTC Laura Wickett — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 17:19:11 -0500

Listen, you have to mature and know yourself well enough to honestly know what you want in your future spouse. Yes the divorce rate is higher in the military than the national average, but I would wager to say it because the service member does not take the time to really know a person over a good period of time before they engage in what should be a fully committed relationship.

Response by CPL Gary Pifer made Dec 19 at 2019 5:33 PM

CPL Gary Pifer — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 17:33:06 -0500

I''d be more concerned with Sally Suck em Silly, Susie Rotten Crotch... or Allotment Annies. Goodbye pay......

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 5:40 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 17:40:29 -0500

I recommend when you get into a relationship, don't rush anything. Let the relationship grow on its own bro. I've met plenty of people since I've been in who have long lasting relationships.

Response by 1LT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 5:50 PM

1LT Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 17:50:42 -0500

The easiest way to do it is by staying single lol.

But seriously, you just have to develop trust with your significant other. People get cheated on everyday, military or not.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 6:00 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 18:00:22 -0500

I’m sorry to be blatantly honest, but I would suggest that you do not get married and be in the military. If you do get married, don’t get a marriage license. Get a prenuptial agreement between you and your partner. I presently serve in the army reserve and deployed for one year. Your fear is real and ironically, was the single important reason why I did not get into the military when I was in my early 20s. I waited till I was 38 before I joined the reserves. your fear is real. I have observed the horror stories of men being thrown under the bus by their spouses, taking advantage of by their spouses, and financially, emotionally, and socially destroyed while they were deployed. Please think long and hard, be a “fly on the wall”, and observe anyone in the military. Pay attention to what individuals say, and what they don’t say. Marriage is one of, if not the most important decision you make in your life. And in this generation, marriage in general has a 7 out of 10 chance of ending in divorce. ( No one with those odds would go to Las Vegas, or even jump out of a parachute if they had a 7 out of 10 chance dying.)

Marriage is not worth it. Pick out a pencil and paper and write out all of the benefits that you have as a man being married. Then, I want you to do the same thing for your female spouse. Write out what you think she would benefit from being married. Ask other men and women who have been married and are in the military. Ask them specific questions as to what benefits they obtained while being married, male and female. Then I want you to seriously ask yourself how you will benefit by being married,aside from emotions.

I hope you make the right choice! Choose life... develop and totally invest in YOURSELF!

Peace!!

Response by SPC Stewart Smith made Dec 19 at 2019 6:29 PM

SPC Stewart Smith — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 18:29:06 -0500

It's a difficult situation to assess. The thing is cheaters will cheat and those who don't cheat won't cheat. Both the civilian life and military life brings "Jody". If you lack confidence then that brings a lack of trust and both of those things push women away.
Cheaters cheat for the same reasons in the military as in civilian life: lonely, sad, hurt, horny
In the military life the significant other, both men and women, will experience these more frequently. Imagine being a woman around 1,000 guys all day that are constantly hitting on you and are all hot bodied. If you were in a fight, called her a whore, then went on a 2 week field exercise, she is more likely to cheat IF she is the "cheating type".
My advice is to look for a woman who is open and honest with you. One who hides things or lies about feelings for another is going to cheat, probably when you deploy. If you are both open and honest with each other there is less of a chance of cheating.
Don't listen to the guys that say every woman cheats. It's not true. I've met many military wives/husbands that do not cheat. On the flip side of the coin I've met many military wives/husbands that do cheat. It's a shitty situation. If you're cheated on then you're cheated on. Don't let it define you and don't dwell on future problems that haven't occurred. You don't have a crystal ball.

Response by LTC Jason Mackay made Dec 19 at 2019 6:59 PM

LTC Jason Mackay — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 18:59:38 -0500

Jody is what he is. Military or civilian, if your spouse or girlfriend will cheat, they will cheat. If you spend time together, get to know and trust each other, then you,don't have to worry about this. If this is all you are worried about, forget it, unless you habitually pick the wrong people.

