Richard Washington 5360211 <div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I want to join the military but the stories of significant others cheating has constantly been running through my mind. I don&#39;t have a girlfriend now but I want one in the future and I want a family (I didn&#39;t really have it growing up), but at the same time I really enjoy the thought of the military and its opportunities. I don&#39;t want to pass up the opportunity of joining for a girl that doesn&#39;t yet exist but at the same time I do want that family. Any suggestions or personal accounts are welcome. 2019-12-19T13:50:21-05:00 Richard Washington 5360211

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I want to join the military but the stories of significant others cheating has constantly been running through my mind. I don&#39;t have a girlfriend now but I want one in the future and I want a family (I didn&#39;t really have it growing up), but at the same time I really enjoy the thought of the military and its opportunities. I don&#39;t want to pass up the opportunity of joining for a girl that doesn&#39;t yet exist but at the same time I do want that family. Any suggestions or personal accounts are welcome.

2019-12-19T13:50:21-05:00 2019-12-19T13:50:21-05:00 TSgt George Rodriguez 5360231

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Research both avenues and then make up your mind as both have advantages and dis advantages. Good luck on your choice.

2019-12-19T13:56:03-05:00 2019-12-19T13:56:03-05:00 MSG Private RallyPoint Member 5360238

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Don&#39;t believe the hype!!!!!!!!! Not everything you read is true. I was in the Army for almost 24 years, just retired 3 months ago. My wife and i will celebrate 20 yrs of marriage and 23 yrs together this January. We have 3 wonderful children and she was with me for all 9 of my PCS&#39;s and 5 deployments, countless time TDY, in the field, schools, NTC Rotations, JRTC Rotations, you name it. While there are a lot of divorces in the military, there are many success stories as well. Same as any other way of life. Its all about whom you choose to trust to be your significant other, and their commitment to you through thick and thin. If you found a partner you cant trust, the same will be true no matter what profession you choose to enter. DO not let stories of which im sure you have heard prevent you from joining the military if thats what you want to do. I promise you that you do not want to have any regret later in life. Good luck to you and i hope you find a partner to share the wild ride that a military lifestyle has to offer.

2019-12-19T13:59:31-05:00 2019-12-19T13:59:31-05:00 SFC Michael Hasbun 5360239

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Jody doesn&#39;t discriminate between military and civilians. Just do your best to pick a good person to be in a relationship with, cross your fingers and hope for the best. Regardless of your profession, Jody is always waiting.

2019-12-19T13:59:43-05:00 2019-12-19T13:59:43-05:00 Sgt Private RallyPoint Member 5360244

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Significant others can cheat on you whether you are in the military or in a civilian job. You do not even have a girlfriend now so there is no issue. If you want to join the military, then join. Have you done your research on which branch you want to join and what career path to follow? Are you in good physical condition?

2019-12-19T14:03:23-05:00 2019-12-19T14:03:23-05:00 PO3 Phyllis Maynard 5360247

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The journey of life will take you through your course. With anything, choices have to be made. Stagnet water sits and smells sometimes. Running water refreshes itself because it is traveling. Move forward and explore your life. Let the connections that you encounter be the opportunities to opening your future. Then follow your heart but exercise good common sense.

2019-12-19T14:04:27-05:00 2019-12-19T14:04:27-05:00 CSM Richard StCyr 5360336

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>By choosing wisely young Jedi and realizing that at the end of the day you are only able to control your own actions and behavior within a relationship.

2019-12-19T14:34:10-05:00 2019-12-19T14:34:10-05:00 MAJ Ken Landgren 5360339

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>That is a risk almost all of us took.

2019-12-19T14:34:30-05:00 2019-12-19T14:34:30-05:00 SrA John Monette 5360341

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>priorities. which is more important to you at this moment and for the next 4+ years?

2019-12-19T14:34:41-05:00 2019-12-19T14:34:41-05:00 SN Greg Wright 5360348

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>What a perfectly strange thing to base your decision on. Anyway, Jody doesn&#39;t discriminate. He&#39;ll visit whether you&#39;re in the Army or a corporate peon. The key is choosing a girl (or guy) that&#39;ll kick him to the curb.

