How do I get on my fiancé's orders if we are not getting married until after he completes AIT?

2019-04-09T23:31:11-04:00

Okay so i am currently engaged and my fiancé just began basic training and is set to go to ait after. We had planned on getting married the day after he gets back from ait because we were told he could come home for a period of time. If we are married after he gets back from ait, will i be on his orders? i’m worried he’s gonna he sent somewhere that i can’t go with him. i’m so new to all of this and have no clue how it works and i’m very stressed and need help in the worst way. thank you

Response by SGT Shannon Weaver Logan made Apr 9 at 2019 11:49 PM

2019-04-09T23:49:12-04:00

As far as I know from being married to a solider for 13 years. He will have to get his orders amended. You are not going to be add to them until after your married. My advice as soon as your married take your certificate to his command and shoe Them your married so thr paperwork can get started. He may have to go ahead of you and then you join him. But also remember they don't have to put you at the same post. I believe it's 50 miles of each other. If you need more help let me know.

Response by Sgt Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 9 at 2019 11:52 PM

2019-04-09T23:52:25-04:00

Courtney Philpot SFC Jason Boyd will be able to answer your question. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.

Response by CSM Darieus ZaGara made Apr 10 at 2019 5:49 AM

2019-04-10T05:49:31-04:00

You will not be on the orders and you will not be added until after he gets to his first assignment. Once there he will have to fill out some paperwork to have you added, it will then be a matter of time before he is provided command sponsorship which allows you to move to the duty station with him. It will be done, just make sure he has sertcified copies of your wedding certificate, and birth certificates. Good luck.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 10 at 2019 8:55 AM

2019-04-10T08:55:19-04:00

Unfortunately you won’t be able to be added to your spouse orders. If he is in AIT, once he departs that installation they will not be able to amend his orders. Once you get married, you will have to accompany him to get added into DEERS, so hopefully you’re in a location close to a Military base. You will need to have your Social Security card(original not copy), your birthday certificate(original not copy) and a driver’s license or state issued ID card for the enrollment into DEERS and to be issued your ID card.

If he receives an assignment stateside the process will be easier to get you to where he is, you’ll just have to wait until he submit his paperwork to his Battalion S1 to initiate the start of his BAH & BAS entitlements, so hopefully he’s been saving because once the paperwork is submitted he’ll have to move out of the barracks. He’ll be able to sign up for on post housing which you will be able to save you some money since you’ll just be starting out.

If his assignment is overseas, he still has to submit the paperwork for through his Battalion S1 for his BAH, but he’ll also have to do paperwork to request command sponsorship. You would need to get a physical and get the a DA Form 5118 completed so you can get cleared medically to accompany him overseas. This process can take 90-120days before you receive orders to accompany him. I know this is a lot to take in at one time but just wanted to lay it out for you to help you get an understanding of the process. I hope this helps. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.

Response by SGT Private RallyPoint Member made Apr 28 at 2019 10:26 PM

2019-04-28T22:26:27-04:00

Hey Courtney,
I understand your frustration with the way the system works, and wish I had better answers for you, but you will not have all the answers you need until you and the SM are legally married, and said SM has his first duty station locked in. If your soon to be husband is stationed at a location like South Korea for a 1 year unaccompanied tour, you might be better letting him serve his time their, and then get his command sponsorship set for his second duty station. If he is stationed somewhere such as anywhere state side, Germany, Hawaii, or Alaska, he will just need all the documents to enroll you into DEERs when he arrives (birth certificate, marriage certificate, exc.), apply for an amendment to orders with S1 and Family Travel, and request command sponsorship be approved with his chain of command. S1 can walk him through this process. After everything is accepted, they will start the process to ship house hold goods, a vehicle, and you to his location. Experience can very depending on location. To answer your question though, you will not be on his original orders though as he has no legal ties to you until the marriage is official. Best of luck and continue to ask questions here if you are still confused on any part of this matter.