I've been married for almost 23 years, including: NTC OPFOR 11months/ yr in the field; 11 months married and on orders for Korea for a year unaccompanied; 3 deployments; 3 JRTC rotations; Garrison Command, two Company commands; and countless TDYs and field training exercises. Can Ben done if you picked the right one. I was in the Army when she married me. Be up front and honest. Don't be a d*ck, treat her well.

You can do both either concurrently or one at a time.

Response by SP5 Dennis Loberger made Dec 19 at 2019 8:13 PM

SP5 Dennis Loberger — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 20:13:48 -0500

I was in the Army with a wife and 2 kids. There are definitely challenges associated with a family and the military, primarily time away from the family. All things are do able. My wife and I survived and have recently celebrated 50 years of marriage. If you really want it, pursue it. You actually have an advantage for success in family life. The gal you meet and who chooses to pursue life with you will be marrying a military man. She will know what she is getting into and have time to see what it is about. Together you can build a good life

Response by LTC Stephan Porter made Dec 19 at 2019 8:43 PM

LTC Stephan Porter — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 20:43:01 -0500

First I commend you for both your thoughts and desires for service and a lasting relationship that produces a family.

I believe you are looking at this all wrong! You should looking to serve and when a young lady comes across your path that you think you could build that family with, get to know her, y’all about who you both are and what is important to you both. Build that relationship and trust and ensure you both are ready and committed! It is not easy all the time and it’s not all party balloons and happy days. Gain a couple sets of mentors that have built a relationship and family; some maybe 10 years your senior and another at least that are 20+ if you can.

I believe family takes precedence over career, but you have to make that choice when you are in. There will be times of separation that the Military dictates, minimize the ones you can.

I urge you to join and follow your heart within the military and eventually toward a family!

There is great advice in these comments and you will notice a couple threads within them.

Response by CH (CPT) Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 8:56 PM

CH (CPT) Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 20:56:56 -0500

Don't marry a tramp and you should be fine.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 9:22 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 21:22:37 -0500

I got cheated on more as a civilian. Lol

Response by MAJ Ken Landgren made Dec 19 at 2019 9:51 PM

MAJ Ken Landgren — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 21:51:46 -0500

Sometimes commanders don’t have perfect information to guide them. They can make assumptions or strong assumptions. Strong assumptions often predict the future correctly, but sometimes the predictions are false. The best you can do in regards to Jody is to make a strong assumption.

Response by SSG George Holtje made Dec 19 at 2019 10:28 PM

SSG George Holtje — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 22:28:35 -0500

It happens a lot less than you hear. My helpful advice is not to rush things and not to go to the pub intending to meet the love of your life.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 19 at 2019 10:55 PM

SFC Private RallyPoint Member — Thu, 19 Dec 2019 22:55:31 -0500

Time is one of our most valuable assets, joining the military straight out of high school was the best decision that I could've made for my situation. Being in the Army, opportunities and people that I've met have been the forefront of my well being, success, resiliency, and futuristic thinking. Jody already took my first wife, it was difficult to say the least. It was definitely a life lesson well received in the long run. I can tell you that I should've made better choices when it came to picking that one though, I don't know what was going through my mind. I have two kids with my now wife, and we are doing well for ourselves.

You're asking the right questions, and asking questions will get you the answers that you need when talking to the right people. That is an invaluable resource in itself within the military.

Response by CSM Charles Hayden made Dec 20 at 2019 12:14 AM

CSM Charles Hayden — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 00:14:47 -0500

Richard Washington You do what the English Knights did before they left for a Crusade. They locked a Chastity Belt on their loved one before departing on the Crusade.

The smart Knights took the key to the chastity belt with them, the others left the key with their best friend!

Response by CSM Charles Hayden made Dec 20 at 2019 12:23 AM

CSM Charles Hayden — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 00:23:50 -0500

Richard Washington Do not hang on to the high school sweetheart after you enlist, I did, then the “dear John letter” arrived!!

I now regret not ‘closing’ the relationship earlier. Our ‘love’ certainly diminished the fun of Carol’s senior year in high school. Then, Jody happened by!