2019-12-19T14:37:24-05:00 2019-12-19T14:37:24-05:00 MSG Private RallyPoint Member 5360349

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I have the upmost trust and faith in my wife to not even entertain the idea of meeting up with Jody. She doesn&#39;t abide by cheating. On anyone&#39;s part.

2019-12-19T14:38:01-05:00 2019-12-19T14:38:01-05:00 MSgt Gerald Orvis 5360434

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>&quot;Jody&quot; is a constant for married servicemen - has been since militaries first existed. If their husband is gone for a long time (as during WWII, Korea, Vietnam and (now) the Sandbox, a wife will get lonely and if she doesn&#39;t have extraordinary loyalty to her husband/boyfriend and had a good moral upbringing, she will succumb to &quot;Jody.&quot; When I was in Vietnam, I saw numerous Marines get &quot;Dear John&quot; letters from wives/sweethearts because they got lonely or didn&#39;t have strong enough character to resist &quot;Jody.&quot; So relationships are a crap-shoot as far as being life-long - as somebody else said, even civilians are plagued by cheating partners. I think the divorce rate is somewhere around 50 per cent, so it&#39;s possible, no matter what. Don&#39;t let that keep you from enlisting in the service if that&#39;s what you want to do. You can only control what you do, so don&#39;t worry about it. Fate will either give you a faithful partner or not, depending on what was meant to be. You&#39;ll deal with it, I&#39;m sure.

2019-12-19T15:00:30-05:00 2019-12-19T15:00:30-05:00 SPC Casey Ashfield 5360538

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I had a 2 page list of all the Jody my fiance at the time was enjoying while I was deployed. I stayed in the military and dumped her. Do not let the high chance of infidelity enter your mind if you want to enlist.

2019-12-19T15:31:13-05:00 2019-12-19T15:31:13-05:00 MAJ Private RallyPoint Member 5360550

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It&#39;s called trust. You must have trust that your spouse is faithful. You can&#39;t have a healthy relationship without trust.

2019-12-19T15:37:56-05:00 2019-12-19T15:37:56-05:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 5360602

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Rule of Thumb, by a SF Sargent in the jungles of Panama taught us, and it worked well for years in my life, he said, &quot;If in doubt, don&#39;t do it!&quot;<br /><br />What taught me as a COP for 21 years on the streets was, &quot;You could even hold a gun to her head, and she&#39;ll still do it&quot;.<br /><br />So, why are you worried about something that hasn&#39;t happened yet, &quot;The sun will come up everyday, but, are you ready to receive it?&quot;<br /><br />That&#39;s the best I can do for you young man, Take Care!

2019-12-19T16:00:06-05:00 2019-12-19T16:00:06-05:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 5360649

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>You do it by waiting to get married until you and your future spouse are old enough and mature enough to be able to handle a relationship with frequent traveling and alone time. This isn&#39;t a military thing either. You end up in a relationship with someone who has to go away for any length of time, or you end up on opposite shifts, cheating can happen then as well.

2019-12-19T16:17:14-05:00 2019-12-19T16:17:14-05:00 1LT Private RallyPoint Member 5360718

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Considering you are not affiliated and currently aren&#39;t in a relationship, I would say the first thing you need to work on is self-confidence. If you are already building a scenario in your head about what may or may not occur, you will likely carry that idea into a relationship regardless of whether or not the trust is there. But really, MSG Watschinger said it best: &quot;Don&#39;t believe the hype.&quot;

2019-12-19T16:42:41-05:00 2019-12-19T16:42:41-05:00 CMSgt Private RallyPoint Member 5360733

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Self-esteem is a good starting point and the military can definitely help you with that.

2019-12-19T16:47:52-05:00 2019-12-19T16:47:52-05:00 SrA William Cassy 5360808

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Just make sur e whatever girl u find us loyal and honest

2019-12-19T17:15:13-05:00 2019-12-19T17:15:13-05:00 LTC Laura Wickett 5360814

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Listen, you have to mature and know yourself well enough to honestly know what you want in your future spouse. Yes the divorce rate is higher in the military than the national average, but I would wager to say it because the service member does not take the time to really know a person over a good period of time before they engage in what should be a fully committed relationship.

