How can I get a conditional release signed by the TAG of my state without having to hand it to my unit?

2017-03-14T16:11:03-04:00

My girlfriend just found out she's pregnant. And I know it's mine. So, I'm gonna ask her to marry me, and get her into my DEERS. But, now I need a big boy job and take care of her and our future kid. How can I get my conditional release signed by the TAG of my state without having to hand it to my unit since they're really bad with paperwork. If I have to drive all over my state. I will. Pls help.

Response by MSG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 14 at 2017 4:17 PM

2017-03-14T16:17:55-04:00

You won't be able to process it without going through your unit. These things have steps. And step 1 is having your commander sign their approval/denial. If they are bad with papers as you say, then literally hand carry everything to everyone that needs to sign. Again, you will NOT be able to bypass your CoC.

Response by SFC Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 15 at 2017 11:39 AM

2017-03-15T11:39:23-04:00

Gotta use your chain of command

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 15 at 2017 2:40 PM

2017-03-15T14:40:48-04:00

First off congratulations on being a father. Getting married just because she is pregnant is a bad idea. So make sure that she is the one before you decide to marry her. I've seen far too many young Soldier's get married because they think they have to and it ends badly. As far as benefits are concerned if you aren't married it does create problems because the military won't recognize the child until its born. Then you would be eligible for dependent benefits. But anyways as far as the conditional release you have to go through the chain of command for their recommendations. And its not a quick process. It has to go up to the General level for approval. If you try and bypass any level it could also end up badly for you. Just remember the Army isn't a holy crap I need a job so I'll join career. If you want to serve on Active Duty then great I applaud but don't do it just because you think you are stuck and have to get married and will have a child to support.

Response by 1SG Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 22 at 2017 2:48 AM

2017-03-22T02:48:17-04:00

Congratulations on being a father! One of the most rewarding responsibilities a man can have. I'm not sure of your current situation but as far as getting a "big boy job" you should have been doing that already as a M-day soldier. That has me confused as to why you need a conditional release, isn't your drill schedule base off 1 weekend a month and 2 weeks a year? There are usually a lot of options for civilian employment in the way of job fairs that are pro military. Your state website should also have a statewide vacancy listing if you change your mind and do this in a full time capacity as a technician or AGR. I Think everyone here myself included will tell you that you can't bypass your CO on the conditional release. Best of luck in all that you decide to do.

Response by SGT Tom Middleton made Mar 24 at 2017 10:16 PM

2017-03-24T22:16:50-04:00

Congratulations on becoming a father! Kudos also for stepping up and being responsible. If you and the young lady truly love one another, are willing to make sacrifices for one another, and are genuinely compatible, then marriage may be right... but without commitment, compromise, communication and most importantly, love... it could turn out badly. You might want to have a good long talk with a trusted Pastor, a wise old relatives or some other Counselor who can help you learn how to make this work. Many Churches provide per-marital counseling at no cost. It takes a lot to make a marriage work, and you are starting out under stress, but you do have a sense of duty and honor. That's a great start.

Response by SPC(P) Private RallyPoint Member made Mar 25 at 2017 1:59 AM

2017-03-25T01:59:30-04:00

I just want to say thank you all for your words of wisdom, and inspiration. I have turned in my packet for Active Duty to my CoC. I call every Friday to get updates on it, I personally don't care if they think I am annoying, lol. But thankfully I also found an ADOS position in a different state, and I took it. Since I will still be attached to my home unit, just working for another one, they will let me know when my packet is ready to be submitted to an active duty recruiter with all the right signatures!