Response by PO1 Brian Austin made Dec 20 at 2019 1:16 AM

PO1 Brian Austin — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 01:16:36 -0500

It's all about TRUST. Maturity, compromise and teamwork go a long way as well. Also if she's not a servicemember ensure she knows what she's in for (PCS moves, deployments, TDY's etc.).
We got married when I was four years in, just had our 33rd anniversary earlier this month.
Best of luck should you choose to join.

Response by SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 20 at 2019 3:49 AM

SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 03:49:14 -0500

If my girlfriend or wife ever decided to LET Jody into their pants then that girlfriend or wife was probably not for you dude. Plenty of fish in sea Jody isn’t your problem. The problem is the cheating spouse or girlfriend you may have.

Can’t blame Jody he might be looking for the same thing you are and your girl doesn’t tell him or her their in a relationship in the first place

Response by SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 20 at 2019 3:59 AM

SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 03:59:13 -0500

I’d be more worried about being sucked into a relationship with a dependapotomus instead of worrying about Jody

Response by SFC Casey O'Mally made Dec 20 at 2019 6:25 AM

SFC Casey O'Mally — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 06:25:16 -0500

Cheaters gonna cheat. The military lifestyle makes it EASIER for them to cheat, but it doesn't turn faithful husbands or wives into cheaters.

Pick an honest, faithful wife. Then - and this is the part most folks get wrong - once you have married her, don't get lazy. Continue to earn her trust, respect, and love. Fully half of the Jody sob-stories I have heard involved a servicemember who was inattentive and stopped trying to maintain his (or her) marriage.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 20 at 2019 8:42 AM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 08:42:31 -0500

As it has been stated multiple times, if it's going to happen it's going to happen. Sadly we live in an "all about me" world now where people focus on themselves and what they want instead of looking at the big picture. Go into the military and when you find someone that you feel you want to have a family with know that you will have a way to provide for your family. Don't let all the stories slow you down. Just like with everything else you hear the bad but not the good. Look for the good.

Response by Lt Col Jim Coe made Dec 20 at 2019 9:34 AM

Lt Col Jim Coe — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 09:34:05 -0500

Been married for 54 years. Wife stuck with me through 22 yrs in USAF. She raised 3 kids and ran the household. Put aside her own ambitions to support me. My best advice is to look for a mate who shares your core values. You won’t successfully change somebody to your way of thinking by marrying them. In the mean time, work hard, play hard, and be patient on the “have a family” goal.

Response by SSG Brian G. made Dec 20 at 2019 11:07 AM

SSG Brian G. — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 11:07:04 -0500

It's called trust and honesty. You have to be honest with your spouse and trust them . Also helps a lot that you show them that they are your world while you are not deployed.

Response by GySgt Kenneth Pepper made Dec 20 at 2019 11:57 AM

GySgt Kenneth Pepper — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 11:57:47 -0500

Military life is full of challenges. One of them is maintaining a healthy relationship with someone you care about. There is a tendency for very short courtships among military members. This sets the relationship up for failure, as the 2 people really don't know each other. I saw it too many times in my 21 years, including my first marriage.
Don't let the fear of a failed marriage keep you out of the military. But know this...if you marry someone you don't have a solid relationship with, especially early in your career, the likelihood of failure is high.
Again, Jody is an equal opportunity player. He just normally finds easier targets near a military base.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Dec 20 at 2019 9:15 PM

MSG Private RallyPoint Member — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 21:15:07 -0500

Should be fine if you dont follow the cliches and marry a stripper. I've got 15 years TIS and just hot 12 years married. My advice besides who you pick, do not get married within 6 months before or after a deployment.

Response by SPC Donn Sinclair made Dec 22 at 2019 8:01 AM

SPC Donn Sinclair — Sun, 22 Dec 2019 08:01:44 -0500

If a significant other is going to cheat, your being in or out won't matter. "Jody" is only half of the equation.