2019-12-19T17:19:11-05:00 2019-12-19T17:19:11-05:00 CPL Gary Pifer 5360859

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I&#39;&#39;d be more concerned with Sally Suck em Silly, Susie Rotten Crotch... or Allotment Annies. Goodbye pay......

2019-12-19T17:33:06-05:00 2019-12-19T17:33:06-05:00 SPC Private RallyPoint Member 5360881

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I recommend when you get into a relationship, don&#39;t rush anything. Let the relationship grow on its own bro. I&#39;ve met plenty of people since I&#39;ve been in who have long lasting relationships.

2019-12-19T17:40:29-05:00 2019-12-19T17:40:29-05:00 1LT Private RallyPoint Member 5360907

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>The easiest way to do it is by staying single lol. <br /><br />But seriously, you just have to develop trust with your significant other. People get cheated on everyday, military or not.

2019-12-19T17:50:42-05:00 2019-12-19T17:50:42-05:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 5360936

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I’m sorry to be blatantly honest, but I would suggest that you do not get married and be in the military. If you do get married, don’t get a marriage license. Get a prenuptial agreement between you and your partner. I presently serve in the army reserve and deployed for one year. Your fear is real and ironically, was the single important reason why I did not get into the military when I was in my early 20s. I waited till I was 38 before I joined the reserves. your fear is real. I have observed the horror stories of men being thrown under the bus by their spouses, taking advantage of by their spouses, and financially, emotionally, and socially destroyed while they were deployed. Please think long and hard, be a “fly on the wall”, and observe anyone in the military. Pay attention to what individuals say, and what they don’t say. Marriage is one of, if not the most important decision you make in your life. And in this generation, marriage in general has a 7 out of 10 chance of ending in divorce. ( No one with those odds would go to Las Vegas, or even jump out of a parachute if they had a 7 out of 10 chance dying.)<br /><br />Marriage is not worth it. Pick out a pencil and paper and write out all of the benefits that you have as a man being married. Then, I want you to do the same thing for your female spouse. Write out what you think she would benefit from being married. Ask other men and women who have been married and are in the military. Ask them specific questions as to what benefits they obtained while being married, male and female. Then I want you to seriously ask yourself how you will benefit by being married,aside from emotions.<br /><br />I hope you make the right choice! Choose life... develop and totally invest in YOURSELF!<br /><br />Peace!!

2019-12-19T18:00:22-05:00 2019-12-19T18:00:22-05:00 SPC Stewart Smith 5361026

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It&#39;s a difficult situation to assess. The thing is cheaters will cheat and those who don&#39;t cheat won&#39;t cheat. Both the civilian life and military life brings &quot;Jody&quot;. If you lack confidence then that brings a lack of trust and both of those things push women away. <br />Cheaters cheat for the same reasons in the military as in civilian life: lonely, sad, hurt, horny<br />In the military life the significant other, both men and women, will experience these more frequently. Imagine being a woman around 1,000 guys all day that are constantly hitting on you and are all hot bodied. If you were in a fight, called her a whore, then went on a 2 week field exercise, she is more likely to cheat IF she is the &quot;cheating type&quot;. <br />My advice is to look for a woman who is open and honest with you. One who hides things or lies about feelings for another is going to cheat, probably when you deploy. If you are both open and honest with each other there is less of a chance of cheating. <br />Don&#39;t listen to the guys that say every woman cheats. It&#39;s not true. I&#39;ve met many military wives/husbands that do not cheat. On the flip side of the coin I&#39;ve met many military wives/husbands that do cheat. It&#39;s a shitty situation. If you&#39;re cheated on then you&#39;re cheated on. Don&#39;t let it define you and don&#39;t dwell on future problems that haven&#39;t occurred. You don&#39;t have a crystal ball.

2019-12-19T18:29:06-05:00 2019-12-19T18:29:06-05:00 LTC Jason Mackay 5361096

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Jody is what he is. Military or civilian, if your spouse or girlfriend will cheat, they will cheat. If you spend time together, get to know and trust each other, then you,don&#39;t have to worry about this. If this is all you are worried about, forget it, unless you habitually pick the wrong people. <br /><br />I&#39;ve been married for almost 23 years, including: NTC OPFOR 11months/ yr in the field; 11 months married and on orders for Korea for a year unaccompanied; 3 deployments; 3 JRTC rotations; Garrison Command, two Company commands; and countless TDYs and field training exercises. Can Ben done if you picked the right one. I was in the Army when she married me. Be up front and honest. Don&#39;t be a d*ck, treat her well. <br /><br />You can do both either concurrently or one at a time.

