Does anyone have an idea how I would be able to find my father, I have very little information to go on and have no clue where to start.

2016-02-17T13:28:01-05:00

My mother joined the military and an 88M and went to basic at Fort Dix, New Jersey in 1985. From the information I gathered she spent some time in Fort Benning prior to her first duty station In Bad Kreuznach, Germany where I was born in March of 1896. He is not on my birth certificate but according to my uncle, he and my mom were best friends at the time (i assume) and he was also in the military. I believe his name to be Todd hedges but I cannot be sure. My mother would not discuss any information about him to me and would get angry when I brought it up as a child. However my mother has been dead now for 8 years and I have children of my own and would like to know more about my story any help would be much appreciated thank you

Response by SSG Audwin Scott made Feb 17 at 2016 1:30 PM

2016-02-17T13:30:33-05:00

I actually found my biological father in March of 2014. I had to ask my mother some uncomfortable question of whom might my father be. She had his name and phone number. I called him and we arranged to meet in Jacksonville, FL to do a DNA swab. That was on a Saturday. That Wednesday they called me and told me that 99.9% this was my father.

Response by PO2 Arthur Delsing made Feb 17 at 2016 1:31 PM

2016-02-17T13:31:20-05:00

I have never been in the situation so my suggestion may be pie in the sky. I would start with finding fellow military members that served with you Mom, even going as far back as basic, If you start talking with them they may be able to help connect you with him. Good luck!

Response by SSG Audwin Scott made Feb 17 at 2016 1:34 PM

2016-02-17T13:34:48-05:00

SSG Amaral,
You are going to have to ask your mom some questions that are not going to be very comfortable like who she was with and have an idea of whom she was with when she got pregnant with you. She knows.

Response by SSG Audwin Scott made Feb 17 at 2016 1:42 PM

2016-02-17T13:42:08-05:00

I am also an 88m and I joined the Army in 1986 of November, I went through Ft. Dix in early 87. I wish I could honestly help you brother.

Response by SSgt Jamie Ritter LeBlanc made Feb 17 at 2016 2:17 PM

2016-02-17T14:17:50-05:00

Have you tried DNA tests? Ancestry and 23andMe are two good ones. I have found a 2nd and 3rd cousin on them and through other DNA cousins.