Response by CWO3 Robert Fong made Dec 22 at 2019 10:46 AM

CWO3 Robert Fong — Sun, 22 Dec 2019 10:46:43 -0500

My DI told me that if the Army wanted me to have a wife they would have made her part of my basic combat load. Seriously, this is all about trust. If you can't trust a wife then why did you marry her. Jody is only successful where marriages are failing, or where folks married for the wrong reason. Remain mission oriented in your marraige and in your military mission. You cannot afford distractions on military missions and while you are deployed there is nothing you can do about what may or may not be happening at home. Take care of the things you have power over and leave the rest for later. Remember, there are no guarantees in life.

Response by SSG Todd Cadle made Jan 30 at 2020 3:27 AM

SSG Todd Cadle — Thu, 30 Jan 2020 03:27:13 -0500

Duuude! This is ridiculous. The answer is to not get married until you meet someone that you trust will not cheat on you.Honestly, this isn't any different from what you'd do if you weren't in the military.

Response by Kiera Wilson made Feb 3 at 2020 12:32 AM

Kiera Wilson — Mon, 03 Feb 2020 00:32:55 -0500

As a spouse, I can tell you that if you pick rhe right person, theh will be good to you. My husband and I both kmkw a lot of people married for the wrong reasons. Some marry the first girl they meet. Lots actually marry strippers. At least where we are. It takes a strong person to be able to live a military life style and be faithful. Finding the right girl is up to you. My husband said the only thing you can do is ne witb someone you can trust.

Response by SFC Stephen Atchley made Feb 7 at 2020 1:54 PM

SFC Stephen Atchley — Fri, 07 Feb 2020 13:54:37 -0500

It has nothing to do with 'Jody'. What matters is the character of the woman in question. Either she is worthy of your faith and trust, or she is not. If 'Jody' can steal her away then she wasn't worth having in the first place.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Feb 9 at 2020 5:13 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 09 Feb 2020 17:13:04 -0500

I will say that it is true that not every spouse cheats in the military. However, it is rampant. Now the question should be, do I trust my spouse? The only way to not worry about a "jody" is to absolutely make sure you marry someone that you know will never cheat on you. They do exist, but they are hard to find.

Response by CWO4 Ray Fairman made Feb 9 at 2020 6:00 PM

CWO4 Ray Fairman — Sun, 09 Feb 2020 18:00:59 -0500

40+ years of military service multiple deployments and a 40 + year career as a Cop... somehow, with God's help and a lot of work on our part, my wife and I recently celebrated our 50th anniversary.. and I have 2 children and a son in law in the service a USA Capt, A USA Maj and a soon to me (May 1 ) USA/USNR 0-6 all still married to #1 spouse... as the old song goes... It is no secret what God can do...!

Response by CPL Angelika Guilbe made Feb 9 at 2020 8:26 PM

CPL Angelika Guilbe — Sun, 09 Feb 2020 20:26:21 -0500

Finding the right partner is key. She should be strong understanding and willing to hold down the fort no MATTER WHAT!!

Response by 1SG Thomas Roman made Mar 12 at 2020 4:45 PM

1SG Thomas Roman — Thu, 12 Mar 2020 16:45:05 -0400

jody is a made up person. a good relationship will survive. A poor relationship will fail. Does't matter if you are Military or Civilian.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 15 at 2020 2:41 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Sun, 15 Mar 2020 14:41:29 -0400

I had this exact thought growing up. Similar story of not having a strong family too. I joined at 27 after putting it off for years because of those concerns. I missed a huge opportunity. One of my only regrets in life. I'm 34 and been in the national guard for 8.5 years now but wish I'd gone active when i was young! I met my wife 2.5 months before going out to basic and she's been a rock ever since. I'm a firefighter on the civilian side. I've missed birthdays and anniversaries, holidays and school events but she's held it all together. This hurts to hear but stop looking for your bride and live life. When you find her you'll find her. It sucks but it's true. Gotta follow your dreams even if they seem to contradict each other... or you'll regret it like I do.