2019-12-19T18:59:38-05:00 2019-12-19T18:59:38-05:00 SP5 Dennis Loberger 5361313

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I was in the Army with a wife and 2 kids. There are definitely challenges associated with a family and the military, primarily time away from the family. All things are do able. My wife and I survived and have recently celebrated 50 years of marriage. If you really want it, pursue it. You actually have an advantage for success in family life. The gal you meet and who chooses to pursue life with you will be marrying a military man. She will know what she is getting into and have time to see what it is about. Together you can build a good life

2019-12-19T20:13:48-05:00 2019-12-19T20:13:48-05:00 LTC Stephan Porter 5361376

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>First I commend you for both your thoughts and desires for service and a lasting relationship that produces a family.<br /><br />I believe you are looking at this all wrong! You should looking to serve and when a young lady comes across your path that you think you could build that family with, get to know her, y’all about who you both are and what is important to you both. Build that relationship and trust and ensure you both are ready and committed! It is not easy all the time and it’s not all party balloons and happy days. Gain a couple sets of mentors that have built a relationship and family; some maybe 10 years your senior and another at least that are 20+ if you can. <br /><br />I believe family takes precedence over career, but you have to make that choice when you are in. There will be times of separation that the Military dictates, minimize the ones you can.<br /><br />I urge you to join and follow your heart within the military and eventually toward a family!<br /><br />There is great advice in these comments and you will notice a couple threads within them.

2019-12-19T20:43:01-05:00 2019-12-19T20:43:01-05:00 CH (CPT) Private RallyPoint Member 5361448

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Don&#39;t marry a tramp and you should be fine.

2019-12-19T20:56:56-05:00 2019-12-19T20:56:56-05:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 5361502

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I got cheated on more as a civilian. Lol

2019-12-19T21:22:37-05:00 2019-12-19T21:22:37-05:00 MAJ Ken Landgren 5361579

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Sometimes commanders don’t have perfect information to guide them. They can make assumptions or strong assumptions. Strong assumptions often predict the future correctly, but sometimes the predictions are false. The best you can do in regards to Jody is to make a strong assumption.

2019-12-19T21:51:46-05:00 2019-12-19T21:51:46-05:00 SSG George Holtje 5361659

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It happens a lot less than you hear. My helpful advice is not to rush things and not to go to the pub intending to meet the love of your life.

2019-12-19T22:28:35-05:00 2019-12-19T22:28:35-05:00 SFC Private RallyPoint Member 5361733

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Time is one of our most valuable assets, joining the military straight out of high school was the best decision that I could&#39;ve made for my situation. Being in the Army, opportunities and people that I&#39;ve met have been the forefront of my well being, success, resiliency, and futuristic thinking. Jody already took my first wife, it was difficult to say the least. It was definitely a life lesson well received in the long run. I can tell you that I should&#39;ve made better choices when it came to picking that one though, I don&#39;t know what was going through my mind. I have two kids with my now wife, and we are doing well for ourselves. <br /><br />You&#39;re asking the right questions, and asking questions will get you the answers that you need when talking to the right people. That is an invaluable resource in itself within the military.

2019-12-19T22:55:31-05:00 2019-12-19T22:55:31-05:00 CSM Charles Hayden 5361912

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="1699816" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/1699816-richard-washington">Richard Washington</a> You do what the English Knights did before they left for a Crusade. They locked a Chastity Belt on their loved one before departing on the Crusade. <br /><br />The smart Knights took the key to the chastity belt with them, the others left the key with their best friend!

2019-12-20T00:14:47-05:00 2019-12-20T00:14:47-05:00 CSM Charles Hayden 5361929

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div><a class="dark-link bold-link" role="profile-hover" data-qtip-container="body" data-id="1699816" data-source-page-controller="question_response_contents" href="/profiles/1699816-richard-washington">Richard Washington</a> Do not hang on to the high school sweetheart after you enlist, I did, then the “dear John letter” arrived!!<br /><br />I now regret not ‘closing’ the relationship earlier. Our ‘love’ certainly diminished the fun of Carol’s senior year in high school. Then, Jody happened by!

