How do I stop someone (a veteran) from harassing me?

PFC Pamala (Hall) Foster — Sat, 23 Sep 2017 21:26:57 -0400

Response by MAJ Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 23 at 2017 9:32 PM

MAJ Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 23 Sep 2017 21:32:10 -0400

Well, you can call the local PD and let them know that you want some guidance and possibly file a report. This way, you have it documented if it all continues. Many people wait too long to do anything. At least let them know in a report. First sit down and document everything that has happened. This way you have a good chronological list of everything. They'll either take that sheet as an addition or you can copy it down on an official report addition

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 23 at 2017 10:20 PM

SGT Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 23 Sep 2017 22:20:51 -0400

You can file a restraining order against the person, whic he will be served with which how far he has to be away from you or any person who files, and sets limitations and if he fails to follow, it is automatic jail time and court appearances... as the major said, let the local pd lnow and file a complaint, if it continues, than go that route...

Response by SSG Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 23 at 2017 10:22 PM

SSG Private RallyPoint Member — Sat, 23 Sep 2017 22:22:37 -0400

What does veteran status have to do with anything? Also, you’re not providing a lot of information. What kind of harassment? Is it trolling on the internet, sexual, mental, etc?
Regardless, you have options and most any police officer can let you know what they are.

Response by PFC Pamala (Hall) Foster made Sep 23 at 2017 10:35 PM

PFC Pamala (Hall) Foster — Sat, 23 Sep 2017 22:35:04 -0400

I helped him and now its like he is obsessed with me. I am scared now and so is my fiance`cause the guy refuses to leave me be. Not sure what to do and the guy, my fiance and I are ALL military trained to NEVER QUIT.

Response by PFC Pamala (Hall) Foster made Sep 25 at 2017 1:58 PM

PFC Pamala (Hall) Foster — Mon, 25 Sep 2017 13:58:42 -0400

SitRep: PPO filed for and awaiting decision, Marriage license for James and I is in our hands and informing police at next show of what is going on so I feel safe to perform and be the best I can be. Scared as hell, but love is getting me through.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 25 at 2017 9:52 PM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Mon, 25 Sep 2017 21:52:18 -0400

.45 ACP

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Sep 26 at 2017 1:01 AM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 26 Sep 2017 01:01:05 -0400

You need to ask yourself this right now. Is it harassment? By which I mean is the person trying to joke with you or is it more then that? By your action of asking for advice on Rally Point it's clear that you are uncomfortable with the actions of the other person. Have you informed them that you wish the actions to cease? If after having asked them to cease their actions, have they continued? If that's a yes then you are being harassed.

I would call your local Police Department through their Non-Emergency contact number and speak with an Officer about your situation and ask what they recommend on how you should proceed. This may lead to a Police Report being filed, that's ok don't let that concern you. The situation is now documented and Police are now aware of the situation. This may not stop the situation from continuing so understand that there may not be immediate action against the person involved but by getting it documented early that helps you in the future.

Just like with S1, make sure you have copies of everything involved with this person. If you have letters, audio logs, emails, and even the report you file with the police make sure you have copies if not the originals. If you have witnesses to a negative encounter involving this person, ask that person if they will be a witness in the future and ask them to write everything they remember involving the incident down on paper and have them sign it.

This is important and is sometimes overlooked, if this situation causes you fear reduce the amount of time you will be alone. If you go out, go out with friends and family, if you're home be sure family and friends are there. If you must be alone, and please understand you are not being paranoid or succumbing to fear it's just like any other mission you are being prepared. Obtain a legal firearm and or other non-lethal defense weapons so that you can defend your person and your home. If a firearm is not possible, obtain high quality pepper spray or a stun gun/taser. With the pepper spray do not go cheap, it's inexpensive as it is don't get the cheap stuff.

Now that you have a Police Report filed, which you should have a copy of you're going to have a case number. Any and all future incidents involving this person should reference your previous case numbers. You may be given new case numbers in addition to the original as events may unfold. Keep track of them. You can after the initial Police Report file for a No Contact Order or a Restraining Order against the person. Again be sure to have everything documented, it only assists you in pursuing a No Contact/Restraining Order.

Finally inform your family and friends who may be in the area what you are dealing and if you feel that he would follow you to work let your HR and Security know what's going on and that a report has been filed.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 3 at 2017 8:00 PM

1SG Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 03 Oct 2017 20:00:34 -0400

The .45 ACP answer is an idiot unless this guy puts you in fear of grave danger to you and you fiance. A police action if he is no longer an active military member. If it is a condition where he I a veteran that has base access, the PMO can revoke the involved persons base access. Check with a local police or sheriff and consider a harassing communications report. Also take charge of the situation, tell the person you no longer wish to be in communication with him in any form. Put this in an email and/or text and when done, even if he replies, you do not answer or reply. When you hit see to tell another no more communication desired it has to be no more from you too. If you answer the reply, you violated your request and made it immaterial. I hope this helps

Response by AA Joseph Moody made Oct 9 at 2017 11:51 PM

AA Joseph Moody — Mon, 09 Oct 2017 23:51:34 -0400

Documentation is your friend, documentation in other people's handwriting is your best friend.

Response by SPC Private RallyPoint Member made Oct 10 at 2017 10:28 AM

SPC Private RallyPoint Member — Tue, 10 Oct 2017 10:28:59 -0400

File a complaint against this person

Response by LTC Wayne Dandridge made Jun 10 at 2018 1:25 PM

LTC Wayne Dandridge — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 13:25:58 -0400

One also thing. if this person harassing you (making your workplace a hostile work environment) is a co-worker or works for the same organization (company) you work for, report him immediately to your supervisor and the VP for Human Resources (personnel). If the company does not take action, them go to the department of Labor and EEO and ask them to prosecute him. Best wishes, W. larry Dandridge, Author and Editor with TVV Publishing LLC