2019-12-20T00:23:50-05:00 2019-12-20T00:23:50-05:00 PO1 Brian Austin 5362003

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It&#39;s all about TRUST. Maturity, compromise and teamwork go a long way as well. Also if she&#39;s not a servicemember ensure she knows what she&#39;s in for (PCS moves, deployments, TDY&#39;s etc.). <br />We got married when I was four years in, just had our 33rd anniversary earlier this month. <br />Best of luck should you choose to join.

2019-12-20T01:16:36-05:00 2019-12-20T01:16:36-05:00 SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member 5362180

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>If my girlfriend or wife ever decided to LET Jody into their pants then that girlfriend or wife was probably not for you dude. Plenty of fish in sea Jody isn’t your problem. The problem is the cheating spouse or girlfriend you may have. <br /><br />Can’t blame Jody he might be looking for the same thing you are and your girl doesn’t tell him or her their in a relationship in the first place

2019-12-20T03:49:14-05:00 2019-12-20T03:49:14-05:00 SGT(P) Private RallyPoint Member 5362182

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I’d be more worried about being sucked into a relationship with a dependapotomus instead of worrying about Jody

2019-12-20T03:59:13-05:00 2019-12-20T03:59:13-05:00 SFC Casey O'Mally 5362343

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Cheaters gonna cheat. The military lifestyle makes it EASIER for them to cheat, but it doesn&#39;t turn faithful husbands or wives into cheaters.<br /><br />Pick an honest, faithful wife. Then - and this is the part most folks get wrong - once you have married her, don&#39;t get lazy. Continue to earn her trust, respect, and love. Fully half of the Jody sob-stories I have heard involved a servicemember who was inattentive and stopped trying to maintain his (or her) marriage.

2019-12-20T06:25:16-05:00 2019-12-20T06:25:16-05:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 5362699

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As it has been stated multiple times, if it&#39;s going to happen it&#39;s going to happen. Sadly we live in an &quot;all about me&quot; world now where people focus on themselves and what they want instead of looking at the big picture. Go into the military and when you find someone that you feel you want to have a family with know that you will have a way to provide for your family. Don&#39;t let all the stories slow you down. Just like with everything else you hear the bad but not the good. Look for the good.

2019-12-20T08:42:31-05:00 2019-12-20T08:42:31-05:00 Lt Col Jim Coe 5362841

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Been married for 54 years. Wife stuck with me through 22 yrs in USAF. She raised 3 kids and ran the household. Put aside her own ambitions to support me. My best advice is to look for a mate who shares your core values. You won’t successfully change somebody to your way of thinking by marrying them. In the mean time, work hard, play hard, and be patient on the “have a family” goal.

2019-12-20T09:34:05-05:00 2019-12-20T09:34:05-05:00 SSG Brian G. 5363113

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It&#39;s called trust and honesty. You have to be honest with your spouse and trust them . Also helps a lot that you show them that they are your world while you are not deployed.

2019-12-20T11:07:04-05:00 2019-12-20T11:07:04-05:00 GySgt Kenneth Pepper 5363227

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Military life is full of challenges. One of them is maintaining a healthy relationship with someone you care about. There is a tendency for very short courtships among military members. This sets the relationship up for failure, as the 2 people really don&#39;t know each other. I saw it too many times in my 21 years, including my first marriage.<br />Don&#39;t let the fear of a failed marriage keep you out of the military. But know this...if you marry someone you don&#39;t have a solid relationship with, especially early in your career, the likelihood of failure is high. <br />Again, Jody is an equal opportunity player. He just normally finds easier targets near a military base.

2019-12-20T11:57:47-05:00 2019-12-20T11:57:47-05:00 MSG Private RallyPoint Member 5364715

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Should be fine if you dont follow the cliches and marry a stripper. I&#39;ve got 15 years TIS and just hot 12 years married. My advice besides who you pick, do not get married within 6 months before or after a deployment.

2019-12-20T21:15:07-05:00 2019-12-20T21:15:07-05:00 SPC Donn Sinclair 5368660

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>If a significant other is going to cheat, your being in or out won&#39;t matter. &quot;Jody&quot; is only half of the equation.

2019-12-22T08:01:44-05:00 2019-12-22T08:01:44-05:00 CWO3 Robert Fong 5369067

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>My DI told me that if the Army wanted me to have a wife they would have made her part of my basic combat load. Seriously, this is all about trust. If you can&#39;t trust a wife then why did you marry her. Jody is only successful where marriages are failing, or where folks married for the wrong reason. Remain mission oriented in your marraige and in your military mission. You cannot afford distractions on military missions and while you are deployed there is nothing you can do about what may or may not be happening at home. Take care of the things you have power over and leave the rest for later. Remember, there are no guarantees in life.

2019-12-22T10:46:43-05:00 2019-12-22T10:46:43-05:00 SSG Todd Cadle 5498676

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Duuude! This is ridiculous. The answer is to not get married until you meet someone that you trust will not cheat on you.Honestly, this isn&#39;t any different from what you&#39;d do if you weren&#39;t in the military.

2020-01-30T03:27:13-05:00 2020-01-30T03:27:13-05:00 Kiera Wilson 5512959

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>As a spouse, I can tell you that if you pick rhe right person, theh will be good to you. My husband and I both kmkw a lot of people married for the wrong reasons. Some marry the first girl they meet. Lots actually marry strippers. At least where we are. It takes a strong person to be able to live a military life style and be faithful. Finding the right girl is up to you. My husband said the only thing you can do is ne witb someone you can trust.

2020-02-03T00:32:55-05:00 2020-02-03T00:32:55-05:00 SFC Stephen Atchley 5532076

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>It has nothing to do with &#39;Jody&#39;. What matters is the character of the woman in question. Either she is worthy of your faith and trust, or she is not. If &#39;Jody&#39; can steal her away then she wasn&#39;t worth having in the first place.

2020-02-07T13:54:37-05:00 2020-02-07T13:54:37-05:00 SGT Private RallyPoint Member 5539926

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I will say that it is true that not every spouse cheats in the military. However, it is rampant. Now the question should be, do I trust my spouse? The only way to not worry about a &quot;jody&quot; is to absolutely make sure you marry someone that you know will never cheat on you. They do exist, but they are hard to find.

2020-02-09T17:13:04-05:00 2020-02-09T17:13:04-05:00 CWO4 Ray Fairman 5540053

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>40+ years of military service multiple deployments and a 40 + year career as a Cop... somehow, with God&#39;s help and a lot of work on our part, my wife and I recently celebrated our 50th anniversary.. and I have 2 children and a son in law in the service a USA Capt, A USA Maj and a soon to me (May 1 ) USA/USNR 0-6 all still married to #1 spouse... as the old song goes... It is no secret what God can do...!

2020-02-09T18:00:59-05:00 2020-02-09T18:00:59-05:00 CPL Angelika Guilbe 5540654

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>Finding the right partner is key. She should be strong understanding and willing to hold down the fort no MATTER WHAT!!

2020-02-09T20:26:21-05:00 2020-02-09T20:26:21-05:00 1SG Thomas Roman 5655161

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>jody is a made up person. a good relationship will survive. A poor relationship will fail. Does&#39;t matter if you are Military or Civilian.

2020-03-12T16:45:05-04:00 2020-03-12T16:45:05-04:00 SPC Private RallyPoint Member 5664399

<div class="images-v2-count-0"></div>I had this exact thought growing up. Similar story of not having a strong family too. I joined at 27 after putting it off for years because of those concerns. I missed a huge opportunity. One of my only regrets in life. I&#39;m 34 and been in the national guard for 8.5 years now but wish I&#39;d gone active when i was young! I met my wife 2.5 months before going out to basic and she&#39;s been a rock ever since. I&#39;m a firefighter on the civilian side. I&#39;ve missed birthdays and anniversaries, holidays and school events but she&#39;s held it all together. This hurts to hear but stop looking for your bride and live life. When you find her you&#39;ll find her. It sucks but it&#39;s true. Gotta follow your dreams even if they seem to contradict each other... or you&#39;ll regret it like I do.

2020-03-15T14:41:29-04:00 2020-03-15T14:41:29-04:00 2019-12-19T13:50:21-05:00